In high school, I never could 'get it' - and I went through a long period of not wanting to be a faker and wanting to only 'be myself'. This however, got me in more trouble and picked on as being different and odd.
..later in college, I took a class in stage make up for one of my humanities requirements. i have pretty good small motor skills, and so I learned all sorts of techniques and principles for altering a person's appearance. Of course, one of the required characters was 'the ingenue' or young woman's face. I got pretty good at it and applied the techniques to myself for better or worse. I just learned to look at my face as a 'blank' canvas and tried out different things - glamor, horror, all sorts of stuff. I learned artificial aging, and all sorts of 'dreadful' effects like scars and such...it was fun in the end, and gave me a lot of confidence in creating an appearance.
This was when I was learning how my outward appearance seriously affected how people interacted with me. The idea of world as 'theater' was very educational for me... The more NT (average normal) I looked, the easier it became to interact with others...so if I was in a lipstick and mascara wearing event, I at least knew how to put it on. One of the nicest aspects was not standing out as weird...people tended to ignore me..ie. not stare! Which suited me just fine...