Why don't you like eye contact?

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It gets me nervous.

It makes me feel a powerful panicky feeling, particualarly in job interviews i cryed at my last trial i was overcome.

it is uncomfortable, mysteriously hard and I feel like they judge me if they meet me eye to eye.

i feel someone could tell from my eyes what im thinking and i also start to feel awkward ,i sometimes am not sure how long to look at the person incase they think im staring or incase the start to imagine what thoughts im having by my facial expressions just like im trying to work out theirs with the odd glance that i can give. or i do the overstaring with the smile on my face wich i now think must look a bit weird sometimes but its easier than keeping up with other peoples facial expressions, eyes are the windows to our souls and i dont want everyone to know how i feel if i did i would just tell them.

Cool thread. My kid's in autism intervention and they work on eye contact all the time. But, the fact that all of you struggle with it, yet are rounded and productive tells me that the eye contact thing may be overblown and people can do well overall, even if they don't give it. I hear Bill Gates rarely makes eye contact.

I don't have a problem with eye contact, it's just not a natural thing for my eyes to do, and so I have to remind myself to do it all the time. I can do it though, and if it makes NTs happy, I'm happy that I'm accepted, even if it's for eye contact.

Funny, I didn't even know I had a problem with eye contact. I never look anyone directly in the eyes. I remember some woman was mad at me once because she thought I didn't pay attention to her, so she asked me what the color of her eyes were, and I didn't have a clue, even though I'd known her for a while.

And to honest, I have no clue why I don't look people in the eye.

Looking into someone's eyes is like looking into a mirror with no reflection. I see them, they see me, and nothing happens...so what?

It's pointless and I can't focus my brain on what's important at the moment, because it's too busy analyzing eyeball shape, color and movement. I hate it.

Fear factor on eye contact must look at the wall need to see something but not those big scary eyes, why should I all i get is neves why shoild i look into peoples eyes when i cannot gain insight into the purpose of which other see when they look into eachothers eyes. It is pointless. I could stare into there eyes and be distracted and miss almost everything they say. I want a relaxed conversation and remember it so that is why i stare at the walls not those big watchful eyes.

I try to avoid eye contact more because I don't really know when to stop. I worry that I'll end up staring and come across confrontational when I am only trying to say hello.

I only avoid eye contact when I'm scared someone will judge me (which is most of the time). Otherwise, I still usually don't make eye contact, but when I remember to, I do. Eye contact feels really weird, but not in a bad way. It's actually fun to see the way people are caught off-guard when I, being someone who's never made eye contact with them before, actually look them in the eye.

only to people who i dont know or i am uncomfortable with because there strangers, unless i know there intentions already like a doctor or something like that

I don't like eye contact because I have AS.