21 Jul 2009, 3:56 pm
21 Jul 2009, 4:09 pm
need more of those 
21 Jul 2009, 4:14 pm
where would I be without flow charts and schematics?
probably not analysing every damn thing, turning into a neurotic 
22 Jul 2009, 5:18 am
Interesting... a bit tongue in cheek, so not completely accurate.
Oh, wait a second... was it meant as a joke?!
On the subject of jokes, I don't always get aspie jokes. And I often wonder if the joke is privately understood only by the aspie, or (and more worrying) if the joke is on me. Either way, I often find my aspie hubby's jokes to be offensive or just plain incomprehensible, and when I try to get him to explain, he just can't put his finger on what the funny part was. Unfortunately, for me, a joke is only enjoyable if I can share the funniness of it with others. I mean, I have tons of stuff that's only funny to me, but, since it comes from my personal experience in the world, it's not something anyone else could appreciate, so sharing it wouldn't be enjoyable for me or my listener. And aren't private jokes that hurt or disturb others actually more akin to teasing and/or bullying? I don't like to be teased. And I seriously don't like to feel emotionally unsafe with my husband.
I don't know. It's all so hard to wrap my brain and heart around sometimes...
22 Jul 2009, 5:58 am
Brilliant diagram, thanks for bringing it on AnnaBanana!
And Im one of those boring aspies who get all the way to the "you're wrong" bar....with the addition that I dont THINK the person was trying to offend me but I emotionally interepret it as such even if I know it by common sense thats not the case. But the damage is already done to me, so.....Im wrong but I dont mind because I dont want to go to parties 
22 Jul 2009, 5:15 pm
22 Jul 2009, 7:07 pm
^ holy s**t, was that sarcasm??! !! 
now Im feeling stupid but I know I of the kind of aspies who dont understand sarcasm 
*hiding*
22 Jul 2009, 8:18 pm
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Brittany2907
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24 Jul 2009, 9:43 am
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05 Aug 2009, 3:48 pm
lol at the chart
Oh, wait a second... was it meant as a joke?!
On the subject of jokes, I don't always get aspie jokes. And I often wonder if the joke is privately understood only by the aspie, or (and more worrying) if the joke is on me. Either way, I often find my aspie hubby's jokes to be offensive or just plain incomprehensible, and when I try to get him to explain, he just can't put his finger on what the funny part was. Unfortunately, for me, a joke is only enjoyable if I can share the funniness of it with others. I mean, I have tons of stuff that's only funny to me, but, since it comes from my personal experience in the world, it's not something anyone else could appreciate, so sharing it wouldn't be enjoyable for me or my listener. And aren't private jokes that hurt or disturb others actually more akin to teasing and/or bullying? I don't like to be teased. And I seriously don't like to feel emotionally unsafe with my husband.
I don't know. It's all so hard to wrap my brain and heart around sometimes...
My sense of humour can be a bit unconventional and I keep it to myself amongst people that might find it offensive. I only started doing it when I became aware that some don't get it or find it upsetting. Is your husband aware that you find his jokes disturbing?
If he is, did you ask him why he keeps doing it? Maybe he thinks you'll get used to it or doesn't realise how much it bothers you. From my experience, marriage can't survive without compromise, and as an aspie I can tell you I need to fully understand the effect of my actions on others as well as their motivations in order to compromise "efficiently" - otherwise I just get confused and frustrated. I know this can be annoying and time consuming for the partner, but once I fully get the picture, I'm usually able to control myself very well.
05 Aug 2009, 4:46 pm
