27 Nov 2009, 2:17 pm
Maggiedoll wrote:
Spokane_Girl wrote:
You can tell they have been on here when you see their new posts.
Right.. but like I pointed out.. replying to a post where a response jumps into your head isn't the same as replying to a PM where you're going to have to say what you mean correctly because it's only being said to one person and there aren't other people to help you to clarify it.. There are lots of times I reply to posts before replying to PMs... PMs feel like way more pressure most of the time. (Maybe that's silly..
)Hey, Maggiedoll, I just said the same but in way more words than you above, maybe we would fit as friends, sending each other PM,s
And about me and my friendseeking on WP:
I thought maybe my long statement of the other page might get people blocked to contact me. Like I would give a list of rules or so.
Nah, Its great to get influences from someone else and to learn about another persons special interest you know nothing about.
You dont have to "fit me perfectly", I can be openminded.
Most important is that you DONT ask me for my real name or where Im from. AVOID to joke with me the first you do as I can get offended and NEVER talk to me about "adult issues"!
That would totally freak me out!!
27 Nov 2009, 9:38 pm
xalepax wrote:
Maggiedoll wrote:
Spokane_Girl wrote:
You can tell they have been on here when you see their new posts.
Right.. but like I pointed out.. replying to a post where a response jumps into your head isn't the same as replying to a PM where you're going to have to say what you mean correctly because it's only being said to one person and there aren't other people to help you to clarify it.. There are lots of times I reply to posts before replying to PMs... PMs feel like way more pressure most of the time. (Maybe that's silly..
)Hey, Maggiedoll, I just said the same but in way more words than you above, maybe we would fit as friends, sending each other PM,s
And about me and my friendseeking on WP:
I thought maybe my long statement of the other page might get people blocked to contact me. Like I would give a list of rules or so.
Nah, Its great to get influences from someone else and to learn about another persons special interest you know nothing about.
You dont have to "fit me perfectly", I can be openminded.
Most important is that you DONT ask me for my real name or where Im from. AVOID to joke with me the first you do as I can get offended and NEVER talk to me about "adult issues"!
That would totally freak me out!!
I'll try and avoid my sense of humor then.
27 Nov 2009, 9:46 pm
Spokane_Girl wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
Spokane_Girl wrote:
BruceCM wrote:
If anybody wants to pm or email me, they're welcome to! 
We'll I sure did and no repsonse. *sighs*
What gives?
And you said you'll reply to any PM? Yeah right.
Time stamp on his post: Tue Nov 24, 2009 9:04 pm
Time stamp on your post complaining about a lack of response: Wed Nov 25, 2009 8:54 am
(Time stamps are as they appear in my time zone.)
That is less than 12 hours. I read that he said he'd replied, but if he hadn't, he might have been sleeping, working, any number of things. You can't expect people to always be sitting at their computer, always ready to reply to a message from you.
You can tell they have been on here when you see their new posts.
They might find it more important to post on the forums than to reply to you, or they may find the more personal communication involved in PMs more difficult than posting on the forums.
28 Nov 2009, 12:28 am
Who_Am_I wrote:
They might find it more important to post on the forums than to reply to you, or they may find the more personal communication involved in PMs more difficult than posting on the forums.
I think that's what I said, but I think you said it better.
Also, what seems "personal" in answering a direct question about oneself seems, to me, less daunting than saying the same thing in a response to something someone says about themselves.
Like, someone asks me "what I do" and stuff, and I get all embarrassed about what a failure I am being on disability and not having accomplished the things I wanted to accomplish... But sharing that same information in response to someone else's post about feeling that same way, or about being on disability, about the problems they've had with jobs, or with schools, etc... it doesn't feel so personal... I guess because it's sharing information about something someone else has already shared information about? Or because there's less focus on me personally, so it's less "personal"? Or because the topic has already been brought up so I don't feel like talking about it will cause me to be judged quite so much?
Just.. all different factors, I guess.
29 Nov 2009, 7:09 pm
Maggiedoll wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
They might find it more important to post on the forums than to reply to you, or they may find the more personal communication involved in PMs more difficult than posting on the forums.
I think that's what I said, but I think you said it better.
Also, what seems "personal" in answering a direct question about oneself seems, to me, less daunting than saying the same thing in a response to something someone says about themselves.
Like, someone asks me "what I do" and stuff, and I get all embarrassed about what a failure I am being on disability and not having accomplished the things I wanted to accomplish... But sharing that same information in response to someone else's post about feeling that same way, or about being on disability, about the problems they've had with jobs, or with schools, etc... it doesn't feel so personal... I guess because it's sharing information about something someone else has already shared information about? Or because there's less focus on me personally, so it's less "personal"? Or because the topic has already been brought up so I don't feel like talking about it will cause me to be judged quite so much?
Just.. all different factors, I guess.I can relate and agree completely.
Also, when I post in a thread, I don't put as much effort (although it's still quite a bit) into what I'm saying. I figure that it's very possible that my response will only be grazed over due to the fact that there are so many responses. This is much more impersonal in my opinion.
When I respond to a PM, I put more effort in both reading and responding to the person....depending on the subject matter. But if the topic of the PM is complex or serious, then it may take a couple revisions before I can actually send the "right" one out. Also, I may want to think for a while before I actually write anything down. I'm just obsessive I guess.
I have no idea if my drivel made sense. Hehe!
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