Do you often feel this way when looking at "old friends

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What I've noticed is that many people friend every single acquaintance. They have on facebook just to make themselves look popular. I.have the least amount of friends because I only add REAL friends and family. This may make me look.like a loser, but I couldn't care less. Who wants to be lemming who lets everyone know what restrtaunt you ate at with so and so and weather you are in a relationship and what not. What ever happened to people keeping their personal info to tjem selves?

I'm living at Mum's again (at the age of 47) and a girl I used to go to school with visits her Mum often (who lives across the road). She's really sociable and keeps in contact with all of the kids (adults now) we went to school with through Facebook. She arranges reunions/nights out with all of these names I hardly remember, can't put a face to and didn't talk to when I went to school with them 30 years ago. She keeps coming over and telling me all about what they're doing now. Who's cheating on who (don't want to know, don't care) and wanting me to go to these nights out. I'd rather shoot myself in the face.

All of my life, it's only been the three of us. Me, myself and I. I don't care how successful others are. I don't care how rich others are. I am extremely content with my life and don't envy anyone else. And I certainly don't want to go out with them. That sort of thing invariably ends with me sitting by myself, not talking to anyone (or them not talking to me), wandering off by myself and usually finding an animal to pat. I get along with animals better than I do with people and animals like me. They're naturally drawn to me. Always have been. One of my nicknames is the cat whisperer.

I'm not properly placed!

Regarding what was originally posted - I have felt this way very strongly with a childhood best friend that still lives down the street from me. Eventually I said something to her and also commented on her stuff (she posts a lot) and she responded back (though she does with a lot of people), which made me feel less intimidated but didn't really help me feel close like the past.

I had another childhood best friend that I didn't think as much of other than guess she was just well-liked (something I envy about a lot of people on facebook) and that she had forgotten about our past. One day she posted mass location information for her father's death for other anyone that wished to attend. After I realized how close it was, I decided to surprise her. She was very happy to see me and remembered everything from way back and even introduced me and someone else as her best friend from childhood and college. Very few of her actual friends showed up. After that, I tried to stay in touch with her, but she seemed forgetful and like other friends too priority over me. So I kind of shrugged it off as a bitter whatever.

While I'm well aware everything is set up to look like people have had a successful life, Facebook still really gets to me. It reminds me not only my failures but how I don't seem well liked. I get the impression no one really cares about me, even though I know some do. No one bothers to like most of the time unless it really is one of those rare social pictures I would normally ignore if posted by other people (go figure). It confuses me and feels fake overall.

I'll still use FB for keeping in touch and keeping update with news, I would like to go back to forgetting it exists like I used to. Habits can be hard to break.

It doesn't bother me that much, except that everyone whom I went to elementary school with seems to be married, and I'm still single. (This also goes for some childhood friends whom I'm facebook friends with......both have husbands and young kids)

I had added my classmates on FB but they were having such sucessful life i felt like a looser. They kept a reunion but i didnt go they were in touch all this while right from childhood whereas my parents didnt want me to have friends in childhood they kept me locked away.

One of the guys who was extremely weak in studies and managed to scrap through school and college is doing very well in life now. i was comparatively very good in studies but im unemployed.

Ok this guy is in some merchant navy, he is living abroad, married to a european and having grand lifestyle. they all are doing well in life. and if they meet me they would be embarassed as if they dont remember me or even if they remember it was that i was a looser, very quiet, shy, poorly dressed, uncommunicative etc

One thing intrigues me why would a Aspie like Mark Zuckerberg build a social networking site...was it that he thought he could get away from loneliness by building such a site?

But i am using FB now to connect with other bipolars, aspies and depression support group. I read their updates and i have joined some art, craft groups. So yes FB is helping me deal with my loneliness