Interactions with blacks
i said immediately called a racist.
and the person who did so is a moderator. please do not call me absurd.
and furthermore, i really do not appreciate being called absurd by an NT. someone who does not fully understand the struggles that peoplew with ASD related issues deal with.
please, is there a parents forum that you can go to and call people names. because i really don't need your crap, or your advice.
my point is;
how is someone with ASD communication and social skills supposed to know the difference, unless they ask?
that is why i do not find this thread offensive at all.
Xon just wanted to know is how to interact with black people. but he was immediately called a racist.
that to me does not seem like support for a person with ASD on an ASD support site.
For the first part, how do you know how to joke around without being offensive? For starters, joke about everyday things and stay away from personal insults. School food, expensive books for college, and don't start a coversation about something you could care less about.
For the second part, I don't consider Xon's question to be offensive I just consider it to be stupid. It's the same question I hear from people who run into black people and assume their couple of occurences is the norm for the millions of us out there. It's annoying, judgemental, and leads to me having to explain this over and over again. If I run into a couple of white people that mess with me I don't assume all white people need to be approached carefully. I assume those couple of people were as*holes and go about my day. If someone is being bullied by black people at a majority black school where the teachers don't give a damn, guess what, it's going to happen at a mostly white school if the teachers don't do their jobs there either. Yes there are different cultures, but I believe it has more to do with location than skin color from I've seen.
and the person who did so is a moderator. please do not call me absurd.
and furthermore, i really do not appreciate being called absurd by an NT. someone who does not fully understand the struggles that peoplew with ASD related issues deal with.
please, is there a parents forum that you can go to and call people names. because i really don't need your crap, or your advice.
What?
From what I can see, Yupa is not a moderator, if she is, news to me. I didn't call you absurd, don't accuse me of something I didn't do. You don't know that I'm NT, you don't know how much I know and understand about ASD. I didn't call anyone names. I'm responding to a thread where I am allowed to, just like any member is. You didn't start this thread, so don't tell me where to post.
and i never said that i held the site in contempt...
sheer symantics. i inferred and so did you.
do you know what its like to live with autism, or live as an autistic?
may i accuse you of acting hysterical?
when did i say that you couldn't post here?
and where is the support for Xon, who has a legitimate question?
people are calling him a racist, telling them to accept it, and more.
i want advocasy, i don't want more BS.
when an aspie asks an aspie type question, then lets not answer with blah, blah, blah. give them support
can you direct me in the direction of any of the moderators.
and i believe that yupa is a 16 year old male. i could be wrong.
Why did I use the term 'blacks' rather than black people? Well, simple. I was talking about bullies, IMHO, bullies don't deserve anything that points them out as humans. In my experience, it is mainly black people that tend to do that.
I meant it was maily black people/blacks that tend to use race as a way of getting off undisciplined. Of course, this is just my expierence.
You sir, I hate to say it, are a racist, whether you think you are or not. Skin color has nothing to do with any of that.
My experience, as a skinny whitebread suburban kid, is that if you approach any sort of person with no preconcieved notions their own personality comes through. If you approach them as a black person or white person, that shows up too. I honestly don't notice the color of the person I am talking to half the time, I bet you can't say that, can you?
It seems to me that the community in the US that is identified with Black people is a much more co-operative, friendly and community minded one than the upper middle class suburban one I came from. Generally well to do folks got there by stepping on people and stabbing them in the back. I have been in the corporate world, was raised in the country club world, and that is by and large what I saw.
In this world, You have lots of "friends" and you scratch their back, and they scratch yours. But the moment a whiff of scandal taints your life, they will evaporate and tell everyone they have always disliked you. Never happened to me but I have seen it happen.
After years of slavery, then separate but equal, then people with opinionsl like yours keeping them back with overt and hidden racism, black people in the United States have to depend on one another a lot more than you or I do. Without each other, they would have been in a hopeless situation, but with each other they could get by. For example, one slave song was directions on how to find the underground railroad, for more: http://www2.lhric.org/pocantico/tubman/gourd.htm This song was sung by all so everyone could memorize the way to freedom. There was no advantage to any single person, all were stuck and singing the song gave them a taste of freedom and a satisfaction that the people watching them had no idea what they were saying. Poverty and opression can bond people better than most other glues, sadly.
Obviously criminals and hooligans of any colour are to be avoided, sadly that is the brush most white culture seems to tar black culture with, throwing them in jail at an alarming rate completely out of whack with any possible reality. We have the highest percentage of our poplulation in jail of any nation in the world, and that population is about 70% black. They aren't that criminal, we are just that racist. No way in heck 10% of the population does 70% of the crime, just not possible. The racism inherent in the system gives the white kid probation and the black kid hard time for the same damn thing, for no good reason other than they think the white kid is more likely to turn around and go straight.
