To tell or not to tell?

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I do it anymore I'm proud of who I am and im not gonna let anyone bring me down cuz of it

I try to tell the closest family, but I feel that they will not believe me because I am not diagnosed. But I think that if I get a diagnose or not, the problems are still real and should be taken seriosly. I moved away from my family and home town because we don't get along. But now that I know about AS, I feel like explaining it would help, and also for the first time, I know that there is others with similar problems. So I really want to tell, and I know that I hope evrything will be at least a little better, but my mother didn't take it well. She said that whatever problems I have it's not because of that (AS). Makes me really angry, since my son has a lot of autistic traits. And we are very alike, me and him. So I feel that was a big insult. Now I don't feel like talking about it until I get a diagnose.. I just thought it might be a bit helpful for them to know, since we have so much communication problems...

Don't Ask, Don't Tell
That policy must work for something.
I have taken a lot of crap for telling, mostly immature guys saying "asperger, sounds like ass-burger"
or something equally lame

I thought that way, too. When I finally discussed my suspicions with my mother I expected her to deny everything. Instead she commented that she has always had the same problems I described, but she just assumed it was because of her rural upbringing back in the 40's and 50's.

I told two friends, they are a couple, because I was stressed and starting to get into repetative movements and such and wanted to explain why and she understood because here brother is autistic. I told another friend when she brought up another friend of hers who has AS

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Posted: Thu Mar 10, 2005 12:44 pm    
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I have a difficult time with this...I feel
like I need people to know all the bad
things about me, all the problems I have,
all the things in my past or else I am
lying to them(obviously, I know I am
not lying, but it still feels like it) As I
have contact with a fair amount of people
through church and my mother's and sister's
friends, (not like I actually have any friends
myself!! ) this would be rather difficult to
achieve. my Mom says it's best not to tell
people, so I don't but I sometimes have this
urge to go up to people and say "hi, I have
Asperger's syndrome" just so they know.
is anyone else like this? It doesn't matter
if said person is my pastor or just behind
me in line at the store..I want people to
know!! But I don't tell anyone outside the family.

PS-Chadmaster, I like your signature, too!
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Something a transgender person at my
Frontdesk job said strikes a good chord
here. I explain to her that I am autistic
and she said "I thought there was some
wiring missing" and you definely lack
empathy. "I like you anyways", and
we continue a discussion on other things.

Then later she said, "We all have problems,
what 's the issue"? Hmm? Using this
point of view and my explanations of
autism to a few controlled dialogue's(people
I trust) I have come to the conclusion
the telling it to others is not as important
as the awareness of how you use this
knowledge.

Mind You, I am a firm supporter of support
groups and their affectiveness, too bad
San Francisco is not that place to find one.
WWW.WrongPlanet.Net is very good as one,
just too bad I can't say what I would like
face to face, but oh Well!

I hope this gives some insight.

it really depends onthe situation and the person.

I told my classmates in a speech that I had to write. My parents pressured/coerced me into coming out to my entire eighth grade class. (threw me out of the closet.) For about two weeks, my classmates were oblivious to me, then after that, they went back to treating me like a strange kid.

I'd tell them because if they truly are your friend, they'll stick by you no matter what.

Not necessarily.

use good judgement