Not being heard when talking to friends?

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This is why I love sequential text input.
You really can't interrupt people, they can just gloss over your line, then come back to you later.
On the other hand, people tend to ignore much more in text chat than verbal chats, or at least give no social recognition, in my observation.

When you try to speak in a group of "normal" people, they really are trying to cut you off. Don't let them fool you. They assume based on previous comments that you aren't going to say anything relevant. You seem unsure of yourself and are probably going to interject with a statement that contradicts what someone else said anyways. That can be seen as very disrespectful in light conversations.

I know! Oh my god that is so freakin annoying! That's why I stay away from groups of people, when they are not listening to a single word I said, they are screaming in my ears or jumping all over me and hugging me, nobody should ever do that to me unless they're expecting my fist in their face.

I completely understand, it happened to me all the time.

What helped with me, was staying quiet for a while and observing how the conversation 'flowed' so where would be 'acceptable' for someone to chip in, and *how* things were said amongst that group of people. It also helps, to try and talk to one or more of them alone outside group conversations, when familiarity is built with one, they tend to notice you more, and then as you become 'noticed' the others start doing so, and viola, chain effect. (Especially better to do this with the 'louder' ones.)

Happens a lot. Not that I mind, though, I like being in the background. Gives me more time to get an idea of what people are saying.

The only time when I get myself noticed is when I'm with people I trust.