A person that goes to a public place alone is creepy

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Tiggurix
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22 Dec 2010, 6:44 pm

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The place I will not go however, is I live next to a woods, though I love nature and like to see the Bluebells in spring, unless you are with somebody or are taking your dog fro a walk, a single man walking through the woods is viewed as a potential rapist or bumer, ( somebody who likes to get to know young boys in unappropriate ways in the woods).
I went for a walk there alone just once, the looks I got from people made me feel very uncomfortable.


I find this rather hilarious. I often go for a walk alone on the sylvan paths around here now and then, and pretty much everyone else do so too. Most of the time I don't meet anyone else, and when I do, we rarely as much as look at eachother, and just keep walking and/or jogging.



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22 Dec 2010, 7:30 pm

Tiggurix wrote:
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The place I will not go however, is I live next to a woods, though I love nature and like to see the Bluebells in spring, unless you are with somebody or are taking your dog fro a walk, a single man walking through the woods is viewed as a potential rapist or bumer, ( somebody who likes to get to know young boys in unappropriate ways in the woods).
I went for a walk there alone just once, the looks I got from people made me feel very uncomfortable.


I find this rather hilarious. I often go for a walk alone on the sylvan paths around here now and then, and pretty much everyone else do so too. Most of the time I don't meet anyone else, and when I do, we rarely as much as look at eachother, and just keep walking and/or jogging.


Norways a big country with some towns in it,
Englands a big town with some country in it, you only go there if you are on some social mission or are a farmer, or your a bummer.
Englands very proud of its pedophile problem, one dar'nt submit to nostalga and stand outside your old childhood school remenesing, the thought such an innocent desire could move anyone is outside the comprehension of English Mothers, they delight in assuming you could only be there to watch the school children and would be straight onto the Police who would arrest you.

If you saw a young girl lying in the road and a bus speeding towards her, you would have to be a very brave man to face the accusations of molestation you would get if you picked the child up to move her to safefy.

This has become one very mentally sick country.



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22 Dec 2010, 8:51 pm

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This has become one very mentally sick country.


I'm very sorry to hear that.

You could always move up here. The weather's pleasant, and the people too, usually. The land is beautiful, and so are the women. And we're always looking for a larger workforce. ;)



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22 Dec 2010, 9:08 pm

I've gone to a couple of public places alone such as the mall and park alone, i just ignore people if they see me as a "loner". Then again its normal for me because i don't socialize often.


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22 Dec 2010, 10:00 pm

I'm a 19 year old male that.... is a loner (I prefer being alone anyway), just wish I wasn't alone all the time. Anyway, I go to public places alone, usually somewhere to eat, going for a walk or the cinema (only went once on my own, I loved it). Also, I converse with myself, so I'm not alone (or am I?). Either way, there's nothing wrong with it, and knowing that I'm not actually a creep, I don't want to be seen as one. It only seems to be college people dissing me anyway, I think.



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23 Dec 2010, 10:54 am

Well, first of all, I'm a woman so I suppose the rules are a little different for me - particularly in family-type areas. I actively avoid kid-heavy places, though. I don't like the noise and running around that the little ones do.

I go out alone all. the. time. I work away from where I live, on a week-on week-off basis, so I don't have many friends at home because of my odd schedule. The ones I do have are, because of their careers, etc, often busy or away also. If I didn't go out and do things alone, I would spend entire weeks in my apartment. I go to movies, run errands, sometimes just wander for a walk, go to restaurants and sometimes even bars with my book. The latter does sometimes cause consternation amongst other bar patrons... they don't seem to understand a person wanting to sit quietly by themselves with other people around, but not interacting with them. Perhaps it is odd, considering bars are pretty social places. I don't know.

I travel alone almost all the time. In fact... I have only done a handful of short trips with friends or my brother. I have done road trips and flown all around the world and gone hiking or snorkelling or just wandering in foreign places by myself. Most people actually seem to admire this; apart from a few aghast exclamations of "But aren't you scared?!?" the reactions are generally positive and supportive.

I think the most important thing, with respect to other people's reactions and judgements on it, is to try to project a confident and positive attitude. Just take pleasure in whatever it is you're doing, and don't think about the fact that you're by yourself. Be polite to anyone who approaches you, smile, and explain that you're just enjoying some time alone. Let them read whatever they want into it. :)



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26 Dec 2010, 12:44 am

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I just ignore the people that think that way, because I know most of them are not smart enough to comprehend that some of us just like to be alone and enjoy ourselves.

This. The dislike of those who prefer to be alone (not just aspies, but introverts in general,) is one of the most odious parts of NT culture.

This. The social people defines what is found to be unacceptable since they dominant society.