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So, the clerk at the gas station near my house is always really chatty whenever I go there. Yesterday, she told me I smelled good, I said it was Axe, she said she really liked it. Then, when I went back later for an energy shot, she said "Aw, you came back just to see me..."
Is this flirting, or an attempt to sell me something? If it is the former, what is the purpose of it?

Frankly, I think she's flirting. Ask her out to something mutually simple like lunch at a sandwich shop. See if she overtly expresses an interest in doing it again.

I know it sounds odd, but do your find her attractive in any way? If you want nothing more than friendship for the foreseeable future, you might need to disclose the AS factor and your level of interest so she doesn't get the wrong impression that the relationship will be something deeper than it really is.

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If it's common for her to compliment people, it's nothing,
if it's just you who are complimented you're being flirted up.

Purpose?
To engage in more intimate social interaction beyond the casual exchange of pleasantries.
Most likely due to your looks or personality.

Seems flirty. Typically would just ignore the comments of anyone in retail, but I dont see why a gas station clerk would need to be so chatty, they usually dont have any kind of sales quota they are trying to meet.

Well, I do find her *very* attractive, however I'm already in a serious relationship. I was simply curious about what she was doing, as it seemed odd to me. If she is flirting, I'm not sure how to proceed. It seems presumptuous to come right out and tell her that I am aware she is attracted to me, but...etc, etc. On the other hand, I would feel bad if I just ignored her.



I'm not sure if she does this with other people. It is a not a full-sized gas station, just a little booth that she is in. It's usually just one, sometimes 2 people in line, so I've never seen her interactions with others.

Well, smile, say thank you in a soft voice and come back a little more often,
if there's other people around listen in on what she says and if she pitches her voice when she see's you.

If you're not interested, just keep it at 'thank you' and such, the general rule in female flirting is to not be obvious and if gone unanswered it's dropped and 'denied' if you will so the most proper way would be to just take the compliments with a smile and leave it at that.

On the off-chance that she makes further advancements just tell her that you're in a relationship if she asks you out or such.
If she doesn't, then do nothing. Simple:)

I'm really no expert, but it does sound like she's flirting.
If she persists and you feel uncomfortable saying anything head on, you could possibly say "Thankyou- yes Axe is (girlfriend's name here)'s favourite." Or "It was a gift from my girlfriend." Just a mention gets the point across without being embarrassing.
I hope this helps and is kinda what you were asking for.

Okay, now I'm trying to decipher a new interaction with the same person. I went to the gas station to buy a blunt wrap. They didn't have any so I asked for a Swisher cigarillo instead. The girl gave me one and said the last time she tried to use one it just fell apart as soon as she opened it. Later, I went back to buy another one and she specifically picked one out and told it was really soft. This is good for rolling blunts. Now, my question is this: Does she smoke weed, and how exactly do I ask this?

She probably considers herself to have already told you that she smokes weed.

The next obvious step would be to ask her over some time to smoke up. Though since you're already in a relationship that's not gonna happen, right? Sir you're obviously interested, if you weren't interested then you would just ignore her and go about your day.