Ask me about not wallowing in self pity.

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I agree that basing your problems/achievements on the whole AS community, then critisising them for not being upto your standards is a pretty pathetic thing to do. Get a life, totally.

i can see what you're saying (only for me and for my own personal experience) but please, don't be so harsh about it... how would you feel if someone told you that your life is meaningless?

I know I'm probably not adding anything new to this thread, but here goes...

No, you're not right. All that the name of this site implies is that we Aspies have a different way of thinking and a different view of the world than NTs. And no, that way of thinking is not an inferiority complex.



Nothing's wrong with us - or at least there's not one common "wrong" thing with all of us. It's not a mental disorder - just a different way of thinking, like I said. And while AS might not define my whole life per se, it is a big part of who I am - of what makes me stand out. And I mean stand out in a good way.



Why should we force ourselves to act a certain way just because it's "normal"? I don't know about you, but I certainly don't think that's what happiness is all about. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that that it isn't good to try and adjust so that you can get along with people and have a successful career, but you seem to be suggesting that we change who we are, and conform completely to what society expects of us.



It's not a matter or whether I can change - it's a matter of whether I want to or not. There are certain things about me that I feel like I can improve on, and I am making an effort to work on those things. On the other hand, there are things that people may not like about me, but I feel there is nothing wrong with them. And being an aspie may have its disadvantages, but it also has advantages.



Oh, so you're putting yourself on a pedestal above us just because you've conformed to what society expects? Gimme a break. If anything, you should be ashamed of yourself for sacrificing your individuality just so you can be popular.



Um, what?

I'll be honest here, I've spent a good deal of years watching other people so I could be like everybody else... and while now nobody can tell that there's anything different because now I AM like them (on the outside at least) I do feel that I've lost a bit of who I am because of it.

Moral- Go your own way if you want to be your own person.

new person here

I have spent my whole, entire life (up to and including today) trying to be normal and fit in and guess what - it never works. Sure, I have learned enough to get by, but by and large the reason I get by is by hiding away from the society most of the time so they cannot see just how not normal I am.

This is the only thing I ever heard in my life (I never heard of aspergers until recently)And I definitely did try to change. And I couldn't. I have worn myself out thin and suffered huge distress because I kept trying to change in the ways I couldn't. There comes a time when you realise that it is entirely pointless to keep trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. There is nothing self pitying about recognising where your limits are.
The only problem is wanting to find a way out of confusion and not knowing how to. Coping skills are not easy to come by even if someone puts themunder your nose. For example, I am sure the person who said the above (in quotes) has been told more than once to change and stop being a jerk but I am equally sure that this sage advice has not taken hold.

There. Rant over. Until next time.

Quite well said Ms. Mini

Sorry we don't meet up with your standard of perfection, Tool. We don't all wallow in self-pity as you say but there are times when life seems an uphill climb with caltrops at every turn. If you were so miserable at high school then I don't understand how you can be so mean to people who are still struggling with low self-esteem.