Who has no friends?

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Sometimes it seems that, to most people, anything beyond football, pubs, clothes, makeup or television is a complicated topic. And even within *those* topics, it seems like there's a limit on how 'deep' you're allowed to go.

I have no friends I have employees .

I've no friends at the moment either, which is something I'd like to change as I feel in danger of becoming a recluse.

I have always found making friends to be difficult, but usually manage to find a few people that I can relate to. But the trouble is that we've moved around a lot and nobody bothers to keep in contact with me, despite effort on my side. (We've been in our current house a year)

Also, since I gave up work (to look after my young children), I just don't have as much opportunity for social interaction. I had hoped to get to know some of the other Mums at my children's school, but most are frankly unfriendly.

Anyway, tomorrow I'm going to enroll on a couple of evening classes. Hopefully I'll get to know some people through that.

I have alot of aquaintances and people i talk to at soccer and school and stuff, but we never really get together, very rarley. I mean my little sister gets more phone calls then me. But I have two people who i consider my "best friends". We get together all the time. One lives next door and we hang out nearly everyday and the other one gets together with me between soccer events.

And no one really talks to me on my soccer team though, but i've been very numb and depressed latley, so by the time i get to practice i have no energy to talk to them. And they are all rich so they always talk about their fancy cells phones and ipods and big screen tv's and extravagent parties, so i dont have much in common with them.

i actually just have one or 2 friends outside of work i have no actual friends in work there all pretty mean 2me in work and i hate it my main frendz r adults and im gud frends wit our managr and ppl tink i tel n dem cz im frendz wit d mngr

pls hlp
laura

I just moved from California to Oklahoma
sadly i havent made any friends

I have no friends, only friendly acquaintances from work or study groups. The few times I have tried to develop a friendship, romantic or otherwise, with a friendly acquaintance, everything goes downhill. I get anxious thinking about what a friend is "supposed to do." In the end, the person who I would like to have as a friend gets annoyed and rejects me. Behind the walls of school and work, I still have hope in developing relationships to further my career and personal goals (not selfish, just minus the emotional connection). As for anything romantic, maybe I should follow the advice of that poster who is from the University of Illinois.

(slightly off topic)

I once had a friend from school when I was 14 or so. He moved to my street. We'd often walk home together but had almost no contact at school, he was part of another group. We actually got on okay... but I was timid.

He turns up at my door and says he's forgotten his key and can't get in, and his parents will be out for some time.

On this day I was cooking dinner for just me and my brother. My parents were out (had they been in, this would have caused no problems)

I only knew I had enough food for 2 people, and didn't know what to do. I offered him cereal...... I don't know why I didn't just offer him our food and I feel bad for it even now. He stayed upstairs while me and my brother ate our food downstairs.

My friend gets a call to say his parents are home and he goes off to eat there. This was maybe 2 hours in total.


And that was it. At the time, I didn't know what to do. I was scared of eating in front of people I didn't know too. But heck, from that one thing, he basically didn't speak to me again. I think his mum couldn't understand my lack of hospitality either :/ sigh what a mistake.

Other incidents like this I still turn over and over again in my mind, even years past...

I have about 20-30 friends, and they are either (a) people from high school, (b) people from work, (c) friends of other family members, or (d) people from church.

I don't go to church that often anymore because the pastor at my church moved out-of-state, and the guy who replaced him isn't even there half the time.

Tim

I have no friends, and I have never had any. I don't really long for social contact that much, though. Problem is, I'd really like to meet a girlfriend, and that seems hard to do without friends, or people to "hang out" with.

I have no friends but only online ones. Wait I forgot, I have my ex boyfriendf as my friend.

I have a few acquaintanceships but no friends.

Exactly. Unlike a neurotypical, I have a hard time with these subjects because I don't think on that level. Unfortunately, 99.9% of conversation I overhear are about the subjects you just mentioned.

I get along with "computer nerds" pretty well actually because we can have enjoyable conversation, but there just isn't any of them in the area where I live.



That is similar to what plagued all my short-lived friendships throughout highschool. I would try to become friends with friendly acquaintences. I would become almost too loyal to them. Usually our friendship would develop to the point where I would invite them to hang out or do something, and that is where they always went downhill. I was always turned down. They always came up with an excuse as to why they couldn't hang with me or do whatever I was inviting them to do. They must have sensed my anxiety. Always within a month after the invitation, I no longer had a friend, but an enemy.

I like to be around people.
In k-1 i was not very social yet i manage to make a few friends including a girl then i moved to the parkway school distric in St. Louis
2-5 was rough i was a social outcast i had a few good freinds most early on would only castualy be with me at school, mostly i would only play with em after school because playing with me, B.J. was not a cool thing to do. later i made 2 good friends who hated eachother that was fun
6-12 The Kids in Ames Iowa are more accepting of me mostly i have casual associaltions with groups of closer friends. I rarely do things with them after school. In middle school i joined cross country and choir. I can't sing or run well but i enjoyed being part of a group. cross country was a very social sport for my grade there was a good 50 seniors on the team in a class of about 400. The girl who i had not seen since 1st grade moved to ames my senior year
In college im very social i hang out in various rooms and know another guy with AS two doors down who is friendly and quotes mounty python and red vs blue at random times. Of course not everyone likes me far from it i weird people out and get comments when i randomly change the subject. I have had to make it clear that telling me that im being weird directly is not rude,plus if they passively let me do things that annoy it is more harmful. I have problems with personal space, talking randomly, and being unwelcome.

know that ive done i had problems with not being around people late at night when most of my floor mates were asleep. I go to an enginnering school and guys tend to be a lot less understanding of me being me than girls. I've never had a girlfriend and don't know if i want to put that kind of work into a relationship

Still i know what it is like to not be able to make friends. just remember talk to lots of people and the ones that don't go insane are good friend canidates

im one of them, i have a million "friends" but not one friend. at least not atm. im allways vague and distand and gloomy, and i allways believe they cant really like me anyway. so then i leave it up to them and then they think that i dont wan it. this happens everytime. but i think im somewhat getting closer to a few "friends", as in i talk to them more then once a week on msn and get to see them on rare occasion.
ok well...thats pathetic really.

No friend's just A******s who I THOUGHT WERE MY FRIENDS i hate dem sooooo much