How to answer a "why don't you..." question gracef

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For example, in my freshman year I would sometimes get asked out to parties because I was new. Because I never really made any friends I never got invited to anything again after that. There a couple people from those parties who are acquaintances because they remember me when I was drunk (and socializing better because of it) and sometimes when I see one of these people around I get the question.

"Why don't you come to any parties anymore?"

The truthful answer would be that I have no friends so I never get invited, but that would be a socially catastrophic response. I usually say that I am busy when this happens, but it feels to me like they can see right through that answer. Is there a better way to respond to this?

I would first ask myself "Do I want to go to the parties?" and if the answer was 'yes'

then next time they ask say "I might like to come again, when is the next one?"

If they say 'oh, next saturday' ask if you need to call anyone to let them know you are coming (always a nice thing to do) If they say 'yes, maybe you should' then call them and say '__ and _____ said there was a party on Saturday, and suggested I come, may I invite myself?' and they say "yes! " and then you say 'thanks!'. . . or they say "'erm. . ah. . .oh. . .aummm" and you say "oh, well, maybe another time, see ya' and you're done.

easy peesey. . stick to the script

'Why don't you?' 'Yes But...' Game

Uh, those "acquaintances" ARE friends, or at least they are trying to be. Just ask them when the next ones gonna be at and go with them. Make sure to drink at least enough to socialize.