In the end though, people are people. I tend to maybe go overboard to give people of color the benefit of the doubt as they have had a hard road in the USA and it hasn't improved in my neck of the woods all that much, as far as I can tell. It is lovely when I go abroad as no other country in the world that I have been to has the level of disregard for a race that we do. I suppose somalia, iraq etc are worse, but do we really want to argue over who is at the bottom of the barrel? Don't we want to be fighting for the top spot?
I live in the swankiest subdivision in a largely black & impoverished area, picture families walking dogs up and down the sidewalks in front of well kept stately 2000+ square foot homes on 1/3 acre, all made from stone & brick, with lots of stained glass & solid wood and you will get the picture. Not dangerous by a remote stretch of the imagination. Golf course on one side, catholic girls school on the other, and a college campus on the third & fourth side.
Even with this, because of my zip code and suroundings, I have called tree services about 10 times apiece and they won't come out to look at my ^%&*&^ tree. When I lived in a largely white area and called the same services, they were out within a day, and I am closer to them here AND my neighborhood is 10x nicer and safer. I am going to start patronizing local businesses, not because of their color, but because they don't treat me like crap because of who my neighbors are, as they are my neighbors.
Best thing about my neighborhood is being 60% caucasian and 40% black, I never have to worry about living next to a racist. People that would treat a human being with a family and friends and hopes and dreams different because of a SKIN PIGMENTATION DENSITY DIFFERENCE, are not anyone I want to live anywhere near. Thankfully they would never live here, so I am safe from their ilk for some time.
take care,
Jester
I disagree. In most cases, no. But in terms of behaviour, you can hardly claim someone's making this up because they are being racist if you're the same colour as them, now can you? Lots of black people/coloured people/blacks/coloureds/non-whites are lovely.
And last time I checked, yeh, things have happened in the past but that's just it- THE PAST.
What I object to is people deciding that just because their ancestors, note their ancestors, not them, were slaves, that gives them a free pass to behave however they like towards others and think that 'I can't do anything wrong. If someone tries to discipline me, I'll call them out as being racist'. If we say that slavery wasn't totally scrapped until the '60s as one WPer claims, that still means that no-one in complusory education today was a slave, is a slave, and it is highely unlikely they will be a slave.
Hell no! Too lazy, and I don't like to coddle people.
i am beginning to like you.
hey, can you answer a question for me?
does WP have moderators? and are they advertized like they used to be?
No clue. There have been too many changes for me to even bother keeping up with them. Oh by the way, why the hell are we talking about moderators? Get back on topic grey pubes.
Why did I use the term 'blacks' rather than black people? Well, simple. I was talking about bullies, IMHO, bullies don't deserve anything that points them out as humans. In my experience, it is mainly black people that tend to do that.
I meant it was maily black people/blacks that tend to use race as a way of getting off undisciplined. Of course, this is just my expierence.
You sir, I hate to say it, are a racist, whether you think you are or not. Skin color has nothing to do with any of that.
My experience, as a skinny whitebread suburban kid, is that if you approach any sort of person with no preconcieved notions their own personality comes through. If you approach them as a black person or white person, that shows up too. I honestly don't notice the color of the person I am talking to half the time, I bet you can't say that, can you?
It seems to me that the community in the US that is identified with Black people is a much more co-operative, friendly and community minded one than the upper middle class suburban one I came from. Generally well to do folks got there by stepping on people and stabbing them in the back. I have been in the corporate world, was raised in the country club world, and that is by and large what I saw.
In this world, You have lots of "friends" and you scratch their back, and they scratch yours. But the moment a whiff of scandal taints your life, they will evaporate and tell everyone they have always disliked you. Never happened to me but I have seen it happen.
After years of slavery, then separate but equal, then people with opinionsl like yours keeping them back with overt and hidden racism, black people in the United States have to depend on one another a lot more than you or I do. Without each other, they would have been in a hopeless situation, but with each other they could get by. For example, one slave song was directions on how to find the underground railroad, for more: http://www2.lhric.org/pocantico/tubman/gourd.htm This song was sung by all so everyone could memorize the way to freedom. There was no advantage to any single person, all were stuck and singing the song gave them a taste of freedom and a satisfaction that the people watching them had no idea what they were saying. Poverty and opression can bond people better than most other glues, sadly.
Obviously criminals and hooligans of any colour are to be avoided, sadly that is the brush most white culture seems to tar black culture with, throwing them in jail at an alarming rate completely out of whack with any possible reality. We have the highest percentage of our poplulation in jail of any nation in the world, and that population is about 70% black. They aren't that criminal, we are just that racist. No way in heck 10% of the population does 70% of the crime, just not possible. The racism inherent in the system gives the white kid probation and the black kid hard time for the same damn thing, for no good reason other than they think the white kid is more likely to turn around and go straight.
