Aristophanes wrote:
They will respond just like dogs will. If the human is panting and begging, constantly by your side that means it wants a treat-- so if the human is female you find something about her appearance and compliment it, and it's male you mention how strong he is. When you first meet another human you need to sniff their butt to tell if they're the "same" as you, so you talk about the weather, and fake interest in the latest sh***y movie. This will show that you can be one of their "pack". It's really very inane and a waste of time imo, but the vast majority of humans still need those animal cues to operate. Add in that society trains people to respond to instinct, not thought, and it's easy to see why humanity has such dire problems...ugh, so glad I live out in the boonies and completely insulated from it all, mostly.
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knew I must have had a lost twin! Nice to meet you sir...
It took me so many years to understand that social interactions are about bonding at an emotional level and establishing hierarchy - the instinctual level.
Long gone are the days when I thought someone asking me about what movies or TV shows I like is actually interested in the answer, while they're just starting the mysterious and complicated social dance where instinct and perception will shape any future relationship and set it in stone. In most cases, those seconds and minutes at the beginning will carry more weight then emotion, reason and any fact proving the first impression might have been wrong.
Yigeren, you're better off without "fair-weather" friends or that mass of acquaintances most people call friends, merely passer-bys in your life, pushed towards you by their own desires, expectations and hopes, or worst case scenario, mere drive to get something from and out of you.
Deep, significant relationships of any kind are rare and precious and they are and will remain the only ones I care for. Such a thing will make you incredibly rich, yet most people aren't willing to pay anything for it.
Here on the forum you come across as a lovely and generous person and I sincerely wish you peace and happiness, by yourself or with the occasional companion
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