I don't feel like I need friends.

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Every person I've tried to be friends with have always tried to cross my boundaries. Being friends with others begins to feel very mundane; going out to eat, going to movies, talking about things that no longer feel stimulating. I get annoyed with people who demand my time and energy, it costs money to go out, and it takes precious time out of my life that I could be doing something important. I can understand if I have a friendship based off of a common interest that is important to me, but otherwise having a social life feels redundant and forced upon me by society. What others seem to find fun, I just tolerate. I'd rather spend time with myself delving in to topics that fascinates me. I hate having to explain myself to others who don't understand these topics and I hate arguing with people and being subject to social engineering. In the end most friendships become subject to social engineering, manipulation, and control freakury. I've been there before I've had so called friends and it's not all that it's supposed to be. So I have to wonder, is there really such thing as a friend? I'll just stick to my romantic relationships, ones that can touch me on a deeper more intimate and intrinsic level.

Family relations are fine but it's nice to have other people you can share with because family doesnt always have the same tastes. So I also tend to have one or two best friends because other wise I feel overwhelmed and pulled between all of them, as a friend is someone you want to spend time with. Most people these days put pressure on having lodes of friends because they keep in touch via Facebook (and other social networks of that type) and tend to friend everyone they know. I have 2 main friends who also have 2 main friends so it's just a friendship triangle for me. No need to be waisting your time on other people you barely know.

Similar for me, maybe not every person but the vast majority. I get tired of being around someone quick if I feel like I have to be on guard with them all the time.

Socializing is so overwhelming, it is hard to keep track of what is happening when a person keeps pushing the limits. I guess other people are able to negotiate those things in real time, but I can't.

I knew some people from a particular group who don't believe in "boundaries", as part of their philosophy, and I mean they would literally say that they don't believe in the concept of having personal boundaries. Seeing it taken to that extreme, I kind of learned the hard way how bad it could get.

Now I can recognize the warning signs on a much more subtle level, and I just will not put up with it anymore.

Neither do I. I have found that money is directly tied to my happiness, and friends tend to take more money than they give.

I don't have the least interest in making friends. I have enough social interaction already without the extra hassle of having friendships to co-ordinate as well.

Sometimes I feel like I do and sometimes I don't. I remember back when I had friends they would always want to do something and I sometimes found that to be stressful when it would interfere with my interests.

I'm this way too. I don't do well with people at all and am a shut in yet I go through periods where I start feeling loneliness crushing down on me. When this happens I just try to force myself to sleep or something because I really, really don't like dealing with people and like to believe my emotions are just playing games with me.

I am an introverted hermit type. I find dealing with people to be stressful, especially family, so I don't do the friends thing. I had a very few friends in school, never more than one or two at a time. I also had one or two people I got along with well, at different places I worked at over the years. Now I am a loner--by choice.