The whole "Family Thing" is a joke to me.

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I enjoy spending time with and talking to my mother and grandmother, and thankfully they are the only real members of my family I have to interact with most of the time. The rest of my family are usually idiots that I just avoid, except for the holidays when it's impossible to.

I am very grateful to my parents for what they've done for me. They fought a school system that was hell bent on forcing me to conform to their stereotypes. (I.E. kids with syndromes are not supposed to be smart, go to college, etc.) There have been times when they were the only ones who would stand up for me.

The best thing about my family is that they: NEVER TRIED TO CHANGE ME. I am what I am.

Truthfully, it's only my brother and his wife I can't stand. Her and my mother don't get along. They make nice. My sister in law wouldn't even let my bro. celebrate his 30th with our family. Most visits, I have to watch every word I say. My brother puts up with this. There's usually a lot of stress involved and it's just not worth it.

I'm sorry some of you had horrible family lives. It's clear that your families didn't get support and had many issues. Things always turn around.

even when i was a kid i didn't want to be in a family. i just thought being in a family was stupid because it seemed like everyone had a role to play, and i didn't want to play.

I was down in California with my Family, when I was 19, back in 1994. Around the time that I was really beginning to worship "Red Glory". We were visiting some friends, and my Sister and I were playing with the Neighbourhood Kids, who would play with their Daughter. Members of all three Families were talking to one another, one afternoon and the Father of the two boys listened to me speaking, than he looked at the Union Flag T-Shirt that I was wearing, which had England printed on top of the Union Flag, and he asked, "Are you from Canada, as well?" I was thrilled that I've stuck out from the rest of my Family, to that big of an extreame. I was proud of my Accent, "Red Glory", and the Union Flag until I've closed my Eyes, that night.

<-----------This is "Red Glory"

Well, in the case of my parents, they told me they hated me and wished I had never been born. so when it comes to expectations of family, I don't set the bar real high.

My mom is a good example of an "ugly NT". Every time she sees a badly behaved child she says, "I think that kid is on the spectrum” In general they make it clear that they hate me. I know I'm a lot to deal with but my sympathy for them is limited. Having kids is always a crapshoot. It's not my fault I was born, nor is it my fault I turned out to be a dud. I feel like they’d prefer anything to me, a kid with an expensive fatal birth defect, a sociopath.

I don't think families can ever be perfect because you don't pick them, and also you're all shut together in one house for so many years, something is bound to come up. A "cute" thing becomes a horrid annoyance eventually.

I'd rather live on my own, but it is kind of nice to know there's always a safety net behind me. As long as I can choose when to resort to it.

I have often felt I haven't had such a warm bond with my family as I ought to, according to what I've understood of the normal world.
It's not that I don't love them, but more of a serious case of taking them for granted.
It has not become better because of the constant friction over the years and their constant joking about me.
But since I got my diagnose, it has gotten better and I tink that they understand what they're dealing with more now and have patience with my quirks.
I am also trying to patch things up as much as possible, being open about my feelings.
Like, I really love my mom, when it comes down to it, beyond the yelling and complaining, I love her and I give her a hug to show it every chance I get.
My dad, I'm really proud of him. He doesn't really understand me as much as mom does, but at least he's warming up to the idea and have said that he himself have had similar difficulties. He have also developed his own company from literally two empty hands to a respectable business.
My brother, although a bit annoying, pretentious and excentric at times, is still my brother, and there's always that special bond where you can almost read each others minds, and connect in a very intimate way that you can't with anyone else. I love him too.

I'd like to win the Lottery and enjoy a taste of Freedom.

It seems that I'm one of the few aspies here that has an awesome family life. My parents really don't care about my AS, and they actually treat like a human, unlike other NTs who know I have AS who treat me as if I'm sub-human. My parents are generally always friendly, unless, of course, they're angry, and even then they're not all that bad. They've given me an excellent education, so I have no reason to dislike them.

My family can be annoying as hell sometimes, but, on occasion, they're okay. My mom's really over-protective of me, and some of the things she tells me is warped, but eh, oh well. My dad is really apathetic; he only gets involved with something that has to do with my sister or with me whenever it's fun. Otherwise, he watches tv or takes a nap. That's alright, I guess; having one over-protective parent is bad enough. I think my dad has AS, though; it seems to run in the family. My sister's really whacked out, too. She's smart, though, but she's pretty trippy. My mom has learning disabilities; she's dyslexic, and has some degree of brain damage. All in all, it's a very crazy picture. My sister is more on the AS side than on the learning disabled side, so my dad, my sister, and I will make up weird jokes or have some weird conversation, and my mom just sits there like she's not in the conversation, because she's an NT, and she doesn't get that stuff.

My attitude towards my Family has changed a lot, since my sister's Wedding. I feel that I'm more ready to be a part of the family. I'm looking forward to the big Holiday Dinners, where everybody comes over. I'm also looking forward to picking out presents for my Brother in Law.

I've found out that my family isn't the family I thought they were. It took me a while, but after my daughter was abducted, I found out how much my parents and the rest of my family were truly like. It often takes an extreme situation to see what kind of family one truly has. The same can be said for friends.

my family sucks, my parents more or less just leave me alone everyday and i never go out or anything. what a crappy way to live.