How Lonely are you? Try the UCLA Loneliness scale

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Scored 31. More than I expected.

I don't usually feel lonely but tonight I don't need a bloody test to tell me that I am. 27 by the way.

I like how the test doesn't just give you the answer, whoever made it puts in a bit of actual advice. It's not much but still....
I like the use of "right now" because it puts it in your mind, to do it now and not just think "oh yeah, maybe I should talk to someone. I'll do it later". Instead, you're already in a state of mind about it happening now.

Anyway, this sounds about right for me, because I love being alone but I still get lonely sometimes. Especially when there isn't really anyone I can talk to about certain things.

You scored a total of 27


Moderate Loneliness

You answered this quiz consistent with people who are suffering from moderate loneliness.

A certain amount of loneliness is a normal part of most people's lives. But when your feelings of loneliness can become a bit overwhelming or more serious than usual -- like now -- it may be a sign that something isn't quite balanced in your life.

You may find that you could benefit by trying to reach out to others in your life -- right now. A close friend or family member whom you trust and talk to can go a long way in helping to relieve feelings of loneliness in many people.

I got 27. I don't usually feel very lonely, even though I am quite solitary. I think because I devote so much time. And energy to my work, I tend to shut people out. But then I really enjoy solitude as well. I just know that too much of it is bad for me.

I think just being in the presence of other people is enough for me to get by (unless I don't like them). I like going to libraries and museums because you can be with people without having to talk to them. Just having them there, sharing the same space and sharing the experience can make a big difference.

34 - Extreme Loneliness, oh o:

27. Hmmmmm

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36


Extreme Loneliness

You answered this quiz consistent with people who are suffering from extreme and severe loneliness.

A certain amount of loneliness is a normal part of most people's lives. But when your feelings of loneliness can become a bit overwhelming or more serious than usual -- like now -- it may be a sign that something isn't quite balanced in your life.

You may find that you could benefit by trying to reach out to others in your life -- right now. A close friend or family member whom you trust and talk to can go a long way in helping to relieve feelings of loneliness in many people.

well
whaddya say

I scored a healthy 32.

36. At least I'm not alone in my loneliness, if this thread is anything to go by!

I scored 31.

23...but I've made my peace with being alone, that's a big factor. How often it bothers me is a lot less today than it might have been 20 years ago.

Nobody ever calls me--except family.

28. But...well, I don't know. I like certain kinds of conversations/friendships, and I do really feel the lack of those -- just one person around who really gets me and we're in a constant running conversation that's pretty intense. I've had that with various boyfriends. And even though I work very much on my own -- quiet office of my own at work, quiet office at home -- I do talk to a lot of people there, spend hours at it, and it's pretty convivial. And there's teaching/mentoring, which is very social but in a specific way, and then there are people I hang out with routinely. And there's continuous online hubbub. And I probably spend, oh, 3-4 hours a day with my daughter, all told, just in the house together, though again the roles are pretty clearly defined. But I've spent so much of my life doing things on my own that it feels completely normal -- movies, out to eat, shopping, walking around, etc.

I don't have much family -- after my grandma dies I expect I'll hardly ever hear from them -- so there isn't the sort of constant bath of family sociability that most people seem to have. Again, though, if I had that one-other-person sort of conversation, I think I wouldn't miss the rest.

I was thinking about it today, though, friends who do go home and have husbands there. And I realized that (1) actually their husbands don't really like talking much; and (2) they (the women) all seem to have to sort of work around the edges of things that upset their husbands, like, say "I'm going out for a couple of hours, could you mind the kids". I'm not really convinced things are any better for them, though after a while I wonder if they actually kind of like the constraints their husbands impose on their lives. Probably do.

You scored a total of 26