NT Social Rules that are Absolutely Ridiculous

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I get annoyed when, just because I'm female, I'm immediately supposed to know everything about girls and women. Some examples might include anything about relationships, make-up, gossip, fashion etc. It bugs me to no end, especially as I most of the time have no clue why your girlfriend is mad and hasn't called you back.

I don't get the thank-you card thing, either, but I've gotten better at writing them thanks to my mom. She used to have to beg me to write them. While I still don't really see the point, at least I'm in the habit now.

Also, it's really annoying when people say one thing, and they really mean another. If you want to say something, say it directly. There's no need to run circles around the issue and get mad when I don't follow. I wish people would be more honest.

Can't leave a tip in the tip jar when the cashier isn't looking.

When I'm at a bar and there's a tip jar, I try to make sure that the bartender sees me drop a dollar in after getting served so that they don't flip out like a ninja later. I've had a couple of episodes with that.

I personally do not view eating as a social activity. I don't talk to anyone at all when I am eatting and even prefer eatting by myself if at all possible. I am mostly afraid of exactly what you guys are talking about. I find it hard to stop myself from doing stuff like talking with my mouth full. I also have a problem where I can't eat food together. So for example if I have a sandwich I will eat it in pieces like eatting the bread first and then the Veggies and then the meat. So I don't like eatting infront of other people.

On the subject of eating, I've had a specific problem involving it since I was a child. Though, I'm not entirely sure if it's AS-specific or something else.

But basically, anytime I ate I NEED to breathe in big gulps while I eat, and the only way to do that is by breathing through my mouth while chewing. Because even though I can kinda breathe through my nose, I don't get a lot of air from it so most of my air comes in through my mouth. So this resulted in me chewing with my mouth open. I never saw any problem with it because I had to do it to breathe because anytime I tried to chew with my mouth closed I found myself mildly suffocating.

So whenever anyone chastised me for it, I was epically confused because from my perspective I was just trying to not starve while also not dieing due to lack of air.

Though, with time, I managed to control the amount my mouth opens when I chew so that I can still breathe but also chew adequately while keeping my mouth sorta-but-not-quite closed. But it still always perplexed me, especially when I'd see other people chewing with their mouth open, yet I was the one being yelled at?

False modesty has always gotten under my skin. "No, you have the last piece of cake, I insist!" they say - so I take it, only to have them be grumpy at me for the rest of the day. People should say what they mean!

I love how my NT bosses were making a big deal because the CEO and others that are important in the company were going to visit today. Every little nook and cranny had to be cleaned out, all the i's dotted and the t's crossed. We even have to dress up today for him.

I don't totally understand this behavior. I have sat down at meetings with our state's governor and US Congressman in blue jeans. Heck, I even got dirty while mucking a flood house with our Congressman. For the most part, these people did not care how clean that it was, or how people were dressed.

@Opal: Yeah, here in America, if your primary job is waiting tables the majority of your income comes from your tips since the minimum wage for waitstaff is generally sh***y. So not leaving a tip for them, no matter how horrible the service, is like an as*hole move on your part.

What DOESN'T make sense, though, is the amount left. My NT dad goes by a percentage system based on the quality of service (horrendous gets 10% of the bill, decent service 15%, awesome service 20%). Depending on how much we eat at any given restaurant, this sometimes means that the horrible waiters/waitresses get anywhere between $1 to $2 in tips.

IMHO, instead of percentages you should just guesstimate what a good amount should be. $5 would be the highest a tip should go (unless it was the most OMG THAT WAS FREAKIN AWESOME service you have ever received in your life, then go ahead and be one of those people who leaves $20 tips), with decent service receiving anywhere between $1 and $4. Horrible service, imo, should receive between $.25 and $.75. Because maybe if they say they were only getting change for their service, maybe then they'd seriously re-evaluate how they do their job and make efforts to be better so that they'd be more likely to receive actual green.

That's always been my logic on it. But my dad told me that that's not what you're supposed to do. Why? As far as I see it, terrible service should not be awarded with my hard-earned cash.