Do you think most people are annoying?

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No, I generally find people more interesting than annoying.

Yes I do. Most people I tend to see as intellectually inferior so are not worth listening to or talking to because they wont really grasp what I say. I know its wrong to think that way but cant help it.

Yes, I find quite a few people annoying. The strange thing is, many annoying people don't know that they are annoying or don't care. (And they accuse the Aspie community of lacking social skills!)

aikoinazuma, NTs are the biggest hypocrites when it comes to social skills. They can say and do whatever they want, but if one of us does it, their whole damn world falls apart.

True, and I have found that NTs aren't as strong as us either. In fact I would describe the average NT as a wimp compared to most aspies. No offense to any NTs that post on here but I have never found most NTs as having the strength or stamina as compared to what most Aspies might have.

Yes sometimes some of them, act like I am a football game and they are a sports announcer

For example

"You wiped your mouth on your sleeve!"
"You bit the sticker off the apple!"
"You go around all hunched over!"

When they (think that they) did something good or correct, they act like I have a moral duty to treat them like they successfully dragged my worthless corpse out of a burning building

For example

"The reason why I asked if you were ok was not because I was nosy or because I was trying to figure you out but because I care"

"It's good people care about you"



What

The speakers attitude was like he truly believed that he deserved a massive amount of credit for grunting "are you ok"

There is only one of him. He is not "people"

Later he had the nerve to tell me that "we would rather not have you doing yoga. It's distracting"



So apparently, it's "I care" as long as you do not do anything "distracting"?

How about "we would rather not have you continue living. It's distracting"

Yes it is "distracting" when I do yoga. However it is also "distracting" when I continue living

The speaker acted like he was being kind and respectful, but maybe he was totally condescending

Instead he could have said "when you wrongfully do unskillful yoga, you are distracting me. Cod you please stop,".

Then I would have been happy to stop

So see?

The main point was not my yoga. The main point was his massive ego, reflected in his choice of words

This was a meditation meetup, in a yoga studio

Noone else was doing yoga

There was no sign that said seiza and Anna only

The speaker acted like I was annoying


But maybe he was annoying

If you do not passive aggressively tolerate the slightest thing, then maybe the speaker only cared about himself

And if he did "care" about me, it did not earn nearly as much credit as he claimed

He had a Master's degree

He was a Chaplain

He is more educated than me




This happened February 2011 and I have yet to get over it

As of December 2017

Furthermore he did not even "care" enough to say "excuse me" instead of "huh". Almost everyone says "huh" and "what" to me

So maybe they do not "care" that much, or at all , about me

To elaborate on my previous post. I just can't stand people a lot of the times. I hate how they talk to me as if I give two poops about them. I have to put on my fake happy act just so that I don't come out as an a-hole. But past my smile is just a swirl of bitter hate ready to burst open.

I do hate trying to not be annoyed by society especially in a public setting. Sometimes I just want people to shut up and stop treating me like I'm their friend as if I know them. It's a battlefield with these feelings sometimes and I don't like having to fake my emotions in certain situations but I do it to avoid most serious conflictions.

Honestly the only people who've ever seen me truly happy are my friends and my significant others. Those guys don't annoy or upset me. They receive my loyalty and utmost care and kindness and I know I can let my true emotions show, even in an argument without them seeing me as the Devil afterwords.

Not everyone, all the time

But "most people" almost all the time

Appear to have way too much energy

Laughing, jokes

Laughing at me because "she's a weirdo". Autism, transgender and et cetera

When I do or say the slightest thing they do not like they act like I just invented the worlds worst felony

But they act like I have no right to criticize them

They act like they are so awesome

They have big egoes

They have the nerve to say "what" and "huh" instead of "excuse me"

They act like "what" is the etiquette equivalent of "excuse me"

They are homophobic


They ask if I am Vietnamese. They act like they are doing me a personal favor by asking

They take their dogs off leash. That is illegal

They act like they were not doing anything wrong

They act like they have never done anything wrong before in their entire lives

They act like the greatest thing since sliced bread

They talk too much and too loud

They are judgmental

When they make a positive judgment they expect a "thank you", as if they did me a favor. Some extremely condescendingly compliments. "I know you're smart" in a patronizing tone. A professional counselor too. Ought to get canned. Sacked. Fired

When they make a negative judgment they expect an apology and fixing the alleged problem

They accused me of "stealing" (REI, Andronico, Safeway)

When it turned out they were wrong, they did not apologize or make reparations. Then it was like no big deal

Double standards

SFBUM, it's hard being around such annoying bumholes like you described. Don't give up your yoga routine over them.

