Why can't I have friends?

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Berserker, if you really live in the absolute middle of nowhere, have you ever considered moving? You sound so miserable and you have absolutely nowhere to go in the little place you're in now; there seems to be one or zero of everything where you live and you are constantly talking about how your hometown doesn't have this or that. Not even a coffee shop.

If you really feel you have nowhere to go, and you desperately want it, I think you should reconsider whether you really want to be trapped in a tiny place like that. As an earlier user said, you are going around in circles all over yourself and you desperately need to get out.

I really think if you have absolutely no place to turn to, your family should all pack their bags and head for the city to start over new. I see no other solution for you - moving to a more populated area will get you friends, places to go, and adventures you never knew existed.

I know it sounds crazy and the rest of your family won't want to put up with such a change, but it seems to me that it's the only way for you to get one little spark of happiness. Go to Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane, Canberra, Adelaide, or Cairns. You'll find something to do and plenty of people to meet there. I'm sure of it.

Seriously. I suggest you blaze some new trails and find a way to get out of that rural nothingness that seems to trouble you to no end.

My family won't move though, that's the problem.

I've found your town in Wikipedia. It is not very big (less that 30000), but it is definetly not a "hole". I suppose, that it is possible to find some group of people to attend them.


There is another way: e.g. to enter some colledge or university not in your town and live in a dormitary. By the way, Wikipedia says that your city has two colledges. And your city is rather near to Adelaide, a real metropolis. 80 km is only 1-1.5 hours for car or train.

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Friends!

any clubs at all you could go to for anything?

Not meaning to be buggy or redundant, But i have some ideas...

Go to the driving range and hit golf balls? Junior golf is supposed to be growing in your town.
Try lawn bowling? The usual game is drawn pairs and costs $3.00 greens fees.
Join an indoor bowling league?
Volunteer at the Monarto zoo?
Learn to fish?
Join the local gym?
See if any of the local horse trainers want help?
Hang out at the public swimming pool?
Hang out at the library?
Hang out at Diamond Park?
Watch your local football teams in person?

What do you think?

Nope. None at all.

Well, you should get involved in SOMETHING outside your family. That should help you get a little more social. You won't know the progress you would make until you look back on your life either before or when you first started.

I can't get involved in things outside my family though.

You should talk to your family about what you can get involved with. It doesn't have to be in town, but in the surrounding area. I was in an Aspie support group a couple of years ago and the meetings were about a half-hour's distance from my home town.

Mum won't take me out of the town.

This just isn't right. Your family should be supporting you and should be helping you overcome your AS.

I know... They treat me a like a NT.

Well, they should do a little more research on AS and also respect who you are as a person and what you go through.

Like that's gonna happen...

All I can say is that they're not being very supportive.