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Berserker
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01 Feb 2008, 10:35 pm

I guess I can't ask them to teach me social skills then.



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01 Feb 2008, 10:38 pm

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I know... They treat me a like a NT.

I can SO relate, no one could even consieve how frustrating it is to live for us, they would never understand even if they were informed about it. My parents seem to understand more than they used to but they are still very ignorent in many other ways.. All it does is make things worse.. But then what is there to do about it? Basically nothing imo..


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01 Feb 2008, 10:39 pm

I guess not. :(

That's why I feel very sorry for you.


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02 Feb 2008, 2:44 am

Berserker wrote:
I can't get involved in things outside my family though.

But why? I don't believe, that it is impossible to find some interesting activity and people inside your town. Mudboy have supposed some probable and reasonable variants.
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I guess I can't ask them to teach me social skills then.

Probably, your parents even non guessing that you need special explanations about usual social situations. It is reasonable not to wait their "guessure" but directly ask about learning some social skills and explain some "natural" (for NT) things. Try to speak with your parents frankly about your problems connected with AS (may be they are trying to help but don't know how).
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I know... They treat me a like a NT.

May be my opinion is strange, but it is not too bad: it means that you are looking not too 'strange', 'weird' or 'fallen from the Moon' and have a good chance to become more adapted.



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02 Feb 2008, 8:28 am

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Mum won't take me out of the town.


cant you go out of town yourself?



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02 Feb 2008, 2:29 pm

She's 17.. soon she'll be able to make her own path. Hang in there berserker, it does get better. much much better.



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02 Feb 2008, 8:00 pm

I'm 16. Not 17. And when I'm 18, I'll still be living at home.



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03 Feb 2008, 6:07 am

just because you live at home doesnt mean you cant start making your own paths.



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03 Feb 2008, 6:11 am

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just because you live at home doesnt mean you cant start making your own paths.


Mhm... You're right.



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03 Feb 2008, 6:25 am

at least try and find a path for you in life thats what your years of youth are for really.



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03 Feb 2008, 6:27 am

Well... I want to be an artist. Is that a path I can take?



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03 Feb 2008, 7:04 am

yes if you really want to be an artist give it a go, i cant say you'll definately succeed but you can so its worth a shot.



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03 Feb 2008, 9:42 am

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Well... I want to be an artist. Is that a path I can take?


Yes. It might be difficult to do it for a living, but that's what day jobs are for. What type of art are you interested in?


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03 Feb 2008, 5:45 pm

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Yes. It might be difficult to do it for a living, but that's what day jobs are for. What type of art are you interested in?


Drawing.



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03 Feb 2008, 5:46 pm

Do you like to draw anything in particular?


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03 Feb 2008, 6:01 pm

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Yes. It might be difficult to do it for a living, but that's what day jobs are for. What type of art are you interested in?


Drawing.


I draw sometimes, too. It's a great hobby, fairly cheap, creative, good for your fine motor skills (this is why I originally took it up), etc. I usually copy either paintings or engravings (from books) that I like, though I have drawn live models (pretty hard, especially if it's a race against the clock). What type of drawing do you do?


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