How many friends do you have?

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When are we all going to start taking off our clothing?
The way things are moving, it is damn well inevitable, right?

Hard to say, how many?...I had been single for most of my life...So, Mom had been my 'life-partner' until recently that i married my beloved (Aspie) husband...To date i am very close to Mom...However, the most influential woman in my life was--not Mom-- but my paternal grandma who past-away (at age 92) a few years ago...My sister and i shared the same bedroom until she married, so we share a very special bond...Even though a long distance separates us, and though we rarely see each other, we remain close at heart, and we are each other's best allie...Growing-up, i always had a (female) favorite cousin...As i have matured, i have chosen to keep Wendy as my very favorite cousin, because of the many qualities i admire in her...She is a devoted daughter, wife, mother, and grandma; so she has little time for chit-chat...Still, we check on each other regularly...To be fair, i have other cousins, males and females, with whom i have great affinity...However, our complicated lives allow only for superficial communication...Growing-up, my parents had to constantly relocate due to my Dad's employment...Interestingly, i always had one best friend (female) with whom i invariably lost contact as we moved from place to place...Perhaps, this would not have happened had we had social media...Back then, my parents would not have afforded the extraordinary expense of long distance telephone service...In recent times, i have re-connected with my best-friend from early adolescence...I was Valedictorian of our 8th grade graduating class, and she was the Spelling Bee Winner...(I still don't know how two 'brainies' ended-up been part of the In-Crowd)...LOL...Her name is Carmen, and when we communicate, i feel as if she is my true soul-mate...She is a ray of sunshine everywhere she goes with her happy, positive, and optimistic attitude...Love her!! !...I am readily willing to drive hours to see her, but the pandemic has prevented us from seeing each other...From my early 20's on, i parted ways from most of my closest friends...Most of the time, because life led us to different paths...A few times, because of some misunderstanding (NTs also have misunderstandings ) ...Sadly, in at least one or two cases, it was due to a mayor disagreement...It is always sad to lose a friend, as they are irreplaceable...People change...This is a fact of life...I think i was the one constantly changing, leaving others behind...Still, for decades, i have counted with true friends--males and females of all ages--who have been a CONSTANT in my life...My friendships have survived the test of time, probably because of mutual respect and mutual acceptance...Worthy of mention are Blanca, Gloria (Gorgeous Glow), who i just lost to Alzheimers, Jackie, Tere, Fernando, Danny, and my princess Elisa...We all live miles apart from each other...We all lead busy lives...I never see them, and i hardly ever talk to them...Still, they remain very close to my heart...Oh!! !...And my beloved niece and nephew who i helped raised...They did not come-out of my womb, yet they are so-o-o much part of me that if they suffer, i suffer...And last but not least, my beloved husband...Just this week, i cut my finger cutting onions, minor cut but a lot of blood...I was so scared, i rushed to my husband...And he rushed for the alcohol and for our emergency kit to help me...Mom witnessed his act of kindness, and she said, "Not many men are like him; most men would not care"...I know i am very blessed to have him ...I may never have a meeting of the minds with my beloved (Aspie) husband due to our difficulties communicating...A meeting-of-the-minds is uncommon even among NTs, anyway...As long as my husband and i remain close at heart, i am happy...Just last night, i watched the movie Edward Scissorhands which sadden me greatly...Then i thought about my beloved husband...How could a supposedly 'incomplete' man complete me???...For the record, before meeting my husband, i felt incomplete...As if i had a deep hole in my chest the size of the Grand Canyon, which i tried to fill-up with many friends...But i only needed one, The One...Finally, i am complete...My beloved husband, who just happens to be the most handsome Aspie, completes me...Greetings from California you all...And thank you for this interesting thread...

For real guys, have a read of this article and take to heart that I consider many of you here my friends because I understand the feeling of being an outsider to humanity and a lot of the pain we all feel.
https://www.bakadesuyo.com/2017/02/how- ... -an-adult/