NTs can say whatever they like and we can't

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I have to be very careful with humor since it has got me into some trouble over the years. I have repeated jokes that people thought were uproariously funny coming from an NT but horrifyingly inappropriate when coming from me.

It's usually on autism sites like this is where I get the lectures where some take the NT's side and sees me as the problem, but if the boot was on the other foot some would still take the NT's side and I'd still be the problem.

Like when that woman put her baby next to me on a bus that wasn't full and had ample empty seats available, and I wasn't sitting nearest to the door where most people with young children sit where they can be near their pram or whatever. I was upstairs, sitting out of the way, and there were only about 4 or 5 other people up there, which leaves about 20 empty seats - including the seats directly behind me and near me on the other side of the aisle. So it just didn't make sense for a woman to want to dump her baby next to a stranger and sit elsewhere when there were plenty of seats to be able to sit with your baby, which would be the most reasonable thing a parent would do. I didn't want to be bombarded with someone else's baby on a bus.
I ranted about it on WP but most of the people in the thread took the woman's side and lectured that I was in the wrong for feeling anxious and moving to a different seat.
BUT... (a big, fat, and important but)
if I had for some reason decided to put a baby or a dog or a backpack next to a stranger on a bus and then ranted on WP asking why the stranger looked uncomfortable and got up and moved, some would still be on the stranger's side and be like, "I'd have done the same if a total stranger had just dumped their kid or belongings in the seat next to me without asking, and I also would have been weirded out too, being so you had the choice of several other seats to sit in, all NTs know that the hidden rule of public transport is not to sit in a seat next to a stranger unless there are very little or no other choice of seats available. So if that person wasn't expecting anyone to sit next to him or put their belongings next to him, he probably felt uncomfortable or even annoyed that you assumed that he wouldn't mind his personal space being taken up unnecessarily. Have empathy!"

NTs do get away with saying whatever they like to non-NTs.

It's like NTs have implied to most of us at some time in our lives:

"You're stupid and worthless because you are different. Nobody cares about you or your feelings, you don't deserve to walk this Earth, I hate you, you ret*d freak!"

Then from the same neurotype (NTs), we are told:

"Never insult people, hurting people's feelings is wrong, it is socially unacceptable to upset anybody, if you do invalidate someone's feelings then you need to be seriously educated because it is not right."


I remember back in high school I was emotionally bullied by some of the other girls in my class. They'd put me down, make me feel worthless, exclude me, ignore me, insult me, and give off the "we don't care about you" attitude towards me. Then one day, for the first time ever, I sort of accidentally insulted one of them by saying "eww!" at her lunch she'd made in cookery class. I didn't mean it horribly, it was just that it was salad and I don't like salads. She kind of overreacted and said, "this took me an hour to make", and then the other girls gathered around her as if to comfort her from the only insult I'd ever blurted out in my life. It's like they had all forgotten about all the times they emotionally bullied me and when I give them what they gave me they don't like it.
I wish I'd got up and yelled, "now you know how I've felt all this time when you've hurt my feelings, you pretentious cow!" and walked away. But back then I didn't have the stamina to stand up for myself. I just gave her an apologetic look, felt very guilty and awkward, and continued suffering in silence from their continuous emotional bullying.

If a NT individual chooses the rude or revolting , it is not necessary that you validate their behavior by reacting to
It .. Walking away as soon as you detect something wrong in the way a person has a dealt with you can generally cause a blow to their ego , if you. ARE NOT PREDICTABLE TO THEM it can be hard to do. And recognize sometimes.
And by no means am i a expert , but. , i have used it effectively in the past.