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07 Feb 2008, 3:57 pm

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Well, going to the library won't help with making friends.

But working in the library may be better than sitting at home with computer. You may have some conversations with another people in library. And it is impossible to know exactly where you will find some interesting people and friends.



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07 Feb 2008, 6:24 pm

And how am I supposed to talk to people without getting nervous?



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07 Feb 2008, 6:36 pm

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And how am I supposed to talk to people without getting nervous?

I understand your feelings. But if you talk to people more often this uncomfortable feeling will become weaker and less annoying. And in what social situations do you feel anxiety: e.g. is it easy for you to buy something (and talk to seller) or ask the road?

P.S. Library is a quiet place and I don't think that you will be too nervous in it.



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07 Feb 2008, 6:47 pm

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Well, going to the library won't help with making friends


Correct :star:
Unless there are others who also enjoy the quiet studious quality of a library they could be book buddys im all for it :thumleft:


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07 Feb 2008, 6:58 pm

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Unless there are others who also enjoy the quiet studious quality of a library they could be book buddys im all for it

Sometimes you can find not only "book buddys", but even "glamour" students copying the whole books on xerox. Several years ago I've seen a strange freak which supposed that he is Ra and tried to convince another visitors in it in the Russian State Library (aka "Leninka").



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07 Feb 2008, 7:05 pm

I'm always nervous around people...



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07 Feb 2008, 7:20 pm

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I'm always nervous around people...

Sometimes I'm nervous around people too, especially around new people. May be a lot of extraverts think that social chit-chat is a kind of rest and having fun; for you it is a work around yourself, not very easy, but needed (because you will have some dialogs with people in further life - e.g. at work, at colledge). Social chit-chat is a skill too and it is possible to improve it and have less anxiety; but it is impossible to do it theoretically, practical work is essential.



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07 Feb 2008, 7:21 pm

im only nervous around people outside of my own species... my own species is people with severe physical disabilities... and powerchair dealers :P

EDIT: i forgot to mention.... STRAP DEALERS TOO!! !! !! !! !! !! !! do strap dealers even exist...


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07 Feb 2008, 7:21 pm

I'm confused.



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08 Feb 2008, 9:25 am

Berserker wrote:
And how am I supposed to talk to people without getting nervous?
I'm always nervous around people...
Are you nervous around other gamers?
If you see someone with a book you read or might want to read, or an author you are familiar with, make a comment to them? Tell about how you liked it, or that you like the same thing?
If you are too shy, you could ask about chatting later online, then move towards more face to face stuff?



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08 Feb 2008, 7:26 pm

I have never met another game in real life.



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08 Feb 2008, 11:00 pm

http://murraylandsyouth.com.au/Murrayla ... /Home.html
is a sad website :roll:
But it is a start. :lol:



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08 Feb 2008, 11:05 pm

get off your ass, stop playing video games, go to a park, join a basketball game



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08 Feb 2008, 11:10 pm

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get off your ass, stop playing video games, go to a park, join a basketball game


Hell no. I hate sport.



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08 Feb 2008, 11:12 pm

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get off your ass, stop playing video games, go to a park, join a basketball game


Hell no. I hate sport.


Yay! someone like me who absolutely hates sports!

I hate them for two reasons.. they have always been boring to me

and i have always for my entire life been physically incapable of sports


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08 Feb 2008, 11:14 pm

Of course sports are boring, Strapples. That's the point of them!