Ever been told that you DESERVED the teasing/bullying?

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28 Sep 2009, 9:32 pm

my mom was certain it had to be something I was doing (though nobody really knew what), since getting picked on consistently through several different schools was constant. Her favorite phrase, especially when I'd bring up something like changing schools or moving was, "Wherever you go, you'll always take <my full name> with you!"

Ugh, I hated it when she said that.



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29 Sep 2009, 12:31 am

i experienced bullying in primary school, but the reason was funny - my classmates didn't like my favourite music band.. anyway, my mum told me: it's your fault, because you like this band too much... what a loads of support :/



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29 Sep 2009, 12:53 am

Mozzie wrote:
i experienced bullying in primary school, but the reason was funny - my classmates didn't like my favourite music band.. anyway, my mum told me: it's your fault, because you like this band too much... what a loads of support :/


Now that was a pretty mental thing for your mum to say. 8O



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29 Sep 2009, 6:40 am

Being bulled is bad. Being a bully is bad. Bulling is unethical and unaccepted by law.
Said that "not everything that blink is gold and not everything that stink is ..."

Bulling is a common way of being of NT due mainly to "fear of the different". Fear of the different is something ANY animal has and is a "survival" tecnic achiv by nature to protect "species integrity".
Bulling is a way to establish social hierarchy, the "bull" is usually the class leader or someone who want to appear strong.
Bulling is something that may happen with misunderstanding of other people feeling and ideas so it's a reply to you from an NT people who feel (in a different way) bullied by you.

Being bullied is something really bad but if you can reach a "wide" prospective it can help you grow up and understand people. Let me explain, I'm born with a 0 natural empaty for people (I feel others problem but not others reaction) and I always was very intelligent (I was also small and red haired, now I'm not small at all but still red haired :wink: ). I never tried to hide out my intelligence and it usually make people ungry, I don't know why it hurts people but I know that because I was bullied about it for years. Now I try to not "ridicolize" people with my brain (unless I want to do it for a reason), If no-one bullied me I'll probably still do that and I could have been a worst person.
I explain again. Bulling is bad and no-one deverve it, but sometimes it works (I'm optimistic by nature, hopefully).

Also when you understand how an NT mind work you can work-around-it. I think that an Aspe can reach very high value of mind-manipulation on normal people if he train it-self in it. At least for me it seems that once you found the key NT are easyier, their mind follow pattern (different from ours) but still pattern, usually more simple one.
Actually after being bullied for 5 years, I went to gym, get trained in martial arts (I'm not that good but nevertheless), take a new wardrobe with the help of the few friend because for me trend is something unexistant and started working on human minds, kikked a pair of stupid guys who bullied me in the past, stayied with some stupid women (just to see that it was actually far easier than I thinked about). Strange tick, space out: "Oh, I'm just under drug", NT expecially adolescents thinks that strange think (like drugs) are cool, but it's possible to work it out like an animal. After 2 years I was one of the most popular guy in my town. I don't liked it, changed town with university and started to be "more like myself". But it was a great experiment.



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29 Sep 2009, 4:02 pm

I remember, when I was at a Christian summer camp, all the other kids were bullying me and beating me on a daily basis. So, I went to one of the guidance counselors. He proceeded to tell me that I brought all of that upon myself, that nobody could possibly enjoy being around a loser like myself, and then he proceeded to take his time and have his way with me.

I didn't tell anybody about what happened at the time, because I took what he said and did to heart. Now, I feel nothing but the deepest hatred for this pathetic excuse of a man.



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30 Sep 2009, 4:13 pm

Yes, my sister tells me that at any opportunity in a subtle fashion.


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16 Nov 2009, 5:34 am

I got intro the most trubble for reactions
that I cannot control.

The terrorists would phunk with me and
I would either spit on them, mumble something
dirty abotu their mothers that they heard me
and other things and I just make it worse and
wrose and mworse and until one day I just
bit someone and got sent home almost expeleld.

In Primarys cchsosol i was called "rock chucker"
because I could throw a rock hard and straight
on target to those that would terrorise me,
they said something stuid, so I said something
back, and they terrorised threats to me so
I hit them with a rock and they went snibbling
to teaceher who sent me home, eventually
I was taken out of school and home schooled.


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