How do you tell people you are Aspie?

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How do I tell people that I have AS? I don't. Because whenever I'm around other people and they hear the word "Asperger", they laugh and say, "heh, that person's got ass-burgers! Doesn't look like they've got a Big Mac comin' out their a** to me!". The only people who actually know of my diagnosis are my immediate family and my shrink.

I don't tell them.

Only my former shrink whom I don't go to any more and myself have knowledge of it.
When she told me that she strongly suspected me of having Aspergers I could not believe her, thus I quit the very day because I thought she had made an error. I was not convinced that she could have acquired such knowledge about me with the limited time we had spent together.

Later I began to ponder upon the possibility that I actually might have had AS all along, and it all made sense with my previous experiences and the "now me".

I will never tell anyone about it because I don't like the special attention it brings, and I would not want to be looked at as any "different" than I already am. I don't feel as if it plays a major role in my life, thus it doesn't bother my daily life greatly.

I only told a couple of close friends and one of them was said "I KNEW IT ALL ALONG" and the topic never came up again. The other friend only had a very vague idea so she looked it up on the internet and then told me "you can't have it cuz you're too nice. It says that people with AS lack empathy. You're always feeling sorry for people."

I told her that we have a hard time seeing other people's points of view but I disagree with the part about lacking empathy and decided to include a discussion in my website about the difference

http://www.myaspergerslifestory.com/my_ ... rgers.html

Allie Kat

I have told some people but not at work. Most people have a wrong understanding of Aspergers. When they find out and that I belong to MENSA and that my IQ is clocked at 153 most of them think. So that is wrong with him. My humor is obscure and I have to be very careful around people because I do misunderstand their expression or the way they say things. Sometimes I am good in a social setting sometimes I am not. Now I do well on Face Book and people know that I am blessed with Aspergers. There just sometime tell someone you have Aspergers is TMI. It just causes you more problems.

I used to not tell anyone, but now I tell everyone because it's better than having them wonder why I act the way I do. I mean, I try to fake NT, but it takes a long time for me to figure out what to say, and I sometimes end up crying even though I'm trying desperately not to, so those traits give it away that I have a disability. Most people don't know what AS is, so I have to tell them.

The best way to say it:
You (after an Aspie moment): You know how I sometimes act a little unusual?
Your friend: You don't act unusual!
You: Well, sometimes I do things most people wouldn't do. It's because I have Asperger's Syndrome.
Your friend: What's Asperger's Syndrome?
You: It's something that affects my social skills. It also makes it really hard for me to keep it together when I'm upset.
Your friend: Oh, that's fine. Everybody has differences.

I don't tell people offline because very few people here have a clue what autism or AS is. People think it means mentally retorted. Even the psych & docs here who are supposed to know about it seem to think it's something similar to being retorted

I don't. It's not a good move imo, because the condition comes with so many preconceived ideas. It makes people feel like they have to be careful with me for something. When I was in hospital all the staff knew, as it was on my record. All of them had read a profile on the disorder or something on a pamphlet. Suddenly everyone on the ward was an expert! Here were just some of the jems that came from these health 'professionals'

Nurse: "Not feeling well today, Xayah? I'd like hug you. But I know people like you don't like that."

Nursing student: "*sarcastically* that photo on your chart is charming!" (the idiot actually thought I didn't understand sarcasm!)

Nurse: "so you're at uni? Ooh, I bet you're studying engineering!"
Me: "nah, I hate maths."
Nurse: *horribly confused* "b...but the doctor said you have AS..." *checks chart*

Physio: "yeah, my brother in law has AS...he's very unpleasant...

Physio: "girls with AS don't really exercise..."
Me: *does chin up*
Physio:


I am a human being, not a diagnosis. I prefer to keep it that way

I don't. It would be like saying that you have 25 rupees. Legend of Zelda??? No, I'm Pakistani you idiot! If someone doesn't know what Asperger's is...why tell them you have it? Besides, it should only come up if someone you trust inquires about your differences. If a guy you don't like asked you why you are so weird yet intriguing, tell him you have a yeast infection. Saying Asperger's will only make him want you more.