Zyborg wrote:
Security is more important than friendship.
Yes, but everything else being equal a loner is far more vulnerable than someone with friends, and bullies go after easy targets, therefore having some friends in and of itself makes you less likely to be bullied. Plus, everything else being equal a loner is seen as more 'abnormal' than someone with friends*, and people instinctively hate anything 'abnormal' (same as birds pecking to death a bird that has been painted another colour).
*Think Norman Bates in
Psycho - the moment he says he has no friends the audience is supposed to know he's insane. To an NT, anything else about him merely specifies his particular brand of madness.
stacieberry wrote:
At this point the bulling isn't so bad. It more or less being pushed over by other kids. If he has money or a toy he will give it to other kids if they ask just to fit in or make a friend.
He needs to stop that. It's counterproductive, as it gets him labelled 'weak' or 'stupid' - hence a better target for bullies, and it won't actually get him any proper friends - if anything, it will alienate anyone seeking actual friendship with him. I would tell him that, while the occasional minor favour is fine, giving money away is not, and even lending money is best avoided.
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25 Mar 2009, 3:07 pm
