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26 Mar 2009, 11:25 am

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Autism. That debate might get ugly.
haha true. i think it's generally best not to bring up Autism Speaks and reasons you don't agree with them around people you don't know, it can get messy.


Charities in general shouldn't be brought up, unless you only have glowing words to say about them. Most people don't bother to research charities, and just assume the best of them. It's a general rule of society that you shouldn't speak ill of people with good intentions, especially in small talk situations. Leave the serious critiques for philisophical discussions.



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26 Mar 2009, 11:44 pm

Sex, religion, and Politics.


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31 Mar 2009, 5:56 am

The Holocaust or anything relating to Nazi Germany.


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31 Mar 2009, 9:26 pm

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Pedophilia.


damnit you stole that from me :evil:

also note all these taboos don't apply if you're discussing this with /b/tards in real life. They can't call themselves /b/tards if they get squicky about pedo discussions


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01 Apr 2009, 12:01 am

Making jokes about the little P-bears and their outlandish picnics...Image


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01 Apr 2009, 1:57 am

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The bodies in the basement... :twisted:


My step-father often asks me about this because of my past obsession with serial killers. It's quite a regular conversation in this house lol but he's just saying it as a joke.

But one thing I have learned is that not all people think it's funny...


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01 Apr 2009, 5:42 pm

internet shock sites and porn (around normalfags)

it can work to find people who are on the net a lot


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01 Apr 2009, 5:48 pm

rotten.com. :o


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01 Apr 2009, 6:00 pm

^^^^
goatse.cx :P

or 2girls1cup :mrgreen:


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01 Apr 2009, 6:53 pm

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Anything that is shocking, gross, or really personal.


Most of these "shocking, gross" things that people react negatively to don't seem to affect me. I usually have a good laugh and proceed to contribute my own details before realizing that the other people were actually disturbed by it.

Oops.

I like horror movies and I have an incredibly morbid sense of humor, but I would never actually DO these things. How about some ideas for topics that are generally accepted? I find that weather has about a 10 second conversational lifespan despite my extensive "research" on wikipedia.



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01 Apr 2009, 8:39 pm

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rotten.com. :o


Not for the faint of heart. :P

How about things you do in the shower. :lol:


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01 Apr 2009, 9:13 pm

when i recently disowned my dad my aunt said and wrote a letter that the reason my dad wasnt involved in my life is because he was abused and molested. she then told me i better not tell anyone this information, natuarlly i understood but i was serious that day and got my disown on. i didnt care because all im hearing is EXCUSES. everyone gets abused at some point in there life these days so now i have no father. oh well! i only met the guy twice so it really isnt a loss :D


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01 Apr 2009, 10:04 pm

Anything controversial; it's best to just keep your opinions to yourself because sooner or later, you're going to say something that offends someone.



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02 Apr 2009, 10:10 am

I've learnt that I shouldn't tell my friend Vicky about what I saw on the news about the guy who tried to have sex with a raccoon and it bit his thingy off...stuff like this grosses her out. :lol:


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02 Apr 2009, 11:05 am

i saw the number 11111111 just above the top lip of an aging woman at work. she is a heavy smoker. she has got a "dogs bottom" mouth because of the all the years she has pouted as she smoked her cigarettes. there are vertical lines that rise from her upper lip to her nose.

i was feeling frivolous so i said as i watched her speak "eleven million, one hundred and eleven thousand, one hundred and eleven" . she stopped talking and dismissed me as an idiot, but someone else later asked me what i meant, and i explained, and she must have told everyone because i was reprimanded later that day by management who told me to keep my non work related observations to myself.

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never tell someone you do not think they are attractive (as well as never tell them you think they are if you do not)

a woman recently at the tavern where i went to get dinner one night wound up talking to me. a male i know came to sit with me and he is a good looking person who is tanned and tall and attracts females because of his athletic build. she came to our table to meet him but wound up talking to me.

she complained that she was such a stunner that she could not shake off male admirers. she said that she found it very taxing that she was desired so much by so many men.
i said "goodness!! where do you go? they must be desperate" before i thought about it and she was extremely offended.
she said that most men found her attractive and she knew it and they made her life hell, and i said that i did not find her attractive in the slightest, and that as she was in her mid 50's she could expect a drop off soon from the attention of even the most desperate men.

she was extremely annoyed. what a hypocrite. she was complaining about all the male attention just seconds before.
i do not understand, but i realize now never to get roped into conversations about appearance.

