How do you deal with feeling painfully alone?

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For me I think I am not meant for this world. Because when I am with people like at a bar I feel like everything I am saying is a complete stereotype of what I am supposed to be saying. Like every reaction I have is trying to create some vibe or atmosphere around me that seems normal, cool. But its a complete fake and the truth is I feel very little on the inside.

However when I am alone then I feel like s**t as well. So I can either fake it or be alone. Or feel like a complete loser and hang out at my parents house which sucks just about as bad. Or I could focus on becoming an auto mechanic. Or I could try to get laid.

But the point is I really don't care about any of it enough to try. I'm just a shell of a person trying to fake the motions.

I've been laid, I've lived on my own. I have friends.

But its to hard to keep it going.

I always feel lonely and have been for many years since I don't know when. I don't think there is always an easy way but there methods that have helped me cope.

- Communicating via internet like on this forum.

- My cats. As strange as that sounds they do help fill in the void.

- Go to my group therapy.

- Journalize

- Paint

- Listen to music

- Play the piano


I think anything that revolves around creativity is the most healthy outlet in compensating for unresolved emotions such as social isolation.

I invent characters whom I can relate to and write short stories about them, research my interests on the Internet, read a novel or I wallow in my sorrows and feel incredibly sorry for myself. Most of the time I pick the last option.

i have never been alone because i am always in my company.

there is no place i have ever been where i did not accompany myself, and i thank myself for being there at every instance of my adventure through life.

I sometimes feel alone due to my dad lavishing attention on his new other half and her devil child 24/7. Sometimes i feel i don't have anyone to talk to, so when i feel lonely, i...

Communicate via internet on my laptop

Listen to music

Read

Go for long walks with my dog Louie


Other than that, i don't really do much.

My first choice was always to go out to the garage and work on something, or ride something. working with my hands helps me focus on that and helps me forget about other things. now i live in an apartment complex and about the only thing i can do is drink, and its not very helpful. A good, in depth, extremely time consuming and complex hobby is the key i think.

Saying I like being alone. You know, typing it out, this is pretty pathetic. I tell myself I like it, but now I am admitting to hating it? Must be the reason I am trying to hard to talk to a girl at school that I haven't really talked to in about... 16 years?

Anywho, I deal with it by using hope. It's all I've got. 2 dogs help, but only for so long before I get too tired from playing with them, heh.

I used to just go fish a golf course lake for bass by myself allot when i was feeling bored and lonely, I should start doing that again.

Simply and basically I don't deal with it.

It's basically one of the things that keep me functioning at a lower level and depressed all the time.

I am not dealing with it very well at this exact moment-people just do not want to associate with me and I just cant figure out why nor will anyone tell me why. It is obvious I cannot read minds and whats worse when you cant read the mind of fellow aspies-thats very difficult to say the least.

I feel alone a lot. I cope by spending a lot of time on computer listening to music. I find talking, ranting & complaining about it on forums like this & Yahoo messenger helps but I tend to annoy people sometimes

Usually reading books such as the Bible and Aspergers, playing music and taking a walk outside are the things that help me in certain times when loneliness has caught up to me. Drawling can also be a very good way to deal with that loneliness.

I've been going through that for years. I just try to keep myself busy w/ activities & hobbies so that I don't have time to stop & think about it. When I do, I get depressed.

Improving social skills can be done but for a guy like me it's just better to give up.

P.S. I've been alone so long that I've gotten pretty use to it.

Meditate, pray, hobbies, stim. Try to remember how difficult the complexities of a relationship are and be glad I am not dealing with them. Just imagine yourself in a complicated relationship with an NT or someone difficult to understand and you will be glad that you arent there either?

i have never been painfully alone.

the only circumstance where i can imagine that is if i fell down a cliff by myself and i was waiting for ambulance to arrive.

in all other circumstances where i feel alone, i make sure that it is not interrupted by visitors.