Silence Breakers & Seeing Familiar People

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Hi, I have been observing NT behaviors for a while (from TV mostly, but I get a few pointers from watching others). Anyway I have a few questions for people who know the correct action for the following situations (I can never seem to learn what to do for these):

1. I am talking to someone. I can't seem to carry the conversation further. I usually give up during and awkward silence What to say/ask?

2. My NT friend and I are going somewhere together. He is normally quiet and I talk alot. Is it socially acceptable to keep quiet and just walk? I feel like I always need to keep the conversation going or else it'll be awkward even though we're good friends.

3. Around 20 feet away I spot old teacher. He/she sees me too. Two situations, what do I do when he/she's alone? What do I do when he/she's talking to someone? Sometimes I don't say hi and I feel rude.

4. I am the first one to class. Teacher is unoccupied. Say hello right?

*For number 3 & 4, can you specify if I have to greet the teacher with "Hi" or "Hello, [name]?" Knowing standard procedure helps. BTW, saying "hi" makes me sounds rude for some reason.

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1. Sadly I am same way. I don't know what to do about it and usually its just silence and the other person says they gotta go or something and walks away even if they don't really have to go somewhere.

2. I am about the same as well, but usually I am the more quiet one. I don't know if I am NT or AS or whatever, but usually its hard for me when someone else doesn't talk when I do talk. I feel like they are ignoring me even if they are my best of friends.

3. I guess walking by and waving a hand in the air can't hurt. I too am conflicted when seeing this situation many times. A simple hand wave should be okay though and acknowledged if seen and not a rude way at all to say hello without saying it at all.

4. Sure why not. Its not like anyone else is there. I run into a conflict with this though as I sometimes forget my work or not do it or something and I am asked for it.

1. a) End the conversation with something positive (it was nice talking with you) so the person remembers you positively when you may speak again instead of feeling awkward.
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b) Ask a question. Weekend plans are usually safe, or ask a question about something you know they're interested in, something you have in common like school or a common interest, or ask how a family member or mutual acquaintance is doing. All people, AS or not, usually have topics they like to be asked about if you pay attention for a while. Just try not to do what I sometimes do and ask the same question twice!

2. If you're like me, silence feels awful, but it really is ok sometimes. If your friend is often quiet he is probably comfortable with it. Go ahead and talk sometimes, but let the silence happen sometimes too.

3. Wave and give him/her a big smile. When you smile at someone they almost invariable smile back, and you get a positive reaction.

4. Yup say hello. I don't think hi is rude but use hello if it makes you more comfortable. Smile too! Take out a book and begin to prepare for class if you'd prefer to avoid further conversation, or ask how he/she is.

Hope this helps:-)