father wrote:
Hi there, I am not autistic but I had to intrude the discussion . Me and almost 99 percent of NT are bullied in different stages of their education. It is not related to being autistic or not . There will be always a few guys who will bully the others, those NT who will accept being bullied ,will endure bullying .those who will not accept it will have much less bullying ,and sometimes turn into a bully himself as a sort of revenge . This is the way it is with NT .
Father, you are right that many people are bullied. The outcome of that bullying is related to being autistic, though. I have had NT people I felt were my friend make the assumption when I mention having been bullied that it's just something that happens to everyone. This is done with breathtaking thoughtlessness. Each time it horrifies me how utterly unwilling the person is to recognize a dark reality.
There are a lot of aspects of bullying that may matter more or less for different people. Some children and adults are too frightened to speak up whether they are NT or not. The details of what bullies do are probably related to the bully, not the victim, so the bullying behavior probably isn't any different.
But there are differences. Not recognizing you are being targeted makes it different. Not understanding manipulative social transactions that are all about power makes it different. Not being able to speak up, or to run, or to fight back because the social interaction is beyond you to figure out makes it different.
I am curious, did you choose your name because you are a father to someone on the spectrum?