I don't like it when people say what/huh when they don't hear someone either. It sounds rude to me, but others don't seem to mind.

TheAP

it has more to do with how, some of them, some of the time, act like every time they have a thought or emotion, they have a moral obligation to broadcast it to the world. within 10 seconds. lest the sky fall down. they act like every time they have a thought or emotion, it is as important as the latest greatest scientific invention.

then when i say something, they half listen. they grunt "huh", "what", "eh", "ha" and "hm" instead of "excuse me."

as if i did them a disservice by having the nerve to flap my fat trap and thus hence hurt their ears with my unnecessary noise.

then they mishear what i said and they misunderstand what i said. like i said "fine" and they heard "fun".

Actually yes.

Most people I ever met are future Soylent Green. Humans in general are not only fake and selfish, but also evil and merciless. I think I had been much happier being a girl in a first World country, at least I'd retain a certain degree of emotional innocence and purity to make life a bit more bereable. Men are more logic than sentimental, and being too awaken makes you see their putrid immorality more easily. If you think about it History is just a succession of wars and carnages.

I also hate gays with a passion lately, but that's maybe because I phoned my ex for Christmas and that was a terrible idea.

They deliver judgmental, condescending lil compliments

"You are the strongest girl I know" (sexist)


"You are the smartest person I know"

"You are the most flexible person I know"
This one, an aikido instructor had the nerve to tell me. Four times in a row. He acted like he did me a personal favor by telling me


The statement were peculiar, in that the speaker did not go around measuring sit and reach . Stanford Binet IQ score or benchpress

Comments about my appearance, moral character, IQ score

"You don't care about anyone except yourself!" A homophobe had the nerve to tell me

It appeared that he"cared" about and "helped" a lot of people

But all of the people he cared about were similar to him

And they also cared about him

While not that many "care" about me, and not a lot of "caring"

So maybe I am not as terrible as he made it sound like I was

And maybe he was not as splendid as he acted like he was

He told me that eleven years ago, and five hundred miles away. And just a couple weeks ago, I finally figured it out

But at the time, he sounded correct

It makes me wonder, what other misconceptions someone has the nerve to make about me

They (neurotypical cisgender) act like they overpower me because they outnumber me



But the solar system contains more convicted murderers than Nobel prize winners

It doesn't necessarily follow that the activity with more participants must be more morally justified

They act like they have never done anything wrong before in their precious lil lives

Then when I do something they do not like, they act like I just invented the world's worst felony



Not everyone all the time

But almost everyone, almost all the time






All they care about is money

Some of them act like if you are not similar to them, you have no rights or emotions

Homophobic, superficial, egocentric

I don't find people annoying, unless they're making unnecessarily loud noises. If it's a child demanding nonstop attention, I find it distressing rather than annoying, because I feel I'm the one at fault, for lacking patience.

I used to find people annoying but I've tried to be more tolerant.

I remember being at work when i overheard two people talking at the photocopier. They went on and on talking about the difficulty using it and the paper and stuff. It was so annoying and mundane and boring. What were they possibly getting out of the conversation? So inefficient!

It turned out that the husband of one of them had died 2 days earlier, she was still in shock and coming into work anyway. She was grieving, desperate. She couldn't focus properly and had difficulty with the copier. Her friend noticed and went to her aid. I realised this 'small talk' wasn't about the copier at all. This person was showing support to a grieving friend in pain.

I then realised that people communicate in ways that are much more sophisticated than i understood. What i thought was stupid, simple and annoying turned out often to be far from it, its just that I'm blind to it.

I now try hard not to think of people as stupid or annoying and realise it might actually be me. It takes some maturity i guess.

Not all people but there are certain kinds who I find annoying

1. The ones that who that constant laugh of ignorance and tear you down
2. Pretentious ones who think it's okay to talk down to you by correcting you over this or that
3. People who sit and whisper when someone is trying to have a teaching session
4. People who chew gum loud