Hope you can help me understand my friend....

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Screw up your courage, put your best foot forward, and you may both discover fresh wellsprings of enthusiasm!

Hi again. AaronAgassi, when you said'you love a man', you are so right.
I love him so much it hurts,and Im no teenager I assure you!
And Im not free, and in a way, neither is he.
And there is an age gap.
But, I connect with this person so well, it is like lightbulbs flashing everywhere, I get you, I get you!
Really, you are the only person that knows this, people know we're close etc, but I love the guy.
Im not sure if he feels the same way, but I wouldn't want to mess up his life or his head, he can do that for himself!
Sorry for using you as a confidante and soundboard but I had to get it off my chest.

And by the way, all you guys out there who feel you have little to offer a woman, dont you believe it!
While I wouldnt want to stereotype, it seems that guys on the aspie spectrum have so mant attractive and beautiful qualities.
They can be so calming and focussed, they are playful and childlike at times, and the times they are, are all the more precious because you know it is genuine, not just to get your attention or whatever.
Thanks for listening.

If you never seduce him, who ever will? What, exactly, would you have him save himself for?

For someone who is younger, freeer, has no baggage and can give him the future he deserves.
It is complicated, and the guy doesnt need all that.
I truly care for him and I will always be his friend.
Thanks for listening Aaron and co.

Maybe he has a phobia of talking on the phone? If so lessen the amount of phone comm. Y.W.

Hi again everyone.
Well Im not sure if he has said yes or even if I have asked the question!
I think it is more of an intellectual connection we share, and there is a lot of emotional support, mainly coming from my direction, but thats fine.
I treasure the occasions he comes to me of his own accord, they seem so much more meaningful than the usual social chit chat if you understand me.
However I dont see the physical side of things being an issue, I do find him attractive, but I feel if I 'seduced' him, that would be wrong on many counts.
I value our friendship so much.

He can't answer until you ask. And I wonder if he emotionally compartmentalizes as you do, according to such tiresome conventional thinking that seemingly saps your autonomy. Aren't you really simply afraid of getting caught and being judged by others?