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I'm having a problem getting along with my therapist, and I don't think he is the right person to work with me. He is not a mean person, but he has a pushy and in your face type of a personality. Sometimes when he asks me a question, I get overwhelmed and don't know what to say, then he starts asking even more questions, and I get even more overwhelmed. I know he's trying to get me to "come out of my shell", but its not working. I've been working with this same person for over a year now, and I think its time to find a different person to work with. I don't think that pushing someone with aspergers or autism to get them to "come out of their shell" is the right thing to do. My parents keep trying to tell me to "be honest and open", but it's hard to do when your being pushed to the limit. Should I ask my parents to find a new therapist, or keep working with this person?

Sounds like you've answered the question just fine yourself. You aren't getting anywhere, yet he, the professional, hasn't changed his tack. If he hasn't figured out by now that his approach isn't working, yeah, you need a new therapist. Assuming you still need one at all.

If it's not working, it's not working.
They say all this stuff about how you need a consistent therapist, but having a consistent therapist that just isn't right for you isn't going to do any good. It takes time to develop that "therapeutic relationship" but seriously, not all therapists are right for all people. That's particularly true for asperger's... Therapists have very social jobs, most of them just aren't going to be able to understand aspies, and way too many of them let their egos get in the way of an objective opinion of whether or not they can help you.

I agree. If he can't get that he's overwhelming you, he most lightly isn't helping. Why are you seeing the therapist anyways? The reason why I ask is because he may not be the right type or personality to work with you, the reason may help pinpoint the right type of person for you to work with or even just figure out who doesn't work well with you.

I was in councilling for about a year with no progress with one councillor and then couldn't attend that one because I had to move (college), I then went to a different one about four years later (for about six sessions) and most of my emotional discord was helped (as in I could understand and deal with it better).

Have you told him that his current way isn't working for you? If you have and he's still on the same tack, go to another one instead (if you can). Overwhelming you won't help you make friends, someone who will go through social skills (explaining them) would probably help tho.

That's good you did not tolerate the sub-standard therapy. Perhaps if enough clients did this, he might get the point that his approach needs improving. Did you provide any feedback? I provided this to the last 2 therapists I left. However, the previous ones did not seem amenable so I did not feel comfortable doing it.