Why do Aspies not care about out appearance?

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I am like that. I am always neat, and tidy, but usually dressed kind of plain. No makeup. But if I'm going anywhere where I may worry about impression I am very good at doing the "dress up/makeup" thing.

Basically, I grew up with a mother that conditioned me to be this way (The neat and tidy side), I couldn't get away with not showering and wearing the same clothes because she'd make me shower daily and after I'd changed in to bed clothes, she would take the clothes I'd worn during the day and put them in the wash. She would harass me about keeping my hair brushed, brushing my teeth after meals...

I do remember there was a time when I was young when I really hated showering and had to be pretty much forced, kicking and screaming.

Ability to dress up in more impressive outfits, and do nice hair and makeup comes from my sister. She was pretty much "embarrassed" by me when we went to the same school, and would make me over before school dances. She did the same before family parties and such, and I learned a lot about how to apply makeup and do a more fancy hair style from her.

I'm too eccentric to care about what I look like.

I care about my appearance, but it's really what I care about. The way I prefer to look to others, not what they expect me to look like.

For a job or whatever, if someone is really uptight and it's important to them... I'll manage to change myself to their standard... if I remember to.

But I primarily dress for comfort, connivence, and then style. I don't really know fashion rules, but I'll follow them if they make sense.

Case in point: socks... I used to wear white socks always. No matter the occasion, it's just what I wore. Nowadays, I keep an equal amount of black and white socks. And try to match my socks to my shirt. White shirts get white socks, Black and darker colors get Black socks.

The rule makes sense, similar colors go better together.

I'd do the layer/colored undershirt thing too... if I didn't hate wearing more than one layer.

I stick to Hawaiian shirts, they are loose and cool. They have colors, and nice patters I like to look at. They fit better than a T-Shirt... but are just as casual. Usually have a pocket, which I like to adorn with a Mechanical Pencil.

When I get really ambitious I try to match the color of the mechanical pencil to my shirt...

I think the primary reason for Aspies not to care about appearance, is that appearance is dealt with on a personal level. The concept that you wear clothes for others benefit... not your own is kind of foreign and strange. Same thing with showering and whatever... unless they personally see the benefit... it may not register as something they should do.

About the "fashion rules" you mentioned, Pugly:

It's not that I don't know them, I just think a lot of them are very stupid, or look completely idiotic. Last spring, for example, I didn't get any new clothes because the new fashions for that season (in my opinion) were hideously ugly. I have a personal sense of style, it just doesn't mesh well with what is considered to be "in style"

Yeah, that's cool. A personal sense of style is much better than any canned 'in' fashion.

Heck, those with their own style are the ones who set the trends.

When I was in high school I did. Though the trends that began with me never went beyond my own school.

depends for me, I tend to dress how I like to. I don't really judge people for their appearance, but it can sometimes be a factor especially when dealing with the opposite sex.

I guess with me, I just don't care. I don't care if my clothes got wrinkles in them, or if my hair is unruly. I can't spend more then a minute picking out what I'm going to wear. Usually whatever I can grab.

Obviously this is a big problem when I'm with a woman. I tend to get defensive when start picking at me, and go tell them to go date a metrosexual.

I know they just don't want me to look like a slob, but it's really hard for me to get into that. I don't think I could handle ironing my clothes everyday.

i dont believe in appearance anymore after i got scammed by a crook who is extremely well-dressed and very good looking (well, i maybe i SHOULD believe in appearance since he managed to scam so many people but that's not the point).

as for me, i try not to be a slob but i dont go out of my way to be extremely neat. i dont iron t-shirts but i do iron formal shirts.

I have been obsessed about being clean since I was 10 but I have gotten better so it's not as bad. I can stand having a spot on my shirt and not go crazy over it. I just throw it in the hamper when I take it off. I do shower every night and brush my hair but I do no style it or braid it except put it in a pony tail just to keep it from flying around. I also brush my teeth twice a day at least unless I'm too tired. I do wear make up or nail polish, I rarely do anyway. I don't care about fashion but I do care about my clothes matching, I just don't care what the current fashion is and I don't try and dress like everyone else my age. I do care about my weight too so I stay thin. I hate it when I gain but luckily I think I have overcame being anorexic. I eat more food now but haven't gotten any bigger. I eat healthy stuff is why and I try real hard to not eat so much sweets in one day. I try to limit to one a day.