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consoling should not be left to me.
an old drunk fellow in a pub once showed me a picture of his son who was sitting in a fighter jet sitting idle on the tarmac with the canopy open. he had dark sunglasses on and was posing for a photo-shoot. i liked the plane. the old man said that his son was shot down and killed straight after that shot was taken.

i presumed that he was shot by surprise while still idle on the tarmac and posing for pictures, and i said "yes they should be more careful even while on the ground".
the old man got cranky and said some things that were slurred so i did not understand them, but i decided to avoid talking about his son (so as not to upset him), so i focused on the jet.
i asked what kind of jet it was and what it costs to replace.

the old man seemed to go into a type of seizure and i alerted the bar staff that he may be having a stroke.
the old man was saying some very nasty things to me, so i left the situation in the hands of the bar staff and i went home.

consoling is not my forte.

there are many more examples but it is 3am now and i am quite tired now.

nighty night.



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02 Apr 2009, 11:45 am

b9 wrote:
i saw the number 11111111 just above the top lip of an aging woman at work. she is a heavy smoker. she has got a "dogs bottom" mouth because of the all the years she has pouted as she smoked her cigarettes. there are vertical lines that rise from her upper lip to her nose.

i was feeling frivolous so i said as i watched her speak "eleven million, one hundred and eleven thousand, one hundred and eleven" . she stopped talking and dismissed me as an idiot, but someone else later asked me what i meant, and i explained, and she must have told everyone because i was reprimanded later that day by management who told me to keep my non work related observations to myself.

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never tell someone you do not think they are attractive (as well as never tell them you think they are if you do not)

a woman recently at the tavern where i went to get dinner one night wound up talking to me. a male i know came to sit with me and he is a good looking person who is tanned and tall and attracts females because of his athletic build. she came to our table to meet him but wound up talking to me.

she complained that she was such a stunner that she could not shake off male admirers. she said that she found it very taxing that she was desired so much by so many men.
i said "goodness!! where do you go? they must be desperate" before i thought about it and she was extremely offended.
she said that most men found her attractive and she knew it and they made her life hell, and i said that i did not find her attractive in the slightest, and that as she was in her mid 50's she could expect a drop off soon from the attention of even the most desperate men.

she was extremely annoyed. what a hypocrite. she was complaining about all the male attention just seconds before.
i do not understand, but i realize now never to get roped into conversations about appearance.

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consoling should not be left to me.
an old drunk fellow in a pub once showed me a picture of his son who was sitting in a fighter jet sitting idle on the tarmac with the canopy open. he had dark sunglasses on and was posing for a photo-shoot. i liked the plane. the old man said that his son was shot down and killed straight after that shot was taken.

i presumed that he was shot by surprise while still idle on the tarmac and posing for pictures, and i said "yes they should be more careful even while on the ground".
the old man got cranky and said some things that were slurred so i did not understand them, but i decided to avoid talking about his son (so as not to upset him), so i focused on the jet.
i asked what kind of jet it was and what it costs to replace.

the old man seemed to go into a type of seizure and i alerted the bar staff that he may be having a stroke.
the old man was saying some very nasty things to me, so i left the situation in the hands of the bar staff and i went home.

consoling is not my forte.

there are many more examples but it is 3am now and i am quite tired now.

nighty night.



3rd thing: I don't think you could win in that situation. It seemed you were destined to say the wrong thing if you mentioned his son dying, but by focusing on the jet he might have thought you were cold, which is what NTs tend to think when you focus on things like machinery instead of the emotional/human aspect of whatever the thing is. The guy probably didn't understand that you did that to avoid upsetting him.

I suck at consoling people too, that's why I don't do it! I do it online, all I have to say is "sorry for your loss" or whatever everyone else is saying, and it shows I care without having to read a bunch of social rules. But when someone is upset in class or whatever, I avoid them at all costs because I never know what to say.


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