Don't be a flaker

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True.

Anyway, I find that flakers also can be the fickle type who love you one minute and then hate you the next over some silly reasons.

Definitely.

I worked with a woman like that and she was acting like she was my friend for a while about 9 and 10 years ago now. However, she did all of the things that we described.
1. She promised to come and help me set up my house warming party and never came and never showed up - "We were gonna come but we went for a ride first because I was upset about my granny being in the hospital. Sorry I didn't call but there was bad service.
2. Another co-worker got hired and suddenly started shutting me out of the conversations, walking out of a room if I walked in.

I also have a crush on another male who was on the spectrum who was a flaker too. He was one of those who was hot and cold. Nice to you one day and would flirt. Then on another he would be cold.

Anyway, here is a great article

https://lifehacker.com/how-to-confront- ... 1796642285

Thanks. That's very interesting.

There's being flaky, and there's being emotionally unavailable and/or manipulative. If I were you, I'd spend as least time as possible around those sorts of people.

1. That guy dropped off the face of the earth and I let him go 2 and a half years ago because he was unpredictable
2. That co-worker who pulled that from me is out of reach as she moved back home with her husband

And please get the communication correct


A job interviewer told me the address and not the city

More than one city had that street


Some lil dipshits keep coming late

If you do not have a phone, they can't tell you


Sometimes they choose not to tell you




f**k Amy Lee b***h

And they act like they have to phone you every couple of minutes to make social plans

I would be relieved. An opportunity to start afresh.

1. I have been really happy since I let him go and I have learned to appreciate people who appreciate me
2. As for that co-worker, I have been relieved since the day she came in to quit her job.

Really I just brought those two up because I thought they seemed to have flaky behavior in one way or another

I have nothing against flakes per se. I always remember Phoebe from Friends. She's a self-professed flaker and proud of it: "I'm flaky, I'll say anything!"

I can't help feeling we've been discussing something much more sinister than Phoebe-level flakiness here...

some people are regularly late but they call. if you don't have a phone, don't bother making plans with them.

You probably right

I'm compared to Phoebe all the time because I can be very exuberant and silly.
I resent the implication that she's a flake. LOL.

I don’t mind flakes.....as long as they call to tell me they’ll be late, or can’t make it.

I’ve waited literally hours for people who don’t show up.

I don't always have a phone or Internet access

And I should not have to have a phone either

How did anyone make social plans before phones?

The same lil dipshits are repeatedly a few minutes late

Define "flaker"

80 percent attendance?

Because rarely do I flake on anything.


But I have few friends and commitments


Some idiots truly believe that they are morally justified at making other plans after they made plans with me


It was like Amy lee scheel b***h consented to plans with me as a personal favor to me and then immediately went out of her own way to find something better to do





Seriously I should not have to have a phone


Before I had a phone, Amy lee scheel b***h came ten minutes late. She was correctly confident I would wait


Daniel pennypacker came 30 minutes late


Seriously.

From now on, either do not meet me, or meet me somewhere I could loiter like the library

They had positive things to offer

But

they were not worth the energy





f**k Amy lee scheel b***h

I avoid making plans with other people so that I can't be called a flaker.
It's too hard to predict what my sociability tolerance will be on any given day in the future.

Nobody offers me to make plans

But I don't like commitment