Becoming MORE isolated as an adult?

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I've become more isolated as I've gotten older too!

I've in a sense grown much more socially isolated. Reason why? I think its because as we get older we're more in charge of our social conduct than ever before.

Even in school, not getting picked for sports teams in gym, or getting ignored.. I was at least somewhat forced to deal with people. Teachers, students if I forgot to bring a pencil to class or something. When I lived at home family would come over and visit and my mom encouraged me to talk to them, was actually decently social with my cousins as far as video games went.

Now I have a girlfriend and being currently unemployed-- she's really my only social contact. We talk about videogames, religion, morality, gossip, etc. Luckily I found someone who likes video games, because aside from "how was your day" I make for very boring conversations in general.

But yeah, I think its way more easy to stay social as a kid than it is an adult, but if I had to choose between then and now, i'd choose the isolation hands down.

same

I have not been out in 2 weeks & the longer it goes on the easier it gets. NOT GOOD

I have become more isolated as an adult too because the rules of socialization are much more different than when I was a kid. As a kid people do not think its wierd if you just start talking to them about something you like and then the conversation takes off from there. People can make more time for you as a kid and people do not get so caught up with crap like networking and appearance and stuff like that. I hate being an adult.

I'm more isolated as an adult. I think a part of it for me is that I am introverted, not very good at socialising when I try, and have become rather jaded from all the rejection and manipulation. As someone else mentioned, it's tough when you invest that energy into someone you thought was a friend, only to find out they've been laughing behind your back.

The friends I had at school have pretty much drifted away. They have kids, and I don't , so as for many people their kids become their life, I have little in common with them anymore. One of them I tried to keep contact with , though I hadn't had much to do with for years, except through the facebook posts of her with her "cool" friends. One day she turned up on my doorstep because she had problems in her own life and presumably her cool friends were no where to be found. I'd literally run out of sympathy and couldn't care if I tried.

I'd made friends from jobs, or uni but it seems when one of us moves job or area the friendship is likely to dissolve despite my best efforts and their assurances to keep in touch. I think my most enduring friends and aquaintances I have met through my husband.
I can't be bothered putting myself out there any more.

I like Dinosaw's suggestion. Find an activity, church, classroom study, or something that involves meeting with people. Every friend I have met, I met at one of these activities.

I have never had many friends, or even people I felt comfortable to be with for any real length of time. So now I have a different problem. I am getting old. The few friends I have had through out the years are dieing. One of the people I knew was dead almost a whole week, before anyone knew.

I know I don't want to be that guy.

Yes. It seems to get worse and worse the older you get. I think something's very very wrong with our culture. People are just shallow in general.

i am becoming more isolated i think because of negative experiences after learning to open up and develop friendships (being taken advantage of and abused emotionally), and i think i am afraid more than before of opening up to people again. i don't know how they will respond, or if they will hurt me again. a year ago a new friend i made wouldn't believe that i thought of myself as socially awkward - i had made so much progress that she couldn't see it! now i barely go out or see anyone.