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27 Sep 2009, 2:12 pm

^ Hence the post above yours. I should've been more clear still. I didn't mean looking right at the eyes, but the face in general and mostly around the eyes. Just let the other person know you're paying attention.

I could see how saying "you look the whole time" could be taken, when the thread is about eye contact.



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27 Sep 2009, 2:35 pm

ah, i didnt see the post above me. yeah, i think everyone took it a bit literally. :P



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29 Sep 2009, 4:07 am

I think I have finally learned some secrets about perfect eye contact. Take notes!

If you are talking then you do not have to make much eye contact at all but when you are finished and expect a response you must glance back at them. This is the cue for "its your turn". If they are talking then you must look at them at least 3/4ths of the time, although I only do about 1/2 the time.

It is also very customary to give around 1 seconds glance in many situations. Such as passing someone in the street. Or maybe noticing an attractive person in the room your in or something. After this exchange if they want to get to know you better they will look back again. This means come talk to me.

Hope this helps



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29 Sep 2009, 12:31 pm

122112 wrote:
I think I have finally learned some secrets about perfect eye contact. Take notes!

If you are talking then you do not have to make much eye contact at all but when you are finished and expect a response you must glance back at them. This is the cue for "its your turn". If they are talking then you must look at them at least 3/4ths of the time, although I only do about 1/2 the time.

It is also very customary to give around 1 seconds glance in many situations. Such as passing someone in the street. Or maybe noticing an attractive person in the room your in or something. After this exchange if they want to get to know you better they will look back again. This means come talk to me.

Hope this helps


That's basically what I've read, the part about eye contact while speaking back and forth in conversations plus making one second eye contact glances while in public. Although with the "one second" glances, I read in addition to the looking back at you again part, if instead of looking at you and away to the side quickly they hold their eye contact longer than usual then it might be appropriate to say "hi". If instead of a woman looking away and to the side when a man looks at her, but rather she looks down in a more submissive way, she might feel some attraction.



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29 Sep 2009, 12:45 pm

NicksQuestions wrote:
If instead of a woman looking away and to the side when a man looks at her, but rather she looks down in a more submissive way, she might feel some attraction.


yeah, that's true! unless your really creeping her out.



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29 Sep 2009, 6:16 pm

122112 wrote:
I think I have finally learned some secrets about perfect eye contact. Take notes!

If you are talking then you do not have to make much eye contact at all but when you are finished and expect a response you must glance back at them. This is the cue for "its your turn". If they are talking then you must look at them at least 3/4ths of the time, although I only do about 1/2 the time.

It is also very customary to give around 1 seconds glance in many situations. Such as passing someone in the street. Or maybe noticing an attractive person in the room your in or something. After this exchange if they want to get to know you better they will look back again. This means come talk to me.

Hope this helps

Sounds good, I will try. Thank You

Spazzergasm wrote:

yeah, that's true! unless your really creeping her out.

Yes I expect most of the time if people look away it is not because they feel attraction but because they are scared.