What do you think of how aspies are treated by other people?

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SpiderMonkey, you're insane. And I mean that in the most serious way possible, you need help.

As people needed to copy my homeworks, I have not been bullied too often. Of course one would throw a chewing gum into my hair now and then, but this did not happen on a regular basis. I was not loved, but respected and I do not blame any of my former classmates for what they have done or said about me. Since I have offended and insulted them in many ways (but not deliberately!), it would not be logical to expect them to show any kind of affection towards me. (In addition to that, I have never been the "funny" person one would like to hang around with the whole time...)

I think we are better then NT's because for me, I can't speak for other people with AS, I don't feel the NEED to go out ans socialize and play the "raindeer games" that NT's do. I think alot of people with AS feel the same.
NT's fear us. I think we are the next step in evolition, we are direct and to the point without going though all the social BS NT's think is normal.

Some of them do, but, I suppose, just because they think that you might be mad/lunatic and try to kill them or something like that. (Fear of the Unknown)



Dou you think we are better survivors than NTs?

Yes, because we have to learn to adapt and survive alone for the most part. This makes us stronger, better then most NT's.
My first real relationship was with a NT, she always anted to socailize, do things with lots of other people, all the time. The times it was just us, she was really uptight, bored. She thought there was something wrong with her. We had a lot of problems, I did not know i had AS when i was seeing her. So our abailty to tune out the BS and focus on what really matters will make us the true survivors.

People who know me at college typical like to walk up to me and wave their hands in front of my face to make me flinch then laugh at me. Since these are people I get along with I don't mind so much, but they don't seem to understand that it's not quite so fun for me as I react erractically.

I often shield my eyes if people move their hands towards my face. I don't mind certain people I know trying to touch my face or me. But when someone spontaneously coming up to me and flapping their hands in my face.

Introverted NTs exist too, you know.

Have you tried asking them politely to stop? I don't think anyone likes having things waved in their faces, really.

Yeah but I fall over the place, and stuff. I take it as humour, but If I'm in a bad mood I get a bit offensive. Often it's not much. When I drink I chill out abit.

I get along with more people at college than at school. People are less likely to offend me for the way I dress or walk (apparently I have a bounceing walk that resembles Shaggy from Scobby-Doo).

At school people would wind me up about my interests, mum, just to get me wound up.
Towards the end I think I became a stronger person, because people yelling things at me in the street just seems part of everyday life.

spidermonkey, I feel your pain...most of the time. NT's dont understand us and that which they dont understand they try to exclude (the theroy behind why i hate the survivor series.. but i digress). I have been teased, excluded, tormented, and even assulted by NT's in the past becasue they see my strangely superior mind as a threat. (now as an adult there isnt any physical assaults as in school but the verbal battle often wages on)
I dont expect them to understand how my mind works. But they should offer up acceptance. I laugh along with them, and remind myself that Im the one they have to ask for answers on the tough problems.

Why are you apologetic? Someone who does that needs a punch in the face. It is bullying behavior.

If you go up to the guy in the dictionary labled "normal", I bet if you put your hands up to his eyes he flinches. It is instinctual animal reaction to protect the eyes.

Next time someone tries it, slap their hands away. You are an adult. No one has the right to do that to you. It is self defense. You can tell anyone that those people were putting their hands in your face and you got scared so you slapped their hands away.

The people will believe you and probably agree with your reaction.

If you think that is too much, go put your hands in a policeman's face and see what happens. Put your hands in your teachers face and see what happens. Put your hands in a strangers face and see what happens.

I just saw a video about halloween. Some guy was on his porch in a mask like he was a dummy. A black guy comes up and touches him thinking it was a dummy. The guy starts to move to scare the black man and the black man punched him right in the face out of fright. He wasn't a bad person, he reacted to his fear instinctively.

That voice thing is exactly what people say about me! That my voice isn't commanding and dammit I can't make it commanding. And people react only badly to the only tones of voice I have, very happy...where my voice does its own thing...I can't modulate it, and annoyed with humanity, just general, etc where you could say my voice goes flat. That happens pretty easily and people mistake it for all sorts of things. I had speech therapy for years as a child and honestly I don't think it worked.