When I was under 10 I didn't care what I looked like. It was my mother who had to tell me to take a bath, she also washed my hair, helped me brush my teeth and then I started to do it on my own, I didn't care if my clothes were dirty but if they were muddy or something, I didn't like it so they be in my clothes hamper.
She also brushed my hair too because I didn't care about my hair being messy. I hated having it brushed was why so she had to do it for me and I learned to get used to it. Also she had my hair cut short, so it be a lot easier to brush my hair so it wouldn't take as long and it's easier to take care of. She also used a different brush too that was easier on my head vs hard brushes or bushes that have nothing on the end of those needles. I remember how bad they hurt.

I've got my laying around the house clothes and I got my outside clothes.

House: superman pajama pants, freddy kruger sweater and an I'm with stupid T shirt.

Outside: dress boots, dark henley, zip up sweater earth tone jeans, jacket fedora.


No hats indoors!! !! !!

and no hats on the bed.

I love clothes, but they have to be quirky clothes to reflect my personality. If I walk into a room full of people, I will - guaranteed - be wearing something nobody else is. It might even be something nobody else would want to wear, for all I care.

What I really dislike is all this focus on designer names. I copy edit for a style and entertainment magazine and I never even heard of most of these designers until I started editing for them. The whole designer thing is stupid and bogus, as far as I'm concerned. Sheep-like.

That said, I can also neglect appearance things. Like my workout tees - my boyfriend had to point out that my baggy white tees had turned gray because I have the habit of throwing all my clothes into the washer on cold - one load, which I don't separate. Apparently this is wrong, but laundry-doing is not on my list of things I care about. If I care about an item of clothing, I send it to the cleaners.

Also, I've never been big on wearing makeup - I'll toss on some mascara, eyeliner and lipstick and that's about it. Fortunately, I am Latin descent with dark hair and eyes, so I get away with it without anyone knowing I'm just lazy. I didn't bother plucking my eyebrows until a couple of years ago. I do face exercises because I like to look young. And yes, they do work!

Because I have a nice body from exercising and eating carefully, I like to show it off. Unlike the other poster, I don't mind being looked at like an object. Chances are, if someone like that were to try to talk to me, I would chase them away the moment I opened my mouth anyway! And being an object means they don't ask me anything too personal and god forbid someone try to pry me open. That sends me running far, far away.

-J.

Ahhh I like looking good.
But then I also like full movement so I don't tend to wear suits so much.
Most often I wear stretch denim jeans and either a plain black shirt or a band shirt (my fave being a Nirvana shirt), and then a leather or dark denim jacket if it's cold. Or occasionally just my lucky dark blue tidal design hawaiian shirt unbuttoned over a plain black shirt.

I also tend to wear one of two pendants, and several plain round rings on my right hand, as well as black steel capped lace up boots. They have some good kick in them.
Socks are mainly plain white. They tend to be cheaper.

Most people my age seem to wear either emo clothing or 'gangsta' clothing... The horrors... ><

I think your DNA stays the same no matter how you dress or otherwise look, so it's not logical for fashion to play a part in finding a partner. Besides, comfort is a feeling ought to signal optimal circumstances for survival, therefore we shouldn't deny a craving for it.
Outside sexual relations, a friendship is based on common intellectual and personality traits rather than looks anyway. (Of course some people like to express their personality through how they look - me included -, but that isn't necessarily in line with "mainstream" taste or the aesthetics of the general population. Best example to this is the controversy around fashionable starvation.)
I noticed long ago that what I like to look at is seldom the same thing what others call "beautiful". This is not because I don't have a sense of beauty (a preference for certain sights), but that my sense of beauty differs from the expected.

I care about my appearance, well i dont wana look like a homeless person. I usually wear really plain clothes with no designs on them.

Same here. All my clothes are plain with no designs or logos. Must be an aspie thing.