NT Social Rules that are Absolutely Ridiculous

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john93
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28 Jan 2011, 10:10 am

Kirvee wrote:

@Opal: Yeah, here in America, if your primary job is waiting tables the majority of your income comes from your tips since the minimum wage for waitstaff is generally sh***y. So not leaving a tip for them, no matter how horrible the service, is like an as*hole move on your part.

What DOESN'T make sense, though, is the amount left. My NT dad goes by a percentage system based on the quality of service (horrendous gets 10% of the bill, decent service 15%, awesome service 20%). Depending on how much we eat at any given restaurant, this sometimes means that the horrible waiters/waitresses get anywhere between $1 to $2 in tips.

Keeping strict onto a percentage seems more aspergic than NT. I'd give them in return what they deliver. They deliver awesomeness, they get money, If they deliver s**t, they get s**t (no not literally of course, as in 0$/€) . of course everything in between possible depending on the mood.

Permanence
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29 Jan 2011, 4:15 pm

I don't get why you're supposed to say sorry when someone tells you someone has died. I didn't kill them, why should I say sorry?

Kirvee
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29 Jan 2011, 5:39 pm

@Perm: I was confused by this for a little bit too, but I think it's supposed to be more like....to show that you feel sorry for them and are there for them? I guess? That's kinda what I've come to figure that means.

Though then you sometimes run into people who DON'T WANT your condolences and then you're just confused because if they don't want you to say that, what are you supposed to say?

skahthic
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30 Jan 2011, 1:57 am

syrella wrote:

I get annoyed when, just because I'm female, I'm immediately supposed to know everything about girls and women. Some examples might include anything about relationships, make-up, gossip, fashion etc. It bugs me to no end, especially as I most of the time have no clue why your girlfriend is mad and hasn't called you back.

I don't get the thank-you card thing, either, but I've gotten better at writing them thanks to my mom. She used to have to beg me to write them. While I still don't really see the point, at least I'm in the habit now.

Also, it's really annoying when people say one thing, and they really mean another. If you want to say something, say it directly. There's no need to run circles around the issue and get mad when I don't follow. I wish people would be more honest.

i only know what i know... but yeah, people seem to think that one woman speaks for all women. Silly, really...

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30 Jan 2011, 7:51 am

I don't understand why girls get angry at their best friend if the guy they like happens to like the best friend instead. Who cares? And chicks start WAR over crap like this!

Mar1976
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30 Jan 2011, 4:52 pm

When every day the same people ask, "Hi, how are you today?" if you answer and say "fine thanks" it's not good enough; or, as I've learned over the years you should do, say "fine thanks, how are you?" that's not good enough either.

I get the premise behind the question, but I don't understand why my answers don't seem to fulfill their needs and irk them so much; why should I elaborate if they've only asked me a simple question which only ever has one of two answers; i.e. I'm fine or I'm not so great today. If they want my life story, I might, if put under pressure give it to them, but they've got to blo*dy ask for it!

Maybe that's just me.....

jdn74
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01 Feb 2011, 12:19 am

Permanence wrote:

I don't get why you're supposed to say sorry when someone tells you someone has died. I didn't kill them, why should I say sorry?

There's more than one definition of "SORRY". In this case, saying "I'm sorry for your loss" is not an admission of guilt, but rather an acknowledgement of sympathy, pity, sorrow, grief, sadness, etc... If you were to suffer such a loss, others would be saying the same thing to you (knowing that they too have probably suffered a similar loss at some point in their lives).

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01 Feb 2011, 3:04 am

I dont get why when sitting with a group of girls they enjoy putting on nice, pleasant, polite, agreeable, whatever fasades. All this superficial nicety is boring. Yes I realize not all girls are like that, but the ones I hangout with are.

I dont why American society prides itself on methods of indirect communication. Why cant we just convey out messages straightfowardly? My friend went abroad to Spain, they communicate more directly. Adjusting to indirect communication was really hard for me even tho I grew up in this country.

I hate when people are manipulative

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