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05 Sep 2007, 7:21 am

I went to a Nightclub last Valentine's day. (The Underworld, Camden, London.)

I was dressed as a Pirate, so I got in for free.

I ended up being gently mauled by a bunch of really friendly Australians. They were all extremely drunk, and probably high on something illegal, but they were fun. They all hugged and kissed me (on the cheek, no funny business), and told me how smart and beautiful I was. It was great.

I don't like the music in nightclubs, though. It is always too loud. It becomes impossible to distinguish any of the songs being played; they just come across as a deafening roar (almost like white-noise).

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15 Sep 2007, 3:45 pm

I had a phase of regular nightclubbing, which lasted a few years. It was all pointless though, probably because I didn't really know how to interact successfully in them.

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16 Sep 2007, 6:44 am

This thread has reminded me of the most fun times I had in my life, back in the days of Punk!
We went to all the clubs then, the Roxy, the Vortex, the Marquee, it was fantastic, you made your own clothes, the music was great and "dancing" was leaping up and down looking as moronic as you could, the ability to talk well was considered a social negative, thinking back on it now, it was about the only place I ever felt I really fitted in, an Aspie Heaven!

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16 Sep 2007, 10:38 am

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Wow, Nambo! I would have liked to experience something like that. Maybe I ought to have been born and raised a Brit :wink:

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16 Sep 2007, 10:59 am

dive bar > nightclub

Less crowded (usually)
Less noisy (usually)
Lower or no cover charge
People are there to drink, maybe talk a bit, possibly some pool, or darts, rather than trolling for meaningless sex

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17 Sep 2007, 3:00 pm

Papillon wrote:

Nambo wrote:

Wow, Nambo! I would have liked to experience something like that. Maybe I ought to have been born and raised a Brit :wink:

Well, thanks to the power of Google Video, you can transport yourself back to those idyilic days, put some tight jeans on, a ripped old tee shirt, turn the lights down and jump up and down to this!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pcuk_AKNmUg[/youtube]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pcuk_AKNmUg

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17 Sep 2007, 6:31 pm

I never liked clubbing, even when I was at the age where it seems like EVERYBODY is doing it. I went on a few occasions to try to fit in, but I always wished I was back home reading a book. (Friday nights sure a blast at my house!)

The thing is, I was convinced that nobody else could possibly like it either, but were too afraid to say so. I likened it to "The Emperor has no Clothes". Everybody knows that something is wrong, but nobody wants to be the one to point it out, so they all go along. I now realize that maybe clubbing does hold some interest for others, but I'm happy to read a book, or play my guitar.

I do go to a local pub on occasion in order to watch the Red Sox. I don't have cable so I have to listen to the games on the radio, but there are times I'd like to watch them, so I'll go have a pint or two while watching the game. I saw Bucholz's no-hitter that way!

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17 Sep 2007, 10:53 pm

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Another reason why people go to clubs is to look for one-night stands. However, that only works for good-looking super-charming guys; the rest are typically left to rot in the dust, as far as picking up girls is concerned. For girls, it's different; pretty much any girl can go to a club and find sex. In other words, it's the mating season on Animal Planet (a TV channel) at its worst. But since clubs and bars are one of the few ways for people to find a sex partner, everybody just keeps going back there weekend after weekend, thinking they can pick up someone there.

I'm nothing like that when it comes to finding sex partners. I well aware of how repulsive I look, so I don't delude myself into thinking I can find someone at a club. I only to there to get drunk, dance, and release stress from the grueling work week. Not that the clubs are relaxing by any means, but the large amounts of alcohol and the loud music release the stress built up during the week. And on a rare occasion, I can find a girl to dance with, even if just for a few minutes. But when my goal is to find sex, I go to escorts, not clubs.

Aspie1 you hit the nail on the head.

I have talked to NT friends about this, and they tell me that women go to clubs because they want to have the best looking, most popular guys hit on them, and then they will have a 1 night stand with them. They don't want to sacrifice in any area, whether it is looks, or the guy's social status. It is shallow, but it is the way it is.

