Being rude and aspies

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At least I know a guy who appreciates my honesty and lack of social resistance to multiple tactlessness and innuendo, satire and other craziness. When we are around, though, I normally get at least five death looks by others per day. And that is a good day

The worst is this avid iPod churchgoing connoisseur, she takes things TOO seriously, being all righteous and bizzare.

I can be rude, insensitive and joke about inappropriate things, but I'm not totally clueless. I can learn what is inappopriate in a mechanical fashion and something like that is just too clearly mean to miss. However I could have made a mistake like that once with someone who was clearly young and pretty.

I am not usually rude, but I do find people in general are very rude these days, you can't walk in a mall anywhere without people shoving into you because they think they are above being polite and move out of the way, like I try to. I have had people inline at grocery stores ram their carts into my legs, then not apologize, if your from Canada and shop at Superstore you know what I am talking about. I don't like going anywhere, I hate crowds, and feel so called "normal people" are the rudest and most miserable people around!

A rude awakening

I haven't been called rude for a while, just sarcastic. Maybe even a little cynical, but sarcastic? I prefer the term ironic as I do not understand sarcasm.

I can be very sarcastic, and cutting especially with rude people, or family.

Your bf sounds abusive even though I don't know him. Aspie or not, that's called verbal abuse and you shouldn't have to up with that. I'm an Aspie but I know where the line is drawn basically. I know that I've often had ppl read me the wrong way. When this happens, I try to ask if what I said came out offensive. I used to get angry because I didn't know what they were mad about.

People say me as stupid , silly, crazy, etc for this joke around thing.

Even rude ,arrogant , childish and stupid for my honesty/blunt answer .

I'm very careful at not being rude, sometimes I feel I should be more rude among close friends, as it something expected I guess. But I have the problem of speaking out loud about taboo topics, and things you shouldn't say that I consider harmless and interesting to debate to ... like religion.

Oh yeah, this is definitely me. People think I'm a total as*hole. I also happen to be very attractive, something I didn't know until a little while ago, so people think I'm doing it because I think I'm smarter and better looking than they are. Even though I didn't realize that until recently. Anyways, I used to crazily think that people could read my mind. That they could understand my true intentions, but as it turns out most people have no f*****g clue what my intentions are. I also have the problem of thinking and talking at the same time, where I'll think part of what I want to say and then say another portion and then assume the people know what I'm talking about. Or sometimes I'll tell jokes and people will be offended.

I rarely get in trouble for what I say; it's what I dont say or do that tends to lead to people thinking I am being rude. This is especially true when visiting family with cleaning; I never know what to do to help with cleaning without being prompted and am considered rude because of it.

I can alo be too blunt at times...but I was raissed to treat other how I'd like to be treated haha.

I usually try really hard not to be rude or offend people.....but sometimes I do so unintentionally (people misinterpret what I say. For example my ex-fiance's sister was offended because she said (to my ex) that I was rude and abrupt when she asked if I needed help planning my wedding. She asked me "do you need help with the wedding planning" ,I said "no". This was over the phone so my body language and facial expression couldn't have been an issue......and I don't think I had an unusual tone of voice when I said it......I wasn't angry or annoyed with her...so there would have been no reason for me to. I did not need help with wedding planning! I don;t know what she thought I was implying.

My guess is she assumed it meant you wanted nothing to do with her...stupid thing to take from it, but people are hopelessly lost in their interaction style...

See I don't get that......how does one go from "she doesn't need the help I offered her specifically with planning her wedding" to "she wants nothing to do with me"? Would a normal person have pretended they needed help?

edit- Or would a normal person have said she didn't need help but asked if the to be sister-in-law wanted to hag our instead? If she had asked me if I wanted to hang out with her I would have said yes.

They would've because for some reason wedding planning is a family affair...could be feudal reasons. It is still an outdated idea to me.

Haha, "hag out instead." Yeah, they'd gossip a lot. 99% chance you wouldn't go for that though.

So as part of the family she was supposed to help with planning, she was supposed to be consulted? I really wish she had just said "I think I should help you plan your wedding" or "I should be consulted about wedding decisions as I'm soon to be part of your family". When someone asks me if I need help with something, I consider whether I need help with it, and politely decline help if I don;t need it.

lol okay "hang out"................yes,.....she was very gossipy...........her and I didn't get along very well......not just because of the wedding planning. I just thought if she was offended that I didn't want to spend time with her she should have just asked me to spend time with her...... urrrrgggggggg I hate it when people are indirect like that!