Anyone living the sheltered life?

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Yes , I would say I've had a sheltered life.
I've become wiser over recent years, problably eversince finding out about the symptoms of aspergers online after a bad day at work.

I've not spoken to my parents for 5 years , as, they over protected me,
1. They regarded me as having a low intelect, - but its since been prooven I've above average intellect , but I'm not good in maths, understanding of some tecnical stuff & understanding instructions, lack of social skills.

2. They sent me to bed every evening at 7pm up untill I was 10 yrs old,

3. ,They bought me a bicycle but i could only go out rideing with them & my schoolfriends would make fun of me because of this,

4. I was also told to be in the house no later than 8pm , my friends parents would be suprised at such strictness imposed upon me.

5. At the age of 12 my grandad died, I was'nt allowed to attend his funeral, most annoyingly I was given differant pathetic excuses by my mother as to why they didnt even give me the choice, & sending me to school on that day.

The two separate reasons given were; #1 "Well there was'nt enough room for you in the car" #2. "your older brother recently played truant, so we dont want the education dep'ton our backs"
To me, my parents denied me experiencing how to deal with one of life's emotions ; grief.
Now they know i resent them for this, they problably regret it, but refuse to appologize or even discuss this, so they chose to fall out with me as a way of dealing with thier guilt .

Wow, guys! I've posted this on October and didn't expect three pages of replies. 0.0 I kept forgetting to mention that I'm actually going to move to another town with more public transportation. The reason why I posted this topic was because the wait was but still is dreadful. I've been feeling slightly better from this, despite some certian events which made me more sad again. Sorry for not really replying at all, but thanks guys

Otherwise, I do like to draw and dance as well.

Yes, I live like this also... pm me.

I live so desolate, so that is why I live the sheltered life. This is also why I haven't had a date, this life has held me back!

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This is pretty much me. I've been making friends through fandoms over the internet but being unable to hang out and talk with them, even if they only live 30-60 minutes away form me, makes me upset. It also doesn't help that I live in a mountain community so you have to travel by car everywhere, which I can barely do unless I'm on a flat ground or in a city.

Hopefully I can remedy this when my family moves to northern Utah, which won't be until next year. Why can't it be 2014 all ready!?

As someone who is currently living the sheltered life, the only advice I have is to not expect change to happen in a day. Take things slowly. I expected myself to suddenly wake up the next day sometime last year and just be a very different person. Didn't change at all. Now that I realised that recently, I'm still pretty much the same, but I'm starting to see a small improvement in myself. It's better than nothing.

My job forces me to be social. I dont like it - its got me "out of my box" as it were. I am not comfortable with it at all. Honestly and seriously, I would rather stay in the house alone all day.

So, what I have to do is get up extra early in the day and give myself some alone time without the added overload from the kids or my wife. Its the only peace I get.

Same here. I'm 33 now. I got my MS degree 2 years ago. I went to college and then graduate school but had no social life during the latter as I was just too f***ing stressed. It eventually caught up to me. I've been living with my parents for a couple years now and can't really handle it any longer. Very boring. Very sheltered. I think I need a job but not something that's so much pressure that I can't focus on anything else. I need to find people I can have fun with but it's such a pain in the ass when you get older. Once you reach a certain age, everyone around you is "busy" and socialization must be crammed into short periods where people can make time.

i too have been sheltered and protected by my parents. i feel most at ease when im alone, but my life will change very soon for the better.... i took for granted my parents going to work everyday and i have been playing video games or wander into my fantasies. i did do my part to help around the house, but it was small contribution. im going to college in a few days, and i plead to exert 100% to make new friends and study for my Bachelor's degree for engineering. i want to live independently, have a family, and travel the world. my social skills are not good, i only have a few good high school friends, but that was it. i seeked comfort and that is when i found Wrong Planet.

Yeah, this place is great. I've been amazed to find so many people like me here – and quite a few who are roughly my age, too.

I'm most definitely a recluse at the moment. I live at home with my family and I don't leave the house unless it's necessary – to get groceries, doctor's appointments, etc. I don't work, drive or socialise, nor do I have any goals in life atm.

I've been recovering from depression for the last couple of years. It was actually my psychiatrist who first suggested that I might have Aspergers, and I was formally diagnosed in February this year. Since then, I've been learning about the autism spectrum, depression, anxiety, and even more day-to-day stuff like loneliness, socialising and managing expectations. I must say that it's been a great learning experience.

And yet, I'm still a recluse at present. I regret that my life has stagnated to this degree, but part of me still wishes to re-engage with the wider world. There are goals that I'd like to have again, but I don't feel up to working towards them atm. I wonder sometimes how my past self would react if he ever met me as I am right now. Not favourably, I'd imagine. I'm aware of what I can do to gradually regain the motivation I need to rebuild my life and start enjoying it again. But for now, I'm more comfortable hiding at home than I am around other people. What the future holds for me is uncertain, but places like this forum help me to open up.

Who knows? It may even help me to become less reclusive.

I personally lived 3 crucial years of my life in solitude with my overbearing infantile parents no contact with others b who are suspect are as if not more autistic than me. The "one thing" i wished i had done was ignore my parents and go to a community college in a different city instead of living at home. I think i would have learned how to socialize with people and maybe made some connections. But no I was the good son and served as my parents secretary and emotional wetnurse. I have come to a point where I seem to be completely disliked by humanity as a whole and I hate it for my own reasons, Started to really hate school because of my roommates and classmates if i can even call them "mates". I feel i have embarrassed myself so many times just being autistic that i don't ever really want to be seen by anyone I know. t, I know if i had lived on my own for those three years i would have been forced to learn how to control my autistic tendencies sooner and realized they were out of sync with the rest of the world and my parents own world at home, would have moved on to regular university a more stable person and not have picked up my parents bad habits. So I think those three years pretty much set the stage for everything that is now in my life which i f*****g hate for which i blame my parents as well. I didn't get the degree i wanted because the whole time table was screwed up. im not really sure i'll ever make it to graduate school because the GRE math will kill me every time and my mother who is a math teacher essentially refuses to help me with math. Essentially my life is one long battle with myself and I'm too tired and too weak to work towards anything I really want which everyone else has.
Its like the song Lost Cause by Beck goes: "there's to many people you used to know,this town is crazy and nobody, i m tired of fighting, fighting for a lost cause"

So yeah, if anything is going to make up for your lost time is you will have to learn how to control your autism and learn how to socialize at almost light speed, which i am sorry to say.

I do. I just go to school and computer, really. This summer, Im doing some programs for college. Waste of time. I could learn much more using the internet, but colleges want programs. sigh

Yep. Early morning is the only time I really leave the house now. I always feel like I'm being watched or judged when I go out at busier times, and I'm always brutally reminded of the things I don't have (friends, signifcant other, social skills, likability, the ability to just have fun). So I just stay here, it's actually less depressing.