In the end though, people are people. I tend to maybe go overboard to give people of color the benefit of the doubt as they have had a hard road in the USA and it hasn't improved in my neck of the woods all that much, as far as I can tell. It is lovely when I go abroad as no other country in the world that I have been to has the level of disregard for a race that we do. I suppose somalia, iraq etc are worse, but do we really want to argue over who is at the bottom of the barrel? Don't we want to be fighting for the top spot?
I live in the swankiest subdivision in a largely black & impoverished area, picture families walking dogs up and down the sidewalks in front of well kept stately 2000+ square foot homes on 1/3 acre, all made from stone & brick, with lots of stained glass & solid wood and you will get the picture. Not dangerous by a remote stretch of the imagination. Golf course on one side, catholic girls school on the other, and a college campus on the third & fourth side.
Even with this, because of my zip code and suroundings, I have called tree services about 10 times apiece and they won't come out to look at my ^%&*&^ tree. When I lived in a largely white area and called the same services, they were out within a day, and I am closer to them here AND my neighborhood is 10x nicer and safer. I am going to start patronizing local businesses, not because of their color, but because they don't treat me like crap because of who my neighbors are, as they are my neighbors.
Best thing about my neighborhood is being 60% caucasian and 40% black, I never have to worry about living next to a racist. People that would treat a human being with a family and friends and hopes and dreams different because of a SKIN PIGMENTATION DENSITY DIFFERENCE, are not anyone I want to live anywhere near. Thankfully they would never live here, so I am safe from their ilk for some time.
take care,
Jester
I disagree. In most cases, no. But in terms of behaviour, you can hardly claim someone's making this up because they are being racist if you're the same colour as them, now can you? Lots of black people/coloured people/blacks/coloureds/non-whites are lovely.
And last time I checked, yeh, things have happened in the past but that's just it- THE PAST.
What I object to is people deciding that just because their ancestors, note their ancestors, not them, were slaves, that gives them a free pass to behave however they like towards others and think that 'I can't do anything wrong. If someone tries to discipline me, I'll call them out as being racist'. If we say that slavery wasn't totally scrapped until the '60s as one WPer claims, that still means that no-one in complusory education today was a slave, is a slave, and it is highely unlikely they will be a slave.
I hate to burst your bubble, but the prison systems are completely jacked up when it comes to sentencing blacks and it still goes on today. http://www.hrw.org/reports/2000/usa/Rcedrg00-01.htm
I tried to explain my position but I don't think I did a very good job. However, on another topic, I managed to come across much better.
I also think it explains why the OP was jumped on as a racist.
Anyways thanks to the marvels of copy and paste, I don't have to write it all out and again.
So without further ado:
I don't particulary care what you are.
****, I'm not really that bothered about what planet you're from, let alone country or your chromosicial/neurologicial/genetic make-up.
However, I am bothered if you choose to use it as an excuse for what is obviously inapporpiate behaviour, regardless of who's doing what with whom.
By this, I mean the legal stuff.
Now, I'm all for people getting the same rights because/or in spite of them being a minority.
What I object to is using the minority status as a 'Free Out of Jail' card and saying that anyone is ________ist purely because it suits you and paying no regard to whether that has anything to do with the situation at hand or not.
So while I agree with:
All races deserve respect. No race is above another.
There are also two other urban dictionary definitions which I feel highlight my point.
If you're a white man, this is what you are. It doesn't even matter if your wife is black and you have an adopted child from India, or how many black friends you have, somehow you're going to end up being a racist according to how the media portrays the white man as "racist whities".
All of this is funny because the white man is the one that is stereotyped as being racist, which is hypocrisy at its best. It's racist to assume that white men are racists.
If you don't get offended by racial insults, then you're apparently racist too, but an actual racist would get offended by it. When you hear a certain word too much (I'm sure we've all heard "cracka" hundreds of times thanks to standup comedy) then you become desensitized to it.
Well, that and the words white people get called sound stupid or non-offending. "cracker" came from cracking whips. Indiana Jones cracked whips too, and he was a badass. "honkey" sounds like some kind of gigantic sandwich, and "white boy" makes you seem like the lone white kid in breakdance movies that stands out amongst the other races and white kids. Most people only really think of rednecks when they think of "white trash" so they don't get offended by it if they're not rednecks.
Statistics guy: It was found out that the majority of blacks in America listen to hip hop---
Overzealous guy: WTF YOU RACIST I HAVE A BLACK FRIEND THAT DOESN'T LISTEN TO HIP HOP
Statistics guy: But I said the majority, meaning not all of th---
Overzealous guy: YEAH WHATEVER HITLER
Please note that I know the following only happens in ceratin cases. I'm just showing you what I object to. When ___ist/___phobic is used in the context of 'racist'
racist
565 up, 327 down
A term usually used by minorities to get out of any situation.
