Who has no friends?

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I don't have any friends, due to my <satirical political correnctness>quite unusual</satirical political correnctness> sense of humor and my intense and specific interests, like game programming. The closest people to friends to me are WrongPlanet forum members.

I'm going to be My Own Best Friend for a couple of weeks. Than I'll pick up where I've left off, at my Clubhouse.

i have one friend and that's all.

i have two friends but find it difficult to keep them at times. before i had them i spent a lot of time with imaginary friends, i miss them sometimes.

I feel I am lucky. I have 4 friends.

Throughout all of my life I've had either a best friend (guy) or a girlfriend. I currently have a girlfriend. I still talk with my best friend from before but he did something really stupid to our friendship so I'm still keeping him at a distance; he's most likely aspie himself, so it's hard to hold a grudge against him forever for his stupid behavior.

Other than that, I have some friends from over the years I might talk to once a year or so, if I try.

Sometimes I think that it's better to have no friends, than it is to trust people, just to end up getting hurt, in the end. At least the Phone isn't constantly ringning for me, and I can pursue my Hobbies and Interests in the Evenings.

i guess you could say i dont have my true friend yet, just a bunch of acquaintences and a few ppl who used to be true friends. and on a whole different layer, online friends.

i have made a lot of friends and lost a lot of friends too. sometimes lost them over serious stuff, and sometimes over stupid stuff. but yeah, i have a hard time keeping friends.


yar.

I have friends in school. I'm alright with them in some lessons, but on the playground they keep ditching me (running away from me for no reason) so I just don't bother. I'm mostly independent.

It strikes me that by sharing these experiences we could be on the way to a serviceable problem statement. But a crucial fine distinction remains absent. Part of my problem is, indeed, in the practical failure at outreach. But another may be simply in normal interactions that such as we may find excruciatingly empty and boring for any number of reasons. Also, there may be any number of contingent relationships between the two problems.

Such are the daunting challenges to social intelligence to which we are all so hapless. Although, so I gather, there are many here of extremely stunted emotional intelligence as well, right insensitive bastards! The entire spectrum of clueless is here well represented.

Are we all on the same page thus far?

Another question to raise is: Are these incompatibilities of Aspies in navigating mainstream society, or are these intrinsic behavioral and perceptual problems, even among Aspies? Is there really a functional Aspie culture? Or is all such naught but a self serving balm of fantasy? Alas, here is a crucial controversy more suggested than debated openly.

I have seen no end of consensual validation online, but often an actual taboo against actually making plans to solve problems. No one however normal shows any sense of what it means to draw an agenda. And I have yet to find any better in any Aspie community either. Is that all there is? Or can we do better? Where oh where, is the fabled Awspie candor and practicality? Can we ever hope to progress by playing to our strengths? Or is any such hope no more than the same wishful mythology?

Personally, I am often certainly missing whatever meaningful connection that will ever truly assuage loneliness. I also yearn to organize effectively for every effective larger purpose beyond what the individual can accomplish alone. Of course, as has often been observed of Aspies, I do not value "trophy friends," "stepping stones" or other such exercises in social intelligence sans emotional intelligence. Which, of course, makes for a deadly handicap in extended social networking. And likely as a consequence, my simplest practical connections likewise leave everything to be desired.

And so, is all such an intrinsic handicap, or entirely contingent upon conventional expectations in the mainstream? In other words, can we do any better even amongst ourselves? Or are we all just well and truly f****d?

http://www.wrongplanet.net/asperger.htm ... ghlight=bs

I guess you can call my workmates superficial friends .
One girl at work has suggested that we should go clubbing or something together but I'm secretly hoping that this doesnt eventuate (she'll make me dance ). I'm still friends with my ex and his family as well. There's also a couple of people from TAFE that I havent seen in months. No really close friends at the moment.

'What people do for fun.. how the hell is it fun?! !' http://www.wrongplanet.net/asperger.htm ... ic&t=15056

I do some stuff with my scout troop, but that's the closest thing I ever do to socializing outside of school.