Which social rules do you find don't make sense?

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Well, I had problems trying to find a job in IT. If they're so stable then why is it that each one requires x amount of skills with y years of experience.

This actually makes sense now because when you eat with elbows on table, the other person next to you will keep bumping your arm while they are eating. It also gets in the way too.

Social rules...



A Wolf doesn't follow rules, he makes them.

One social rule that doesn't make sense is the expectation that a person has to schmooze in the workplace. I'm generally respectful and will greet people with "Good Morning" and "Hello," but I generally don't want to chat while I'm working. I have my own distractions to deal with, I don't need any others that aren't work-related.

Exceledon, I agree with you!

I'm such an Aspie that I don't even know what most social rules are so I cant pick one that makes the least sense.

Schmoozing is expected unfortunately

I find the "social rules" in the workplace don't make a lot of sense. Unfortunately there's a lot more to it than turn up, do your work and go home. If only it was that straightforward.

In the work environment two rules that don't make sense to me:

1. You are expected to go to celebrate the events of your boss and other co-workers but when it's your turn they make no time for you. When you express how hurt and disappointed you were, the boss, co-workers either make excuses or become extremely defensive.
2. The boss can get gifts along with honoring their employees for special accomplishments such as weddings, baby showers, etc or rather be there for them if they are in the hospital for a certain surgery. If they don't like a certain employee, however, they overlook them and just ignore their situation - I find that to be so rude and baffling being that everyone should be treated equally.
3. People who say they are going to hire you but are turned off by something about you but rather than being honest, they keep doing things like postponing the start date or having or bothering to communicate. Rather, you are the one who is always calling them. Employers like this make me so mad because they get our hopes up.


In terms of friendships:
1. You have to be in a certain age group just to be accepted
2. People who give your friends ago to you attending their parties and other get-togethers and are as nice to you as can be but then rip on you behind your back to your friend about your flaws and how they dislike you
3. People who don't want to come to your gatherings but show up feeling miserable and giving off negative vibes and still expect you as the host to be okay with it.

Yeah, if only. People will take umbrage at the notion that I don't want to talk to them, like it's something personal. This society really loves to shame a person for being a solitary individual.

Others that don't make sense to me are:
1. If you sit at your desk at lunchtime, that implies that you are "Anti-social."
2. You're not allowed to state the obvious or people use sarcasm with you or make snide remarks
3. You have to dress and look more like the role of your gender to get talked to or you have to look professional or people will ignore you. (I am a woman: long hair, dresses or feminine wear with make-up)
4. You can't ask a woman if she is pregnant

Another good one is to 'never correct your boss'. Unfortunately I learned that rule the hard way in my late teens.

1. If you are over 18, you can only be friends with people in your own age group and you can't be friends with people if there is a significant age barrier
2. If a person gets up at a party from their spot momentarily, you can't take their spot
3. If you work for a large department with several sub-departments and you get an invite from another sub-department where you don't work with or really know any of the other colleagues, it's natural to ask your own sub-department who is going who knows the people involved in the party. Otherwise, don't go, sign a card. If you do go, the people there can be surprised about a stranger attending their event.
4. If you are throwing a potluck, I have learned that your guests can be spontaneous in what they bring unless you find out who is bringing what or if they ask you to what they want you to bring. Otherwise, you get three people bringing the same food.

I admit that I love wearing cosmetics....dresses? Not at work.

Talking to people? I try to set it up to where I'm the listener.

Being yelled at when I talk when I "tone, but when I call others out for it, I get yelled at.

• A pleasant lie is preferable to an unpleasant truth.

• Invisible social boundaries that vary depending on one's economic status.

• Looking (not staring) at a woman's exposed flesh makes you a creep or a perv; if you don't, you're gay or a prude.

• Handshakes with the left hand are rude; always use your right hand.

• Kicking an 18-year old son out of the house, and then waiting until a daughter is 21 to ask her to leave.

• Shaking hands with someone in church who would never acknowledge you on the street.

• Receiving a last-minute invitation from someone who expects you to drop everything and accept.

• It's rude to compliment a woman on her appearance, and even more rude if you don't.

• When friends are making plans in front of you, it does not necessarily mean that you are invited, too.

• Fat people are allowed to give unsolicited free advice on dieting to skinny people, but skinny people can get in trouble for giving unsolicited free advice on dieting to fat people