"Sir, I may have to give you a ticket for raping and brutally murdering that nun."
"You f***' cracka ass racist! It's just because I'm black ain't it? You say that f***' word like you know what you be talkin' bout! You is ignorant!
First of all, I don't think color or ethnic identity is what anyone should have difficulty understanding. I think it is cultural difference that cause most of the misunderstandings. Black skin color and black culture are related in that they often co-occur, but there are white people who act black (Ali G, to an extent). My original question regarding interactions with blacks was asked about black culture, not skin color.
You know I was reading about Borat coming to America and trashing Kazakhstan the other day, and I read some of the stuff he said: the age of consent in Kazakhstan has been raised to 4, that homosexuals are required to wear blue hats in Kazakhstan, and donkeys have a higher social status than a man's wife. And Kazakhstan is quite angry about this...how is it any different than the trashing of the South on SNL and in other mass media portrayals of Southerners in the United States? I promise you, there are some in the South you don't like it, but we've gotten use to it, and just laugh it off. Kazakhs need to lighten up! It's just culture man.
Although, knowing culture is important when you are trying to conduct business, as I have had questions about, getting my key card and change and so forth...
Either way it is part of their culture to exchange barbs and to be harsh with each other... I see it in NT culture as a whole, really, where it is considered funny when someone is hurt or people tease each other "for fun," but it does seem particularly concentrated in black culture, esp. poorer black groups. I live in a neighborhood that is about 50% black so I see this a lot.
I doubt an aspie, black or not, would be able to behave in that manner, as it requires so much vision of social cues, perception of unspoken rules, and spontaneous verbal banter.
1. a group of 12.
2. the dozens, Slang. a ritualized game typically engaged in by two persons each of whom attempts to outdo the other in insults directed against members of the other's family (usually used in the phrase play the dozens).
I also think it explains why the OP was jumped on as a racist.
Anyways thanks to the marvels of copy and paste, I don't have to write it all out and again.
So without further ado:
I don't particulary care what you are.
****, I'm not really that bothered about what planet you're from, let alone country or your chromosicial/neurologicial/genetic make-up.
However, I am bothered if you choose to use it as an excuse for what is obviously inapporpiate behaviour, regardless of who's doing what with whom.
By this, I mean the legal stuff.
Now, I'm all for people getting the same rights because/or in spite of them being a minority.
What I object to is using the minority status as a 'Free Out of Jail' card and saying that anyone is ________ist purely because it suits you and paying no regard to whether that has anything to do with the situation at hand or not.
So while I agree with:
All races deserve respect. No race is above another.
There are also two other urban dictionary definitions which I feel highlight my point.
If you're a white man, this is what you are. It doesn't even matter if your wife is black and you have an adopted child from India, or how many black friends you have, somehow you're going to end up being a racist according to how the media portrays the white man as "racist whities".
All of this is funny because the white man is the one that is stereotyped as being racist, which is hypocrisy at its best. It's racist to assume that white men are racists.
If you don't get offended by racial insults, then you're apparently racist too, but an actual racist would get offended by it. When you hear a certain word too much (I'm sure we've all heard "cracka" hundreds of times thanks to standup comedy) then you become desensitized to it.
Well, that and the words white people get called sound stupid or non-offending. "cracker" came from cracking whips. Indiana Jones cracked whips too, and he was a badass. "honkey" sounds like some kind of gigantic sandwich, and "white boy" makes you seem like the lone white kid in breakdance movies that stands out amongst the other races and white kids. Most people only really think of rednecks when they think of "white trash" so they don't get offended by it if they're not rednecks.
Statistics guy: It was found out that the majority of blacks in America listen to hip hop---
Overzealous guy: WTF YOU RACIST I HAVE A BLACK FRIEND THAT DOESN'T LISTEN TO HIP HOP
Statistics guy: But I said the majority, meaning not all of th---
Overzealous guy: YEAH WHATEVER HITLER
Please note that I know the following only happens in ceratin cases. I'm just showing you what I object to. When ___ist/___phobic is used in the context of 'racist'
racist
565 up, 327 down
A term usually used by minorities to get out of any situation.
"Sir, I may have to give you a ticket for raping and brutally murdering that nun."
"You f***' cracka ass racist! It's just because I'm black ain't it? You say that f***' word like you know what you be talkin' bout! You is ignorant!
Yeah that's exactly how life is. Black people get away with crimes all the time because we use the race card. The website I pulled up from the Human Rights Watch paints a very different picture. If you want to look like you actually know what you're talking about, do some research and quit gathering data from BET.
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