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29 Apr 2008, 1:49 am

Betzalel wrote:

I just don't smile the only time I smile is when I laugh at something or I'm really really nervous.

I really hate it when people try to force me to smile when taking pictures of me like theres something wrong with me if i don't smile for photographs. I hate that because if I'm smiling in a photo you aren't taking a picture that really represents me as a person I hate that they want to see someone that just isn't there and will refuse to take the picture i asked them to take until I smile for them which looks awful and is really uncomfortable for me.

once, a friend drew me, four or five panels of my face, titled "bored", "angry", "happy", "sad", etc etc... !all of them had my same face! :lol:

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29 Apr 2008, 4:33 pm

Scottydont wrote:

Long before I tumbled to the fact that I have AS, I relized that I don't smile enough. The problem that I've alway had is that smiling makes me feel self concious, and I have a hard time not thinking that my smile is not very flattering. I've seen photos of me smiling and always think that I look manic or false.

I'm going to throw out a guess that I'm not the only person with this problem. So how does everybody else address the issue?

chances are that you are just that, that you are self-conscious, and ONLY SELF-CONSCIOUS

i used to think i had an awful smile, then one day
the girl who i loved told me flat out, you have a beautiful smile
i just think about that one thing that makes me happy enough, and its done

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30 Apr 2008, 1:37 pm

Oh I've got a great smile when it's natural.... The problem is that my natural smiles are few and far between... Too few for the rest of the world. I've been trying to change that conciously just to improve the way I mesh with the rest of society (say what you want about being yourself and not worrying about everybody else, but I'm tired of being criticized or being discliplined at work because other people misinterpret my modes of communication). I just can't make a natural smile happen intentionally when I need it. THAT'S when I notice the issue and get self concious, which only makes things worse.

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30 Apr 2008, 4:27 pm

Yea, I have been told I have a great smile also, because of my eyes and my teeth, but I don't smile much!

Some people have also said I was sad looking like my cousin's 8 year old daughter who was over from the Netherlands who had never seen me before!

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01 May 2008, 11:18 pm

Smiling - the only common language.

I can't smile, I have a huge gringe. It looks like a piano between my ears. I can only gringe like this when I am feeling the endorfins in my blood stream, which occured many times reading this thread!

If I have to produce a smile for photographs or social situations, I try to only widen my mouth a bit while keeping it slightly open. This usually keeps it contained to a ratio of 1:10 but I must look fairly odd with that grin.

In general, I have no control of my facial expressions, and it may display anything at any time, completely unconnected to my internal emotions. I do think I look angry far more often than I feel displeased.

My face often turn into a gringe when I am slightly nervous. This is completely uncontious, but people seem to like it and they have commented that I appear to be happy most of the time.

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03 May 2008, 5:25 am

Scottydont wrote:

Yup, I couldn't force a smile if my life depended on it. I was kind of hoping that maybe there was a good way to learn. I like the dirty thoughts idea, but haven't tried it yet (will do so tonight since it's a social nite for me). I'm just afraid that if I try it with a girl, I'm going to end up looking like a predator or something.

Petal, I grew up looking at the ground and not at people as well. Until you said it, I never really connected that with AS, but considering all my other eye contact issues it makes sense. I spent years learning to make eye contact with people, and I still hate having to do it. It's part of my "mask" though and without it I don't think I would have been successful in daily life.

My best photo smiles are the ones that are candid photos and not posed. Mugging the camera used to work for me, but I quit doing that when my dad managed to get a posed photo of me in my college gown with my uncle and cousins... and my finger jammed up my nose. I have the photo framed, but I figure that I shouldn't accumulate too many of that kind of thing. So now I need a new trick, and I need something that works with people and not just cameras....

Thats exactly the same with me, i can't smile unless i'm actually amused...

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03 May 2008, 7:09 pm

Alot of times I have to force myself to smile but it's hard too when you're not happy or depressed.

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