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14 Apr 2007, 7:48 pm

It means shut up, look at what's around you, and work through it with your own belief and your own mettle. Your self-esteem and anger problems need working on first though.

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14 Apr 2007, 7:52 pm

RedMage wrote:

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15 is a crap age to be though, so point taken.

All teenage years are crap.

Yes but being positive, the thing to remember is that your life doesn't have to be defined by your teenage years; afterwards you are free to go off and do whatever you like in life and you will be fully responsible for your situation and will have nothing left to blame.

The best thing is just to bear out teenage life as best as possible; I mean some people have to deal with poverty, abusive parents and all kinds of bad situations. My grandfather had to quit school at 13 and go out and work to support his mother and brother; my grandmother had an abusive father and didn't always have the basics in like like 3 square meals a day and was then orphaned at 14 and had to fend for herself. Not everyone has the luxury of being able to use their teenage years to follow (and even discover) their interests and work out what they want to do in life so there is no point in wasting the opportunity by being negative.

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14 Apr 2007, 7:53 pm

Have you told your parents about how do you feel, that you need a friend?
Are you getting any therapy counseling or treatment with you and your parents?

Just an idea,
if you see a psychiatrist, he/she could recommend you to befriend another person your age which had the same symptoms.

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14 Apr 2007, 7:54 pm

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Make do with what I have... What does that mean?

The things you already have, posessions and friends wise. Is there a point to being upset about things that aren't even in your town? I don't think you should worry so much. You have online friends. And one thing I've learned from real life friends is that they need eye contact, and various other things you don't need online. I'd much rather have online friends for the moment.
Heh, I know why you're so worried, I've been through that before. Trust me, worry such as this tends to be a passing phase.

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14 Apr 2007, 8:00 pm

Tequila wrote:

It means shut up, look at what's around you, and work through it with your own belief and your own mettle. Your self-esteem and anger problems need working on first though.

Not exactly. I didn't say shut up.

Put your mind to rest, and calm yourself down, think things out clearly. I don't see things as being that bad at all for you.

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14 Apr 2007, 8:02 pm

RedMage wrote:

I hurt people, a LOT. I even broke a man's nose.

Sounds like me at your age. I had (and still do I guess) one heck of a temper. Got me into a lot of trouble. Friends helped a lot, but that didn't come until much later. I guess much of what I did was escape. Computer games are one form, but I like some physicality too. I'd hack at a pell for hours, shot archery quite a bit, and pretty much readied myself for the physical fighting that I expected (hoped) that I would face.

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14 Apr 2007, 8:03 pm

Anubis wrote:

Tequila wrote:

It means shut up, look at what's around you, and work through it with your own belief and your own mettle. Your self-esteem and anger problems need working on first though.

Not exactly. I didn't say shut up.

Put your mind to rest, and calm yourself down, think things out clearly. I don't see things as being that bad at all for you.

The meaning is there. 'Shut up' meaning kill the helpless whining. You do have a voice there, even if life is hard. And it is hard. I have my own problems, even with learning to do simple, simple tasks. I have to learn these things again and again. So it's not like you are alone in the hard graft.

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14 Apr 2007, 8:07 pm

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I want to do archery! But I don't think anyone does it here.

Is there an archery club?

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14 Apr 2007, 8:08 pm

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I want to do archery! But I don't think anyone does it here.

That's the beauty of it - no one has to. You can probably get set up for under $150 US (don't really know the exchange rate) with a fairly light bow and targets. The real problem is space. I grew up in a small town, so the houses all had an acre or so - which is sufficient. Hay was easy to find, but boxes filled with a tight pile of material work even better. It's a good way to spend a couple hours a day.

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14 Apr 2007, 8:12 pm

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There's no other Aspies where I live though. And I can't see a psychiatrist or anything, because they told mum they can't help us anymore.

They can't help you anymore? it sounds to me, they just don't want to.
There are no other aspies, but probably a few with personality disorders with temper problems, not necesarily aspies, I dont know if this could work though.

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