Going to pubs, clubs, bars etc. alone?

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I went clubbing on my own only twice, when I was 18 and had first gone to University away from home. At the time I didn't know many people on campus, so I just went to get to know some people. Wasn't very successful, and I left that uni later in the year because the people weren't 'me'.

Nowadays I would never go alone, it wouldn't be half as fun and I would be thinking about being on my own. After a quite a few drinks I can chat to strangers, but I wouldn't see the point.

I always go with about 2-5 friends in a group, we go to more specialist nights usually house, trance, or drum n bass. Had a wicked night out 2 weeks ago with some friends at Tranz-mission, Alexandra Palace, North London. 10,000 happy ravers living it large!.

Going to these places alone is no fun.

I'll tell you what I do. My wife and family are 160 miles away in NJ, I work in Woodbridge snd have a furnished room with 3 roomies I don't particularly care about. I have taken the Metro to DC to the theater, have gone twice to a Community Theater presentation where I practice my small talk during the intermission, and at the last one had the opportunity to chat up one of the performers who came into the audience after the show.

Every Friday and most Sundays I battle traffic for the better part of an hour to get to Glen Echo to a dance. No booze. Just great music and lots of good looking women. I'm 74, so they're all young women to me. I have developed enough skill that a hot 30 year old finds me fun to dance with, although I usually seek out ones somewhat older. I get a lot of excercise, a lot of good physical contact with the opposite sex, a lot of small talk between dances. I go home alone greatly energized.

I feel sorry for women who go to bars looking for "Mr Right". There's mostly losers there. Guys have a similar situation

wow this thread has put a few ideas in my head. ive often fantasised about going to one of these places alone but never have. i once went to a gig alone and even though i was drunk i still stood out. i noticed emo kids smiling at me sympathetically and everything... complete nightmare. so far ive stumbled in to clubs 3 times. twice when i met up with net friends and once when i as invited along by a local aquaintance. the first couple of times it was really crap. i wondered why i had to pay so much money to listen to records i already had at home and one of the times i fell over and made a complete tit of myself. the third time i actually quite enjoyed myself because my aquaintances friend was a real comedian and was doing all this hilarious dancing and it was just funny. even though they all ended up thinking i was weird

Jetson says:

As a general rule, I've always found that people think a single guy in a straight bar is creepy, whereas a single guy in a gay bar is a fairly hot target.

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Well my tormentors at school constantly told me I'm physically "ugly" I don't know when I look in the mirror I see a average looking bloke.

Even more confusing I went to a gay bar (alone) last night and I had a younger sexy gay man try to come on to me , and a 65 year old man (regular their) he really really laid it on. I told him dude that's nice though I'm freaking 33 and I still don't know if I'm bi,asexual, straight or gay, he told me why don't you come to my place and find out. Quite funny actually these gay guys are building up my confidence! (when /if I ever work out what I am)

Gay bars are cool they play good music and their are usually no meat head knuckle draggers their.

It's rather amusing since I was 1/2 pissed I told said gay guys "everything" eg my Mom lives with me in the home that I own and she has the big bed room (just like Seymour Skinner on the Simpson's) gay guys said it was "cute" and nice that I look after her, same situation with NT"s at a office party constantly tormented asked if I * my Mom, well I wish I could go back and say I love to * Mothers that's why I * yours!

I think I need to make friends with gay people their rather amusing.

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I used to and still do now and then, but at least now I have a few friends to go out with. Sometimes I could get into it and forget about the fact I was alone, especially if I hit it off with people I met, but other times I just felt I stood out. I also get bored quite quickly and after an hour or two on the dancefloor I just get bored and/or tired. It can be good exercise and a way of letting off some steam/stress though.

I think even though I didn't have anybody to go out with I wanted to be where the action was, not stuck at home on a Saturday night, so I just thought 'what the hell!.' Still haven't been successful with the ladies but I think if I go enough (I actually only go once a month on average) it might work out.

I do have some friends but I often go places by myself. I like to go to the city centre to do some shopping on my own, because I feel completely free an unrestrained and I don't have to follow some friend round going into the shops they want to go in and having to concentrate on listening to them when I can't always tell what they're on about. On my own I go in my shops, buy what I want, stay for as long and as little as I want, it's the perfect scenario. I do enjoy my friends' companies aswell of course, it's just I do like to go out alone aswell.
I would consider going clubbing on my own, it sounds fun, I can dance to the music and feel free to do as I wish.

I've actually thought about going to a few clubs on my own though I have not done so yet so this is a very informative topic.

