Going to church to meet people

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I go to a Christian church for the right reason, to worship.

I'm 115% convinced, if you've ever seen or read "To Hell and Back" by Maurice Rawlings (try searching that on YouTube), or if you've ever really taken the time to research and think about it, you will find that it does not purely have to be based off of faith, though you still have to have faith.

I started going again last week, in the evenings on Sundays they'll also have dinner together and that's a good time to meet friendly people who don't judge as much as my friends at school and commune.

You can feel it, and I've been noticing A LOT more synchronicity since, and I don't care what people think of me, it doesn't matter, at all.

Your never alone. You have an understanding and forgiving God.

It depends....at the one I go to there are no unattached males my age.

There were no unattached females my age where I went either. I left because the pastor I had a great deal of respect for left (his wife, also a pastor, was offered a pastoral position in Missouri), and it wasn't the same.

I am Lutheran and I attended the church I did because of the ambient setting, and the laid-back, tolerant beliefs.

Last edited by Tim_Tex on 28 Feb 2010, 2:25 am, edited 1 time in total.

Aside from faith and going there to worship God. I find that Church is a very positive thing because apart from the sunday service there is the much needed fellowship with other Christians. I have a few really good friends I met at Church. The only problem with this is that my friends are all old enough to be my parents and being a single male gen Xer makes me the odd man out.

My generation is very much absent from church in general so there's very little prospect of finding companionship with anyone in my own age group.

I would love to see some suggestions on where I could find this. I'm almost 30 now and haven't had any friends under the age of 40 in my life since about the time I left high school I would love ot know what I'm doing wrong because frankly I'm really getting sick of being lonely, single and mainly hanging out with people that really don't get me. I mean I can relate to them and all and they are really nice but I would like to seriously have some single people that I can actually go out and have a life with. instead of just visiting occasionally and having long talks with. These people are great company but they have already lived their lives.

I feel like my life is just slipping away from me and being wasted and it's very depressing and frustrating.

I've thought about it but I'm not really a church person. Even though I was raised to be a Catholic, I no longer have any religious beliefs at this point so I'd be a hypocrite for going. I always figured a place to find decent girls would be a place like church though.

i love going to church as i enjoy it and love to worship the lord and catch up with my freinds
also away from church i love listening to worship and hillsong (Christan) music i love listening to to relax me when i sleep

Why one should go to church? and is it a good place to meet people? are two different questions.

I go to church every Sunday for worship. I agree thats the proper reason to go. But the question asked was, is it a good place to meet people? In my experience no. The people are too judgemental. I have repeatedly timed people with my watch. If I enter a area/room, it will be devoid of people except me within ten minutes. People will gnaw their arm off to get away from me. I make them real uncomfortable and squirm. At least at a biker bar people will talk to me.

I may of caused misunderstanding with my semantics. I meant to say, "partake in Sunday worship, and try to partake in activities other than worship at the same time". Both play a significant part in church and spiritual life.

I started going to church because I figured people would have to be nice to me, or be seen as 'un-Christian'. Unfortunately I've also found that churches aren't really accepting of differences.

It really all depends not every group of people is the same. and there are more denominations than you can shake a reasonably large stick at. some with completely different attitudes.

I'm not friends with everyone I go to church with but I have met people that have accepted me for who I am that I met through church. Mind you this was over time and through moving around through many different churches.

Religion or not people in churches are not that different from people that don't go to church. A lot don't even have a real relationship with God and put too much into dead dry religion instead. Those that really have a relationship with God should show a bit more love and I can generally tell who these people are and feel more comfortable around them. but even then they are still human and have their own issues just like everyone else.

I would go to church first and foremost to try and cultivate a relationship with God (or at least to worship, if you are really serious about God that is a very personal thing and mostly practiced outside of a institutional building. ) If that isn't the focus you are just going to meet a bunch of people and have expectations of those people that likely aren't very realistic and it just isn't going to work out very well at all.

but going anyplace where you share a common interest is a good way to meet people. I just unfortunately have interests (including spiritual matters) that seem to interest people much older than me that are already married. my other interests are a bit obscure and seem to be mainly shared by other males so no luck there either...

I started going to church again this year. It has been a God-send for me. I have met many new people and because I have almost no family of my own, they are becoming my family. I've had some traumatic things to happen recently and the people in the church were there to help me. They made me know it is ok to ask for help and accept help when I need it.

I definitely recommend church. I did visit several before I found one that was very comfortable for me. That has made a huge difference. I had to be comfortable going there. I am seeing that my family is now the Christian family since I have so few blood relatives left. This is something that first helped me to survive and is now helping me to thrive.

Ha--jump starting an old thread, but I wanted to throw in my $.02 I like the Lutherans because of the doctrine. Plus, at least at my church, it is very logical and cerebral--not a lot of focus on emotional exchanges or altar calls or any of that charismatic stuff. So it fits well with my personality because I approach everything in a very cerebral cognitive way. But there are no unattached anyone my age and all of the "singles" are like college students or old. Or me. All the ladies my age have kids and it is all they want to talk about. Politics gets in the way, too.

So, I've kind of decided to go to church to worship and am trying to have my social and emotional needs met elsewhere. Like here. That is just me, though, and Curiosity--I'm happy to hear that you have found a Church home.