Does it help to tell people?

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This seems like a good idea.

Depends on what autism symptoms you have

Who you tell

What you tell them

"Help" whom?


The only people that were receptive were either

working in the field


apathetic


Did not get sympathy or tolerance


Ass holes

As others have said, it's probably not a good idea to disclose this month. April is the time of the year where "autism awareness" things are set up, and they generally don't really do enough for autistic people. Stereotypes still exist, and people believe in them.

For me, it helped. They understand when I don’t say exactly what I want to say because I can’t get the words out straight.

Sensible and good luck. I’m sure you will be fine


I just detailed some bad experiences because it might prepare others so they know what to avoid and can learn from my mistakes too. It almost definitely will not happen to most people.

Also knowing potential risks in advance makes it easier to respond intelligently if you do come Across a bad person

I wonder if for a lot of NTs when a person tells them they're autistic, the dynamic is instantly changed in their mind. Thoughts, maybe even subconscious, of thinking they'll never relate to the person"on the same level".

I've given up on telling people (personally) whenever I do they brush me off thinking I'm too "attractive" to be autistic or "you seem fine to me." On top of that I'm apparently not the right color to be on the spectrum either. People have a certain idea when they think of autism. It really pisses me off when people tell me I don't look autistic. It's so freaking rude, like what if you told me you were diabetic and I say "Well you don't look diabetic..."

I've told a few people. They didn't care. First I heard "but you don't look autistic" or "are you sure?" And then they just seem to forget about it. Or maybe they just don't believe me.

I've told a good friend and she seemed genuinely interested, asked me all kinds of things - I told her specifically what I had a hard time with and she just didn't care. It's probably too much of a bother to be just a bit more considerate of my needs. Maybe it's my own fault. I have pretended to be normal for such a long time and always tried to suppress my needs to make people around me feel confortable with me, so they wouldn't think I'm arrogant or standoffish or selfish or what they tell us autistic people seem like to others. I've also always hidden my exhaustion so no one realized it and then broke down at home and had excuses for not joining them, when I just couldn't take any more social interaction. Just telling someone doesn't make them understand what's really going on.

It was the same with all the others that I told.

coming out is not a magical pill. there will be ignorant ppl, harmful ppl, stupid ppl. and then there will be wise people, understanding or willing to understand people, other autistic people and family members of other autistic people. ofc its a decision each makes for themself, i need to stress it in each message, im not meaning to push anybody. in my book, if 1 out of 10 comingouts gets positive result, its worth trying. each person i manage to educate will be more mindful to other people in their surrounding, more able to well, communicate with weirdos they meet. it will spread. each person i blasted for f*****g with me, will maybe think an extra time before f*****g with somebody else. and keep their trap shut next time they meet a weirdo, so that weirdo wont suffer. i can tank it when i can. and when i cant, i have friends to pick me up. that is my choice and my way. i am not saying it is the only right one.

I told one friend of mine, his response was "I think I might be to" which honestly didn't surprise me. Probably why I felt comfortable telling him.

There's a few more people I plan on telling, and one of them is definitely NT, whereas the others I'm not sure about.

Serp, that may be, but it's still not an easy thing to reveal. Stigma is real.

oh i know, antrax, do i know. and like i said, i wear it as a brand of honor. all the times, when the very fact of my autism, and then my autistic thinking, and my knowledge i wouldnt have if i was allistic, had helped my dear ones, are worth everything.
i see the faces full of anger
i never took an easy way
im gonna burn, there's no return
on my crusade for hope

I would tell specific people if I felt it would improve our relationship. Easier to wait and say it later than to say it and take it back.

Well I got drunk and told a bunch of my co-workers (this was not my intention but a result of the drinking). No one seems to be treating me any different. Still don't know how I feel about telling people.

lol Your inner you apparently wanted to get the matter off your chest! Do they all remember the incident? I'm sure some of them do. Anyway glad to hear it seems to have gone well!

You know what's more awkward for me than revealing I'm autistic? Revealing that I'm a bisexual furry... but I'm actually pretty open about that too.

You do not need to tell other people that you are weird and socially inept. They already know.


Why did you need to tell your therapist? Didn't they know already?