I had a friend who loves going to clubs, and she invited me to go with her twice. Once she said that we need to go partying together so let's go, and then she wanted me to come along with her to a traffic-light party. I declined both times, but I want to feel the scene and thought I'd meet people there. This is a complete eye-opener to say the least. To those who said they went alone, how many other people went alone? If you are new to a city where you don't know anyone and you want to meet people, clubbing would be a great way to do it. Why would people think that if you show up alone you are creepy? I think it depends on the personality traits rather than someone just showing up by themselves.

The thing that would bother me is people showing off too much skin. I am rather queasy of that, and I know that would make me feel uncomfortable.

I think since there are so many people there people don't really care all that much, or don't even notice who's alone or not. It's your attitude that gives you away. If you're the really extroverted type, then you can go out alone and be the life of the party. Sure the majority don't go alone, but more than you think do (at least here).

Especially tourists. If you're travelling alone, you'll often go everywhere by yourself, and perfectly normal singles would go out alone. The problem with that, of course, is most of them are from out of town so that makes dating a little complicated (but you never know).

I think if you go out with your friend first you might get a little more comfortable doing it and find you enjoy it. I think it's generally more fun going with others but there are actually some advantages to going solo (if it's safe enough) like getting out of your comfort zone and talking to more strangers. I think it's fine if you can't stand it, but if you're not sure don't knock it til you've tried it. I'm not saying it's even anything that great most of the time, but it's better than always sitting at home or something.

guys i used 2 be scared to go out on my own but ive overcome that and i changed my appearence and all lol i am doing a blog 2moro to prove to u how much ive changed through my years lol,when i used 2 care if people were gonna start i wud get very paronoid n all n aggressive,Ive learnt ways of overcoming this so i changed from a quiet person who didnt talk 2 anyone to the most confident person in the world but dont do this because it might bkfire and once u change ur personality beware of the consequences of how people react towards you,

Tip One= Shave all your hair off but make sure youve got the hard look to make ur image
Tip two = get sum tatoos done when i changed my personality and the person i was i had big dragons goin down both
MY arms they are a symbol to me they mean i am fiery cos im aries i can be calm but dont get on the wrong side of me
or i will rip u apart thats my motto for those tatoos,i also have Two long Silver necklaces, which dangle lol basically both of
my arms are covered in tatoos dragons goin down both arms,Try and think of urself as sum tony montanna and you dont
give a f**k my videos will teach you how to change into the new person who doesnt smell no fear but goin with this image
u got to watch urself if it dont suit u u will get people starting fights with u n all so be careful uve got the attitude to stand up
for urself,with me I talk like a londoner ive got that gangsta attitude and i get told i walk and talk like a gangsta my laugh,my look
my cheekyness and my madness,im bascially nuts lol, i went out other nite dressed up in my smart suit sunglasses and beenie
i looked proper gangster,i dont get no problems off hardly anyone ive learnt if i wanna scare people i can easily do it it isnt done
with violence,Just think of urself as tony montanna as i sed ur the richest guy in the world u have all the drugs and women and money
that the world cud offer u have no fears no worries ur drugs sort ur problems out when u go for a nite out or to a rave,u talk to people
but if they take da piss u use an attitude with them,as i sed u got to ave the image to become dis person,i love the person i am im fookin nuts,i love to dance i will dance in a pub at 2pm in da afternoon off my tits and not give a f**k haha but dats me,i ave total confidence most of the time like,drugs help me socialise and they bring on my hard man approach,i love being bonkers,its a gift cos u feel u can do anything u want and u dont care if people take the piss out of u,MDMA does dat in itself its the nicest feeling u will ever experience u feel like ur the god of the world,
if u belive someone is looking at u think of the situation before u react take urself away from the situation wat i tend to do is laugh quite loud like a psychotic laugh then they dont f**k with you cos they know its always worked for me but alot of people are wary of me not cos im a nasty guy cos of the way i look i get called thug gangster drug dealer all of it cos of my attitude to the world but i help out anyone i can im a nice guy,but wen u take on dis new personality u become all of those 3 in one go and u gotta watch what u do carefully,

I'm not a bar/club fan. I might go to a bar if they have good food but that's about the only reason. I just find them boring because there is nothing to do at them that I find interesting. That doesn't change whether I'm by myself or not so I just don't go.

Around the time when i was 20-ish, i used to go out now and then. Sometimes with friends and sometimes alone.

It always resulted in the same thing: I always came home alone. That's why i stopped going out.