Do you get along better with members of the opposite sex?

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I prefer people who aren't defined by their gender. Anyone who constantly wants to make it known that they're male or female won't get along with me unless they are interested in a serious relationship.
I find gender based behaviors to be terribly unprofessional and distasteful.

That being said, I grew up primarily around women (my opposite) and I have always trusted women more in general because most of the men in my life have not been trustworthy, caring, or emotionally stable.

I'm currently only able to carry on friendships with unattractive or elderly women and nerdy men right now. I don't know if my reaction to attractive women will ever go away, as it's been over a decade and it hasn't eased up in the slightest.

Those first two paragraphs are pretty much my view as well. I generally get along with men and women equally well, however, as I was raised exclusively by women (my mother, my grandmother and my aunts) and 'male role models' were absent, I've grown a bit more comfortable in interactions with women. As someone before mentioned, men tend to insert an element of 'competition' into their interactions which I just don't have an interest in. Of course, not all men are like that.

Fascinating. What is your reaction to attractive women? Are you allergic?

(don't worry, I am an elderly unattractive semi-nerd of ambivalent gender )

by any chance, are you "Pat"?

most of my friends currently are female but my long term friends and most people i friend are men. my issue is that i am attractive and i hate attention so i hurt people and i do not mean to. my female friends are cool as they are all into adult life styles and party's and stuff and know i am the shy backgrounder who hates everything.

Are you serious?
The last time, I had to resist with all of my might. I went out with this girl who I think might have also been on the spectrum. She apparently likes to study and have a lot of time to herself. I was resisting the urge to pounce every 10 minutes or so, but I was determined to keep my first date rule.

Okay, so back on topic, so I used to spend a lot of time at a computer repair shop, and basically the guy who worked there had all of the work pushed onto him by his friend. I think he was on the spectrum too because he was quite quirky and said a lot of autismy sort of things. He was probably the first Aspie I had ever gotten the chance to know outside my own messed up family. I'm not sure, though.

I can talk to girls my age(I'm a male, currently 17) and I don't find it hard, I'm not shy with them(in fact I'm not shy with anyone), but due to my lack of spontaneity I rarely talk to anyone at school.
And by the way I'm hetero, but due to my (mild) Asperger's, I've never had a girlfriend, unlike my normal male peers.
Anyway, I can do OK with both males and females, at about the same level, but I find it hard to make friends.

I think I tend to get along with women better. I'm not picky, though. haha. In general I don't have many friends. I'm really working on changing that by joining meetup groups and trying to find similar folks online etc. I think most of my female friends are pretty complex. I guess I notice a difference (and I don't know if it is entirely attributable to their being female) in that I don't like cattiness or judgmental remarks, so sometimes it can be awkward when comments about how fat or unfashionable someone is comes up. I feel sometimes like I've been stuck emotionally around preteens and even the stuff I'm drawn to tends to be a bit childish (I'll notice puppets instead of the purses). The way I relate to others when I'm just being myself tends to be pretty childish and with guys, I think I worry it can be taken as coming onto them when I'm actually just trying to play the way I like playing ... wrestling and teasing playfully.

I personally get along much better with men. Women tend to be more complex and I feel constantly compared to them. It's exhausting having to communicate with them.

I always kind of attributed this to the fact that I had a brother and not a sister and that there were no girls in the neighborhood my age when growing up.

However, I think it really comes down to I have more in common with most men. I could care less about "girly" things and would much rather watch action/drama/historical movies and play video games than go shopping or put on makeup.

I can be girly... I'm really good at my makeup (after taking time to learn and acquire good stuff) and I dress well when necessary. But, it just comes down to most of the time I just don't see the point of most of what average women do and don't care.

EDIT:

Forgot to touch on this.. It is very hard for me to find friends that a) don't want to sleep with me and b) don't lock antlers with my fiance (also aspie). So... I'm kind of lacking in the friend department.

For me it's easier to get along with people of the same sex, just because I've found that other girls tend to be a lot more accepting of my aspie-ness than guys. I guess that's one reason why I've always found the opposite sex to be kind of intimidating.

I related a lot to what auntblabby said about the "creepzone" lol, but the women I do get along with, I really like talking to...Probably because I'm and subconsciously want to f**k them, lol...but most people I don't love talking to as it is...women somewhat less.

I don't discriminate or anything lol, but it just happens this way...I don't care what someone may stereotype certain people as, but it just happens whoever I am able to associate generally is just being diplomatic or is a nerd or biker or political enthusiast or whatever lol...and in say like 9-10th grade it was...basically no one.


also that one dude talking about "I didn't like this girl...before we became friends" TRUTH BROTHA

I get along better with the guys than I do with the girls. I would not say that I am tomboyish or boyish but there are just some rules of behaviour in relationships with women that I just do NOT get. I find hanging out with guys less stressful and needy, LOL.

men only want to sleep with me
they seem so desperate as if ready to rape
i have decided to keep away from men
initially they are all so sweet
and then they start showing their real colour

i prefer women
they are deep and they have same issues which i face
i wont say i like most women
but its easy to talk and share with women

Yes.

yes i prefer the company of women as i find most men irritating and aggressive

I am a gal and it really depends on the person, but usually I prefer the company of guys.
That's probably because most of the people who bullied me in elementary/middle school were girls and now being around other females makes me nervous (unless they're friends of mine). They look so perfect, so pretty, compared to me.
Most guys I know are either sloppy or care about their appearance but they don't make a big deal about it, also when I'm around guys no one shames me for having small boobs, for not using make-up or for wearing baggy clothes, that's what happens all time when I am around girls and women that are not my friends.