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18 Sep 2007, 2:03 am

shadexiii wrote:

To me, a dive bar would mean i'd have to talk to people MORE--- and the men would still be looking for sex as usual. nightclubs give a person places to hide, and something I like to do (dance). If I wanted to talk to someone, i could go to a corner and talk with them. But most of the people at either place aren't worth much more than "hi" and "i like your outfit".

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20 Sep 2007, 9:47 am

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Girls aren't all the same! Girls aren't all shallow!! Arghghhhhh!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

Anyway, I do go to clubs, because I'm a DJ. Fortunately in London there are plenty of places that actually play great music and aren't all about having a drunken fumble against the wall to a song you don't actually like. I tend to pick one place and go week in, week out, until I know everyone from the promoter to the girl who does the door. If everything is nice and familiar I find I have a great time - also, I do find it easier if I'm DJing.

I have had anxiety fits/meltdowns in clubs. I remember when we did a whole week of gigs putting on bands that should have been in far bigger venues. I should have been having the time of my life, but I spent the whole time in tears. Nevermind, I've had some fantastic times too.

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20 Sep 2007, 2:12 pm

[quote="sarahstilettos"]

I do find it easier if I'm DJing.

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Exactly.

That's my whole problem with going to clubs. They are entirely socially focused and there's no sense of purpose. It's like "ok, I'm here, now what???" If I go to a place with a specific mission of task, then everything flows so much easier.

hmmm, maybe I should pick up bartending....

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20 Sep 2007, 3:20 pm

skahthic wrote:

Eh, I suppose I meant mediocre, slightly dirty pool hall more than I did dive bar. Either way, the only time I go to such a place is to get a couple of beers, and to do it outside of the home just to break the sense of drinking alone at home all the time.

Hasn't been an issue lately, I've substantially cut down my drinking. As such I have no real need to go to those places.

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20 Sep 2007, 3:55 pm

deadeyexx wrote:

sarahstilettos wrote:

I do find it easier if I'm DJing.

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Exactly.

That's my whole problem with going to clubs. They are entirely socially focused and there's no sense of purpose. It's like "ok, I'm here, now what???" If I go to a place with a specific mission of task, then everything flows so much easier.

hmmm, maybe I should pick up bartending....

Go to clubs with bands. That way there is a purpose - you're there to watch the band. You can chat to a few people, which is easy, because you just ask them what you think of the band... but if you're not having a good time, you can leave, but it's not like you wasted your evening because you saw a great band.

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20 Sep 2007, 3:58 pm

The only club I like to go to is Barnes & Noble.

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21 Sep 2007, 2:52 am

sarahstilettos wrote:

Space wrote:

Aspie1 wrote:

Girls aren't all the same! Girls aren't all shallow!! Arghghhhhh!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

Anyway, I do go to clubs, because I'm a DJ. Fortunately in London there are plenty of places that actually play great music and aren't all about having a drunken fumble against the wall to a song you don't actually like. I tend to pick one place and go week in, week out, until I know everyone from the promoter to the girl who does the door. If everything is nice and familiar I find I have a great time - also, I do find it easier if I'm DJing.

I have had anxiety fits/meltdowns in clubs. I remember when we did a whole week of gigs putting on bands that should have been in far bigger venues. I should have been having the time of my life, but I spent the whole time in tears. Nevermind, I've had some fantastic times too.

I was not trying to suggest that. But the majority of women who go looking for men in clubs aren't looking for an intellectual conversation, you must admit.

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21 Sep 2007, 11:03 am

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I was not trying to suggest that. But the majority of women who go looking for men in clubs aren't looking for an intellectual conversation, you must admit.

I've discussed this before with many people and we have come to this conclusion.

That it's not really about sex either, but about attention. It's about playing a social status game. By recieving attention from men, especially ones who are at the center of attention themselves, women feel good about themselves. Sex may happen, but most of the time the knowledge that they can have sex w/ the high status guys at will is more than enough.

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